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4B Daily News – Tuesday, June 12, 2012 FEATURES Girl worried about anorexic friend anorexia is not uncommon in teenage girls, but I never thought I would see the signs in my best friend. ''Emmy'' always com- plains about the way she looks and is constantly focused on her weight. She makes sure everyone else eats, but I rarely see her put a bite in her mouth. She denies that she has a prob- lem, but all her clothes are baggy, and you can see her bones sticking out. Everyone, even people who just Dear Annie: I know that Annie's Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar met her, ask me if she is anorexic. Emmy is six inches taller than I am and weighs less — and my doctor says I am underweight. Last month alone, she dropped 20 pounds. How can I help her? I want to talk to her mom, but I don't know how to bring it up. — Not that Skinny Dear Not: Emmy is lucky to have you as a friend. Too many teenagers with eating disorders are left alone until the problem becomes life threatening. It's also possible that something else is going on with Emmy, but the soon- er this is addressed, the sooner she can be helped. First talk to Emmy and urge her to discuss this with her parents. If noth- ing changes, you can speak to her mom, saying, ''I'm worried about Emmy. She doesn't seem to be eat- ing normally, and she's lost a lot of boyfriend of five years recently had a heart attack and died immediately. I am so distraught. He was my life and my best friend. He lived in a different town, and I didn't want to uproot my children, so we never moved in together. This was a source of a great many arguments. The problem is, I cheated on him with a friend of ours. He never knew. I cheated because I was lone- ly and felt that he really didn't want me. But I loved him with all of my heart. The affair always made me feel guilty, but since he died, the guilt has become overwhelming. I know I messed up. I never wanted to hurt him. I keep thinking that he now knows everything, and I can't take it. Do you think that in the afterlife you find out things like this? — Lost My Love Dear Lost: If you believe in an afterlife where loved ones watch over us, then you surely believe it is a place of forgiveness. Please con- sider grief counseling. It will help you come to terms with your loss weight.'' You also can alert your own parents, and when school resumes, talk to the school nurse or counselor and urge Emmy to do so, as well. And please contact the National Association of Anorexia and Associated Disorders (anad.org) for more information. Dear Annie: My and get past your guilt so you can move forward. Your doctor or local hospice organization can refer you. Dear Annie: This is for ''Illinois Neighbor,'' who complained that a nosy neighbor keeps reporting her husband to the police because he parks his trailer so that one tire often rests on the dirt. This violates a city ordinance. She said they can't afford to enlarge the driveway. I'm not sure how much a truck- load of gravel costs in Illinois, but in my area, I bought a small load (half a yard) for $15. They should put a two-foot-wide strip of gravel beside the driveway, so the vehicle wheels rest on it. That gravel would then be considered part of the drive- way. It's not a job that requires an impossibly strong man, either. I'm a female in my 70s, and I did it. — Old NW Rocker Dear Rocker: Our thanks to all the readers who recommended adding gravel or rocks to the area adjacent to the driveway so that the wheel doesn't rest on the dirt. If this solves the legal problem, it should also solve the neighbor problem. Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. tions about general dri- ving related require- ments like registration and insurance? Are you unclear about laws and restrictions related to driving? The California Department of Motor Vehicles has answers. Save Time. Go Online at www.DMV.ca.gov. Q: How often may a By George Valverde Do you have driver attend traffic vio- lator school in order to keep violations confi- dential (masked) and not part of the public record? A: A driver who is referred by a court to traffic violator school may have only the first violation masked in an 18-month period. Subse- Expert answers to common DMV questions ques- quent violations during the 18-month period will not be masked. Q: I paid my registra- tion fees online and entered my checking account information. I received a dishonored check notice. How is this possible? A: Make sure to cor- rectly enter your bank account and routing number when making an online payment. On the DMV website, www.DMV.ca.gov, there is an example of where to locate the bank rout- ing numbers, so please take a look before enter- ing your check informa- tion. When entering pay- ment from an existing checking account, be sure to verify that the numbers are correct before entering the final payment. This will ensure that we are able to locate your account and deduct the payment. Q: What is the DMV's Rest, pain meds, stretch for bursitis TOR K: I was just diagnosed with hip bursitis. What will my treatment entail? DEAR DOC- ER: Your hip has several fluid-filled sacs, called bur- sae. They cushion the hip joint. When one of these sacs becomes irritated or inflamed, the condition is known as bursitis. My patients use differ- DEAR READ- nose, mouth or cause dark shadows. This can result in unacceptable photographs and unnec- essary return trips to our field offices. The DMV is a policy for headgear when the license photo is taken? A: The department prefers the removal of headgear, unless it is part of your normal iden- tification, or is worn because of religious beliefs. In those instances, headgear is permissible as long as the individual's face is visible. Generally, head- gear such as a baseball hat can obstruct the eyes, department under the Business, Transportation and Housing Agency, which is under the direction of Acting Undersecretary Traci Stevens. The DMV licenses drivers, maintains driving records, registers and tracks official ownership of vehicles and vessels, investigates auto and identity-related fraud, and licenses car dealers, driving schools, and traffic violator schools. For more information about the DMV, visit www.DMV.ca.gov. Inflammation of the trochanteric bursa is the most common. The greater trochanter is the name of a bony bump on the side of your hip. Where is it, exactly? Put your fingers on the most outside part of your waist. Then run your fingers down the most outside part of your hip. About 3 to 5 inches below the waist you'll feel the bump. If you have inflammation of the trochanteric bursa, pushing on that bump will hurt. ent words to describe the pain they have from bursi- tis: aching, burning, dull, sharp and radiating. The type and location of your pain depend on which bursa is affected. The iliopsoas bursa lies between the front of the hip joint and one of the hip flexor muscles, near the groin. The pain it causes goes from the groin down the inner part of the thigh, toward the knee. Ischial bursitis is, Dr. K by Anthony L. Komaroff, M.D. such as ibuprofen or naproxen also help. You'll need to reduce your activity until the symptoms sub- side; this usually takes a few weeks. Specif ic stretching and strengthening exercises, under direction from a physical therapist, will also help. For trochanteric bursi- tis, therapy may involve iliotibial band stretches. The iliotibial (IT) band is a thick cord of tissue extending from the hip bone to the shin bone. For iliopsoas bursitis, you may stretch and strengthen the hip flexors and rotators. For ischial bursitis, you may temporarily use a cane to take pressure off the affected hip. If needed, a single corticosteroid injection with a local anesthetic should provide permanent pain relief. We have more informa- tion on hip bursitis in our Special Health Report, "Knee and Hip Pain." (Learn more about this report at AskDoctorK.com, or call 877-649-9457 toll-free to order it.) literally, a pain in the butt. It occurs when the bursa under one of the bones you sit on becomes inflamed. A hundred years ago it was called "tailor's bottom" because people who sit all day are more prone to getting it. (I guess that includes doc- tors who write newspaper columns every day.) Treatment for any type of hip bursitis includes rest and ice. Pain relievers bursa may remain inflamed and painful even after these treatments. If this is the case, your doc- tor may surgically remove the bursa. (The hip can function normally without it.) This is a very effec- tive, minimally invasive procedure and can be done on an outpatient basis. In rare cases, your Dr. Komaroff is a physician and professor at Harvard Medical School. To send questions, go to AskDoctorK.com, or write: Ask Doctor K, 10 Shattuck St., Second Floor, Boston, MA 02115. How to win a carnival game nival, pick out one of the midway games and Beat the Carny. That's easier said than done, of course, because many of the games defy physics — or, worse, may be rigged. Want to make it a summer to remember? Go to a car- But Matthew Gryczan says you can Beat the Carny. Gryczan, author of "Carnival Secrets" (Zenith Press) and president of SciTech Communications in Grand Rapids, Mich., says there are three types of games on the midway: games of entertainment, games of chance and games of skill. It's the last category that affords the best shot at carnival glory, because a game of skill is something you can practice and get good at. The game he suggests mastering is teh bottle setup. It involves lifting a bottle that's lying on its side to a standing position, using a pole and string with a hoop attached. DIY home version: To polish your skills, Gryczan suggests building your own version of the game at home. You'll need a foot-square piece of wood for a platform, some blocks to put underneath it so it is raised, a 3-foot-long 1/2-inch wooden dowel, a 5 1/2- foot piece of string, a small nail, a wooden curtain ring and a long-neck soda or beer bottle. Tie the ring to the string, stick the nail in the end of the dowel, and attach the other end of the string to it. Cover the platform with a piece of tile, Formica or another hard, slippery sur- face, put it on the ground and lay the bottle on it (either toward or away from you). Practice makes perfect: Grasp the pole at its mid- point and hold it nearly vertical. Lean over a barrier — all midway games have barriers — position the pole over the bottle and slip the ring over the neck. The secret, Gryczan says, is to make the neck of the bottle move in an arc. Don't pull it straight up or straight back. Lift the pole a couple of inches, but not so high as to make the ring slip off. Then bring the pole toward you in an upward arc, with a firm and constant motion. With practice you'll get a feel for the bottle's movements and will learn to adjust accordingly. Congrats. You are on your way to a lovely prize. Player beware: Of course, you can become a world- class bottle-setup player and still get skunked if the game is rigged. Gryczan offers a couple of tips. "Look at the prize," he says. "If the prize is a huge stuffed animal, you can bet it's a difficult game. Carnies aren't throwing out those prizes regularly. People should never play for money, or never play for anything that's truly valuable — gold or a TV set. That's a real good tip-off the game is rigged." Also, have the carny demonstrate how to win. "If he can't win, you have very little chance. And if the carny is demonstrating a game, ask to use the same equipment he used."