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Wednesday, June 20, 2012 – Daily News FEATURES Struggling mother shunned by family Dear Annie: I am 47 years old, and my mother is 80. I have three grown children and a 7-year-old daughter whose father is not in her life, nor does he pay child support, even though he earns a decent income. I recently have had some personal setbacks. My hours were cut at work, and I had to move out of our apart- ment because I could not afford the rent. Annie's Mailbox asked her for financial help. She said no because it would mean los- ing "her family.'' I was shocked. I thought I was her family, but apparent- ly not. I am the youngest of four sib- lings. My father left when I was in my teens, and I quit school in order to get a job. I gave Mom all of my paychecks so she wouldn't lose the house. I was the only one left at home to keep Mom company, drive her everywhere, be her confidante and help her out. I know my mother does not owe me a living, but all I'm asking for is help until I get back on my feet. I called my mother and by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar My perfectly capable mother gave my older sister control of her finances and says any assistance has to go through "Ellen.'' I refuse to ask Ellen whether I can borrow money from my own mother. My siblings just had a kidney failure could be a real shock. And it's becoming more common as the number of Ameri- cans with diabetes and high blood pressure grows. But even with this serious diagnosis you can survive and move on. A diagnosis of surprise birthday for Mom and didn't tell me. When I asked Ellen why I wasn't invited, she said I wasn't acting like a proper daughter. I never get invited to anything — wed- dings, birthday parties, holi- days, nothing. I love my mom, but it feels as if she does not care about me. I am trying to relocate and forget all of them. Still, when my mother needs a sympathet- ic ear, she calls me multiple times a day. Should I simply cut all ties and not speak to her any- more? — Middle-Aged and Underem- ployed in the Midwest Dear Middle-Aged: You are obvi- ously hurt by your family's treatment, and we cannot explain why they are so unkind. Since you cannot count on them for help, your focus should be on getting back on your feet and finding a better job. Start by pursuing child sup- port payments. Contact your state's Attorney General's Office for informa- tion, and also look into the Family Ser- vice Association (family-service.org). Dear Annie: I have a good friend in her 50s who recently started seeing "Frank.'' She seems very happy with him. I found out that Frank posted on his Facebook page something that implies the two of them had sex in a Medicare can help. The program helps pay for kid- ney dialysis as well as kid- ney transplants. Chronic kidney disease is a serious health problem in the United States. In 2010, more than 20 million Americans aged 20 and older had this disease. And in 2008, nearly 550,000 Americans were getting treated for end-stage renal disease, or ESRD, which is permanent kidney failure. Most people have to be at least 65 years old to get Medicare. But people with ESRD can get Medicare at any age. Even children with ESRD can enroll in Medicare. David Sayan Dialysis treatments help you feel better and live longer -- but they aren't a cure for permanent kidney failure. ysis, a process which cleans your blood when your kid- neys don't work. It gets rid of harmful waste, extra salt, and fluids that build up in your body. It also helps control blood pressure and helps your body keep the right amount of flu- ids. van in a parking lot late at night. Frank still lives with his parents, so I assume this posting could be true. My friend is the type who is very concerned about her reputation. Should I tell her what I saw? — Shocked Friend Dear Friend: We assume if you can see Frank's Facebook page, your friend can, as well, and probably has. (It is unlikely he would block her access but not yours.) What she does with her boyfriend is her own business, and if she objects to the posting, she will tell him. We think you should stay out of it. Dear Annie: This is in response to a letter you posted from Jenny Scala, a director for the professional floral busi- ness. I appreciate your giving equal time to different points of view, but I found it rather self-serving that some- one who profits from having flowers at a funeral should stand in judgment of the wishes of a deceased loved one who might have preferred donations to charity. one or two arrangements are more than adequate. Asking guests to donate is so much more worthwhile than flowers that will wither and die. I wholeheart- edly support donating those same flowers to hospitals after the service. — Incredulous Medicare covers kidney disease with your home dialysis treatments. And Part B covers home dialysis equipment and sup- plies – like the machine and water treatment system – as well as most drugs for home dialysis. How much would you have to pay for dialysis in a Medicare-certified facility? If you have Original Medicare, you'd pay 20% of the Medicare-approved amount for all covered ser- vices. 80%. Medicare pays the other Dialysis and kidney transplants are paid through Original Medicare. Medicare covers a num- ber of things related to dial- ysis. addresses and phone num- bers, how far certain facili- ties are from you, and what kind of dialysis services the facilities offer. You also can compare If you're admitted to a hospital for special care, Medicare covers inpatient dialysis treatments under Part A, which is hospital insurance. ESRD is treated by dial- Medicare Part B covers outpatient dialysis treat- ments and doctors' fees for outpatient care. Part B also pays for self- dialysis training, which includes instruction for you and the person helping you The following defendants were sentenced in Tehama County Supe- rior Court, according to the Tehama County District Attorney's Office: —————— ments In most cases, you can't join a Medicare Advantage plan if you have end-stage renal disease. Keep in mind that dialy- sis can be done in your own home or in a Medicare-cer- tified facility. what facility he or she works with. Or you can look for a facility on Medicare's "Dialysis Facili- ty Compare" website. It's located at medicare.gov/dialysis. The website has impor- tant information such as Ask your kidney doctor Recent State Prison Commit- • George Ray Sotello was sen- tenced to seven years in state prison for assault with a semiautomatic firearm, special allegation-use of firearm, criminal threats. Victim was at her residence when the defendant arrived home extremely angry and intoxicated. The defendant obtained a handgun and pressed it against victim's body while threatening to kill her. The defendant then fired off a round into the backyard before leaving the res- idence. • Pablo Yesai Mora was sen- tenced to six years in state prison for possession for sale of a con- trolled substance, special allega- tion-excessive quantity. An officer conducted a traffic stop on a vehicle driven by Mora. When the officer's K-9 alerted on the vehicle, a search was conduct- ed. Inside a hidden compartment officers located several packages of heroin. • Mark Steven Autry was sen- tenced to four years in state prison for failure to register: prior 290 con- viction, special allegation-prior felony. er who failed to update his registra- tion with his current contact infor- mation. Autry is a convicted sex offend- • Kari April Beatty was sen- tenced to two years in state prison for theft. Beatty was originally granted formal probation. She violated her probation when she tested positive for methamphetamine and marijua- na. • Robert Joseph Cassidy was sentenced to two years in state prison for failure to appear on own recognizance; possession of a con- trolled substance. Cassidy was released from cus- tody on his own recognizance and failed to appear in court as ordered. An officer contacted Cassidy for riding a bicycle at night without proper lighting. In Cassidy's pos- session the officer located a syringe, hydromorphone pills and other drug related paraphernalia. • Steven Donald Kuss was sen- tenced to eight months in state prison, consecutive to a two year sentence for another matter, for fail- ure to appear while on bail. Kuss was released from custody on bail and failed to appear in court as ordered. Medicare will help cover the costs of finding the proper kidney for your transplant, and the full cost of care for your kidney donor. For more details on transplants, please consult our pamphlet, "Medicare Coverage of Kidney Dialy- sis & Kidney Transplant Services" (CMS Product No. 10128). It's available online or by calling 1-800-MEDICARE. puter, you can call us, toll- free, at 1-800-MEDICARE (1-800-633-4227). Medicare Part A also helps pay for hospital inpa- tient services if you need a kidney transplant. David Sayen is Medicare's regional administrator for California,. You can get answers to your Medicare questions by calling 1-800-MEDICARE (1-800-633-4227). facilities by certain quality- of-care information. If you don't have a com- Flowers at a funeral are nice, but TOR K: I have warts on the bot- toms of my feet. How can I get rid of them? DEAR DOC- 3B Plantar wart may go away on its own DEAR READ- ER: The warts on the soles of your feet are called plantar warts. They are essen- tially the same as other warts except that they are hard and flat. I've had them, and boy, are they aggravating. Warts are highly con- tagious, so they're easy to pick up, especially if you walk barefoot on moist, warm or dirty surfaces. They result from infection with the human papillomavirus (HPV). (It's a different strain than the one that is sexually transmitted and causes cancer of the cervix.) wart and also have dia- betes or another medical condition that makes you prone to infections or slow to heal, see your doctor. A plantar wart can get infected. In peo- ple with diabetes, foot infections do not heal easily. If they don't heal, an amputation of the foot may be necessary. A plantar wart some- times can cause pain when you walk. That intermittently happens with mine. Pain is another reason to consider treatment. However, keep in mind that warts of all types can come and go. If you have a plantar wart may go away on its own — and that's what has happened in my case. Be patient, since the Dr. K by Anthony L. Komaroff, M.D. tion. Yet another option is topical fluorouracil (Carac, Efudex, Fluoro- plex). This prescription cream's effectiveness isn't certain, but if you prefer medication to surgery, ask your doctor about it. pound W and others). You can also consult a foot-care spe- cialist, who may apply a stronger topical prepara- an over-the- counter prepara- tion that includes 40 percent sali- cylic acid (Clear Away, Com- quicker but more painful options. They usually are performed by derma- tologists and skin sur- geons, not by primary care doctors. The first is to freeze away the wart (cryother- apy). The frozen tissue dies and falls off, like a scab. There are several The wart also can be cut out with a scalpel under local anesthetic. Finally, there are two types of laser treatment. The first is a carbon dioxide laser to remove the wart, again with a local anesthetic. If you are not having symptoms and are not diabetic, it is reasonable to do nothing. One rea- son to seek treatment, even if a wart is not causing symptoms, is that it may grow or seed other warts across your foot. In my experience (professional and per- sonal) that does not hap- pen often. If you want to try treatment, you have sev- eral options. You can try COURT ROUND-UP to 180 days in Tehama County Jail for possession of an assault weapon. An officer conducted a traffic stop on a vehicle driven by Lopez. The officer's K-9 alerted on the vehicle and a search was conduct- ed. Inside the truck officers located an assault rifle hidden inside the spare tire compartment. • Leonid Mendoza Gill and Roberto Barajas Jr., • Benjamin Asher Hughes was sentenced to 16 months in state prison for evading an officer, willful disregard. Officers responded to a vehicle pursuit that began in Chico and was headed towards the Los Molinos area on Highway 99. When Hugh- es reached Los Molinos he came to a stop on the side of the road. The officers attempted to conduct a felony traffic stop at which point the Hughes accelerated in reverse, almost hitting one of the officers. He proceeded to drive recklessly until a spike strip was deployed and the vehicle was disabled. Hughes was arrested and taken into custody. • Sheryl Lynne Cadotte was sen- tenced to 16 months in state prison for harboring a fugitive. Cadotte was originally granted formal probation. She violated her probation when officers conducted a probation search and located hydrocodone and oxycodone pills in Cadotte's residence. Cadotte also tested positive for methampheta- mine and marijuana. Recent County Jail Commit- ments • Manuel Lopez was sentenced tenced to 120 days each in Tehama County Jail for (NCR82683)Gill- conspiracy to possess less than 30 grams of concentrated cannabis; and (NCR82682) Barajas-cultivat- ing marijuana. Investigators conducted a search of a property belonging to Barajas. On the property investigators locat- ed three separate marijuana grows as well as several pounds of mari- juana that had been processed and packaged. were sen- • Sandra Dawn Cox was sen- tenced to 90 days in Tehama Coun- ty Jail for bring drugs into a jail. Cox was arrested and taken into custody on another matter. While Cox was being processed inside the jail an officer located Valium pills and methamphetamine hidden on her person. • Kevin Eugene Talley was sen- tenced to 60 days in Tehama Coun- ty Jail for driving under the influ- ence of alcohol and/or drugs-four prior convictions. Talley was originally granted formal probation. Talley violated his probation when he tested posi- tive for methamphetamine and con- sumed alcohol. • Benjamin Marcus Jackson was sentenced to 30 days in Tehama County Jail for second degree com- mercial burglary. Jackson was observed placing packages of batteries into his coat pocket and leave the store without paying for the items. Jackson then gave the batteries to a companion who returned to the store and returned the batteries for a store credit. • Jennifer Marie Neff was sen- tenced to 60 days in Tehama Coun- ty Jail for petty theft with a prior. Neff was observed by store security placing a bottle of alcohol in her jacket and proceeding to leave the store without paying for the alcohol. was sentenced to 270 days in Tehama County Jail for possession of a short-barrelled shotgun. An officer conducted a traffic stop on a vehicle that had been reported stolen. McFayden was a passenger in the vehicle and fled on foot when the vehicle came to a stop. The officer pursued McFay- den and eventually apprehended him. The officer conducted a search of the vehicle and located a short-barrelled shotgun. • Cliff Clayton Rhoads was sen- tenced to 120 days in Tehama County Jail for post release com- munity supervision and two counts of petty theft Rhoads was released from prison to post release community supervision. Rhoads violated his conditions of supervision upon his arrest in NCR83782 when he entered a convenience store and put two cans of beer in his coat pocket. Rhoads then approached the clerk with a 12 pack of beer to purchase. Rhoads' credit card was denied and he then proceeded to leave the store without paying for the beer in his pocket. • Keven Paul Marcum was sen- tenced to 120 days in Tehama County Jail for sale of a controlled substance. • Dillon Christopher McFayden Agents from the drug task force used a confidential informant to purchase hydrocodone pills from Marcum on two separate occasions. mitments Recent Proposition 36 Com- Note: All cases wherein a defen- dant is sentenced per the terms of Proposition 36 are not at the request of the Tehama County District Attorney's Office. Per the require- ments of Proposition 36, a defen- dant who possesses drugs cannot be sentenced to confinement time in jail or prison. Instead, the court must place defendant on probation and require drug treatment alone. Per the requirements of Proposition 36, only upon a third drug related probation violation may the court impose confinement time. event the defendant violates a non- drug related term of probation the court may then elect to sentence defendant to jail or prison. The Tehama County District In the A less painful option is pulse-dye laser removal. The laser destroys red blood cells in the wart. This deprives the wart of oxygen and nutrients without harming sur- rounding skin and tis- sue. (This technique is not available every- where.) We have more infor- mation on plantar warts in our Special Health Report, "Foot Care Basics." (Learn more about this report at AskDoctorK.com, or call 877-649-9457 toll- free to order it.) Dr. Komaroff is a physician and professor at Harvard Medical School. To send questions, go to AskDoctorK.com, or write: Ask Doctor K, 10 Shattuck St., Second Floor, Boston, MA 02115. Attorney's Office contends that each criminal case is unique and that in certain, specific, cases a defendant should be sentenced to a combination of drug treatment and jail time. We further contend that in other specific cases where a defen- dant has an extensive criminal record and/or a history of non-com- pliance with either previous grants of probation or previous grants of drug treatment, a state prison sen- tence should properly be imposed. • Brandon Scott Paillon was sen- tenced to Prop. 36 probation for possession of a controlled sub- stance. Officers responded to a resi- dence in regards to a suspicious person. Upon arrival officers con- tacted Paillon and conducted a search of his person. In Paillon's pocket an officer located two syringes. Paillon was then trans- ported to the Corning Police Department for further investiga- tion. While defendant was at the Corning Police Department an offi- cer found him to be in possession of methamphetamine.