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2B Daily News – Friday, June 8, 2012 FEATURES Home awkward pending parents' divorce year-old guy, and my par- ents are splitting up. I don't know the full story, but things are getting some- what awkward around the house. We try to live nor- mally, but the silence hurts. I'm trying to deal with it and put up a good front until graduation, but it's hard. Dear Annie: I am an 18- family members. Try Mili- tary One Source (military- onesource.mil) and ask for help. When I am with both of my parents in the same room, it's too quiet. One of us will try to initiate a conversation, but it cuts off after a few minutes. My father is military and will be deploying shortly after I graduate. Everyone right now seems to be on edge. I have no way to talk about this with anyone. I've heard it's always worse before it gets better, but it seems that there is no end to the silence. How do I associate with both of my parents and not have any ''divorce talk?'' — Tom Dear Tom: Your parents may Annie's Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar dating ''Ben'' for five years, and I consider it a serious relationship. We see each other often and are in touch by phone daily. Ben likes to ride his Dear Annie: I've been point sitting alone at home waiting for someone else to call. Arrange to do something with your friends on Saturday nights. It will keep you occupied, and Ben will proba- bly find you much more interesting if you aren't waiting around for him. believe they are making it easier for you by not discussing the situation. Or they may fear that talking about it will create a cascade of bitter words, arguing and crying, and they are hoping to spare you. But you do need to talk to someone. It would help enormously. Do you have a favorite teacher, coach, neighbor or friend's parent? What about a grandparent, aunt or uncle? The military also offers counseling for Lucero Olive Oil and Shasta Cascade Slow Foods are coming togeth- er to launch the summer event series, 2nd Satur- day at the Mill, from or later, when he hasn't returned any calls or texts. He claims he doesn't hear the phone while riding, which I understand, but why can't he return my call when he takes a break? Or tell me before he goes that he won't be back earlier? It's not that we make specific plans for Saturday night, but there's usually a casual ''call me and we'll do something later'' plan. It upsets me that he doesn't include me on these Saturday night jaunts, doesn't communicate to me what he's doing and doesn't seem to care that I sit home alone on a Saturday night because it's too late to make other arrangements. I've talked to him about it, but it makes no difference. I admit that it wouldn't bother me as much if he did this on Monday nights. Am I overreacting? — An Avid Reader Dear Avid: Unless there are definite plans, you should assume Ben is not coming. There's no 6:30-9:30 p.m. on Satur- day, June at Lucero Olive Oil's Mill on Loleta Avenue in Corning. Come and experience a mouth watering appe- Awards Dinner 2011-2012 School Year Sponsored by RED BLUFF TEHAMACOUNTY Jack the Ribber 1150 Monroe Street, Red Bluff Thursday, June 14 6:00 PM – 8:30 PM Reservations required (see below!) DEADLINE MON., JUNE 11 @ NOON! The V's have dinner for FREE, courtesy of the Daily News, St. Elizabeth Community Hospital and Sponsors for this school year's high school athletes of the week program Family, friends, coaches, fans: $12.50 for dinner (Cash or Check, pay at the door.) 2 big ribs, beans, cole slaw, corn bread, beverages, dessert Check in/Meet & Greet 6:00 PM Dinner at 6:30 PM St. Elizabeth Sports Medicine Program. Dr. Riico Dotson, M.D. Medical Director Dr. Dotson has been practicing sports medicine in Tehama County for 9 years. Raised in Marysville, he is a Stanford Graduate and received his Medical Training and Orthopedic Sports Medicine Fellowship from the Mayo Clinic. He and his wife Marie, enjoy their life in Red Bluff with their three children. Dr. Dotson specializes in all sports medicine and is known for his outstanding patient satisfaction and outcomes in knee arthroscopy and shoulder repair surgery. Awards Ceremony at 7:30 Presentation of Certificates to the V's Presentation of Special Annual Awards Boys and Girls Scholar Athlete Awards Boys and Girls Sportsmanship Awards Boys and Girls Athletes of the Year RESERVATIONS: Call 527-2151 ext 120 • Leave your name • Number of people in your party • If one or more V's will be with you • Phone number Hope to See You There! DAILY RED BLUFF TEHAMACOUNTY in case we have questions NEWS Please call to reserve a seat Don't Forget about Dad Garden Center 766 Antelope Blvd. (Next to the Fairground) We have great gift for all dads Red Bluff Father's Day June 17th 527-0886 "The V's" DAILYNEWS ATHLETES OF THE WEEK Tehama County High School motorcycle and frequently stays out quite late on Satur- day nights. I often don't fig- ure this out until 9:00 p.m. to ''Sleepless in Seattle,'' who isn't sure about letting her 11-year-old son have any association with her gay neighbor. My son's father walked out on us a month before the baby was born. I now live with my toddler at my parents' house, along with my gay brother and his partner of 10 years. Dear Annie: This is in response I could not be more grateful and amazed at the amount of love they have for my child. We are so unbe- lievably lucky to have such mature, wonderful men in his life, with values and a commitment to my son that his heterosexual bio- logical father lacks in every way. There is never a moment where I think my son is in danger from being around his uncle because of his sexual orientation. — Disgust- ed in N.Y. Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. 2nd Saturday at the Mill in Corning tizer buffet provided by local Orland restaurant Farwood Bar and Grill from 6:30 to 8:30 p.m. The buffet will feature products from Maisie Jane's, Skylake Ranch Pomegranate, From the Hearth Café, and Lucero Olive Oil. Along with a buffet ticket purchase you receive a complementary glass of wine from Hick- man Family Vineyard's. Throughout the event these local producers will also be sampling and sell- ing their products for you to take home and redis- cover for yourselves. The 2nd Saturday at the Mill event series was developed by Lucero Olive Oil to showcase and provide samples of local products while enjoying the company of friends and family. Lucero's event series shares Slow Foods‚ sup- port for sustainable food from local producers. The 2nd Saturday at the Mill event series is in its second year and events are scheduled for the sec- ond Saturday in June, July, August and Septem- ber. Lucero Olive Oil and Slow Food look forward to hosting such compa- nies as Turri Family Farms, Bianchi Orchards, Matson Winery, Pedrozo Dairy and Cheese, Sweet- ie‚s Bakery and Catering, Western Pacific Brewery and many others in their 2012 2nd Saturday at the Mill Series. The event series is open to all guests, and vendor sampling is free. Appetizer tasting tickets are available at Lucero Olive Oil's retail store, at 2120 Loleta Ave, Corn- ing, or over the phone at 824-2190. Tickets are $20 per person and include one glass of wine. Clearing dead grass and brush 100 feet from homes is a critical step in preparing for fire season. As the fire danger increases, the unsafe use of power equipment can actually start new fires. Every spring, Cal- Fire and other fire agencies remind homeowners of the importance of cutting down overgrown vegetation, but stress that how they clear their Defensible Space is just as important. Three options for weight-loss surgery TOR K: I'm obese. I've tried to lose weight, but noth- ing has worked. Should I consider weight-loss surgery? DEAR DOC- DEAR READ- ER: If you are severely obese, your best chance for long-term weight loss and better health may be weight-loss (bariatric) surgery. You have Dr. K by Anthony L. Komaroff, M.D. options. Some types of bariatric surgery shrink the size of your stomach — you fill up sooner. Other types of surgery route the food you've eaten away from your small intestine, the place where nutrients (and their calories) are absorbed. Some types of bariatric surgery do both. Three of the most com- mon kinds of bariatric surgery are gastric bypass, gastric banding, and a newer procedure called sleeve gastrectomy. several — Gastric banding is often called a "lap-band." During the procedure, a surgeon places an adjustable band around the opening of the stomach. This restricts the amount of food you can eat. Compared with gastric bypass, patients tend to lose less weight, more slowly. Also, weight loss is more dependent on your making healthy food — Gastric bypass dras- tically shrinks the size of your stomach. After surgery, you feel full after eating very small amounts of food. The surgery also reroutes the passage of food through your body to bypass most of your stom- ach and upper small intes- tine. As a result, your body absorbs fewer calories. Patients tend to lose weight rapidly for up to two years after gastric bypass. Many maintain a significant weight loss for 10 years or more. But gas- tric bypass has a higher complication rate than other weight-loss surg- eries, and the remaining stomach pouch can stretch over time. the hormone that makes you feel hungry (see below). This helps you feel satisfied with less food. — Sleeve gas- trectomy trans- forms your stom- ach into a narrow tube. The shrunk- en stomach is less likely to stretch out again than after gastric bypass. It also produces less of choices after surgery. Sleeve gastrectomy is considered to be less risky than gastric bypass or gastric banding, but the overall weight loss isn't as dramatic. It's no surprise that surgery which shrinks your stomach works, or that surgery that causes your small intestine to absorb fewer calories works. However, there is a third way that many types of bariatric surgery work — and that is a sur- prise. was discovered that the stomach makes a hor- mone called ghrelin that travels in the blood. When ghrelin reaches the brain, it stimulates your appetite. About three to four hours after our last meal, our stomachs start to make increasing amounts of ghrelin — and we start getting hungry. The levels of ghrelin in the blood are greatly reduced by most types of bariatric surgery, because a smaller stomach makes less of the hormone. We have more infor- mation on bariatric surgery in our Special Health Report, "Healthy Solutions to Lose Weight and Keep It Off." (Learn more about this report at AskDoctorK.com, or call 877-649-9457 toll-free to order it.) About 10 years ago it If you choose to have weight-loss surgery, take advantage of medical, nutritional and counseling services before and after surgery to help your body and mind adjust to your new normal. Are you dong the right thing the wrong way? are urged to take advantage of this week's cooler weather to ensure they have cleared all dead or dying vegetation before increasing temperatures return. CalFire offers the following tips to prevent fires from equipment use: "The spark from the metal blade of a lawn mower against a rock can easily ignite a wildfire," said CalFire Director and Chief Ken Pimlott. "While it's important to clear dead grass and brush, we don't want homeowners doing the right thing the wrong way. Two weeks ago, a wildfire known as the Banner Fire was sparked by unsafe equipment use, charring 5,321 acres just east of Julian in San Diego County. CalFire officials say the fire serves as a reminder of how dry conditions are and how extra vigilance is needed to prevent wildfires. Homeowners Herb Drying Class Saturday, June 16 @ 10am • Do yard maintenance with powered equipment before 10 a.m., not during the heat of the day or when the wind is blowing. •Never use lawn mowers on dry grass or brush. • Remove any rocks in and around the area before oper- ating equipment. • Be sure your portable gas powered equipment has a spark arrester. • Never re-fuel while equipment is still hot from use •Keep the equipment maintained and free of carbon and other buildup. For more, visit www.ReadyForWildfire.org.