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FEATURES Dear Annie: I am a fresh- man in high school, and my older brother, ''Adam,'' is a junior. Although I wouldn't consider myself popular, I have a great group of friends. Recently, I noticed that Adam is flirting on Facebook with a girl in my grade. For the most part, it's innocent and playful, but it makes me beyond uncomfortable. This girl brags a lot about drinking and being sexually active. Adam is a smart kid with a bright future ahead of him. I don't want him involved with this girl, even if it seems innocent right now. To be honest, I think he's using her because of her loose reputation, and I've lost respect for him. How do I confront him about it without getting into an argument? I want him to know how uncomfortable it makes me feel. I'd like to tell my parents, but I don't want to be a tattle- tale. Should I just mind my own busi- ness? — Unhappy in Omaha Dear Omaha: Some insecure girls intentionally cultivate a loose reputa- tion in order to attract guys, and it is not unusual for high school boys to find that enticing. Talk to Adam. Tell him that his interest in this girl makes you question his integrity, and you hope he won't use her to satisfy his sexual needs. Let him know it's not only her reputation that is at stake. Annie's Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar And point out that there is also a good possibility that any high school junior or senior boy who has sex with this girl could be charged with a crime because she is underage. It hardly seems worth risking his future. That said, let's hope his interest in her is purely for the sake of friendship. Dear Annie: Last week, I Friday, June 1, 2012 – Daily News 5A Brothers flirtation makes freshman queasy cially. Is it to be expected in this econ- omy that one could be invited to a wedding only to provide a service? How should I respond? — Kentucky Dear Kentucky: Even if you babysit for a living, the bride was ter- ribly rude to invite you with the assumption that you should take on this responsibility. You have four choices: You can say yes to her propo- sition. You can say yes, but quote your fee for babysitting or tell her that it will be your wedding gift to the cou- ple. You can turn down the invitation. You can accept the invitation, but tell the bride that you are not available to babysit — in which case, please couch it in language that says you wouldn't looking forward to seeing me at the wedding. Then she added that she hopes I don't mind watching all the lit- tle kids at the ceremony and reception. The bride is in great shape finan- received a fancy wedding invitation. The next day, the bride emailed, saying she hoped I could attend and is Dear Annie: I totally agree with Judy Hou, who is trying to get readers involved with the Campaign for Tobacco-Free Kids. We were taught in pharmacy law class that certain medications are clas- sified by their potential for abuse and risk of physical or psychological dependence. Schedule 1 drugs have a high potential for abuse, have no cur- rently accepted medicinal use and lack safety information. Drugs in this category include heroin and LSD. Schedules 2-5 also have potential for abuse and dependence, but have accepted medicinal uses. These include Oxycontin, Percocet and Val- ium. want to miss a moment of the event because you were distracted by the children. Regular tests allow timely treatment TOR K: I'm a healthy, 60-year- old woman. What screening tests do I need, and how often? DEAR DOC- I believe that nicotine should be included as a Schedule 1 substance and be declared illegal. Unfortunately, politics will prevent this from happen- ing, and we will have to continue to encourage our youth to make intelli- gent decisions regarding cigarettes, drug and alcohol use. I am very thank- ful that Florida has many smoke-free places to eat and work. — A Florida Pharmacist Dear Pharmacist: Making a sub- stance illegal will not prevent people from abusing it. While we understand your position, we are certain to hear from a great many readers who dis- agree with your solution. Kelly-Griggs House - 47th Ice Cream Social Special to the DN Museum Directors imagine an old fashioned Band Concert as a side dish to the 47th Annual Ice Cream Social. The concert will be held from 4-7 p.m. on Aug. 19 in the Gazebo of the Kelly-Griggs House Museum, 311 Washington St., in Red Bluff. The Community Band under the direction of Jay Thiel will play many familiar songs and march- es. Also entertaining dur- ing the event will be "Loosely Strung Band", local fiddlers who do a lit- tle western swing, blue- grass and gospel. The Red Bluff Rotary will partner with Baskin Robbins Ice Cream to serve ice cream and cook- ies during the traditional lawn party. Water and soft drinks will be sold by the Kelly-Guides as part of this fundraiser for Founda- tion Replacement. Showing art and photos for sale and to support the Museum will be the Red Bluff Art Association and the Tehama County Photo Club. Native Daughters of the Golden West - Berren- dos Parlor will once again greet people at the front entrance. All tickets will be $5. Sonja Akers will pro- vide tables and chairs where family and friends may sit and enjoy the music, ice cream and the "back in time" nostalgia of ER: Too many people wait until something is wrong before vis- iting their doctor. Keeping up with screen- ing tests can help you identify and nip a prob- lem in the bud. I'll give you the gener- al guidelines for a woman your age as laid out by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Ser- vices. As you'll notice, the frequency of some tests is left up to your doctor. How often you have these tests should be based on your personal and family medical histo- ry. DEAR READ- Dr. K by Anthony L. Komaroff, M.D. — General exam: Dis- cuss with your doctor. There actually is not much evidence that a complete physical exami- nation each year is worth doing. Yet I still do it, and my patients still expect me to do it. — Blood pressure measurement: at least every two years. This one is a no-brainer: Undiag- nosed and untreated high blood pressure may be the biggest threat we have to our health. And the problem is, you don't know if your blood pres- sure is high just from symptoms. You have to measure it. Courtesy photo Kelly-Griggs House Museum Ice Cream Social Committee is planning the 47th annual event from 4-7 p.m. on Aug. 19. Pictured from left: Directors Eric Frey,Maggie McCornack, member and volunteer Mary Perkin, directors Linda Elsner, Sharon Wilson and Cheryl Oylear. Not pictured are directors Penny Johnson, Betty Brown and Darren Oylear. the 1880's Victorian built by Sidney Griggs, a forty- niner who came to Califor- nia from New Hampshire to seek his fortune. All of the annual cele- bration will be held inside the decorative wrought iron fence whose bars were once a part of the old Tehama County Jail. The fence was designed and built by Lifetime Mem- ber/volunteer, Clint Case- bier. Museum Directors (co- chairs) are offering space for 5 vendors on the north lawn. about this opportunity and to make a reservation for space, call 527-5895. Leave your name and number. For information to open the downstairs par- lor, dining room and library for a special part of the event to be announced at a later date. Everyone in the com- munity is invited to attend and support the Founda- tion Replacement fund raiser. Much of the origi- nal river rock has recently been replaced but the South Foundation is the most serious project at this time. Directors are planning received donations and grants for those parts com- pleted. If you are interested in making a donation or joining as an association member or to volunteer please send your inquiries to P.O. Box 9082 or call 527-5895. The Kelly-Griggs has National Alliance on Mental Illness Thank you to the Red Bluff Community for making our event N.A.M.I. Day in the Park a great success! N.A.M.I. is a non-profit organization located in Red Bluff, we provide multiple programs dedi- cated to mental health for families or one on one. If you are interested in our "Families to Families" or "Peer to Peer" program please contact Jackie Hernandez 530-690-2384 The Museum is open for guided tours each Thursday and most Sun- days at 1 p.m. The last tour begins at 3 p.m. Call 527- 1129. Group tours can be arranged at other times. The Kelly-Griggs is a 501(c)(3) non-profit orga- nization. Visitor donations accepted. — Bone density screening: at least once in women age 65 or older, or at a younger age if you have a relatively higher risk for osteoporosis. You can determine your risk online by using a FRAX calculator. The original calculator can be found at shef.ac.uk/FRAX. every three years. every one to two years. — Pap smear: every one to three years, if your — Cholesterol test: Discuss with clinician; many groups recommend every five years. uterus and cervix have not been sur gically removed. transmitted infection (STI) tests: before initiat- ing intercourse with a new partner. exam: every one to three years. — HIV test: at least once to find out your status, if you have any risk factors for HIV. — Sexually — Pelvic — Mental health screening: discuss with clinician. health: — Colorectal (1) Fecal occult blood test: yearly OR (2) Flexible sigmoi- doscopy: every five years OR every 10 years. exam: every two to four years, or as advised by clinician. (3) Colonoscopy: — Complete eye exam or physical; self- exam monthly. — Dental exam: rou- tinely; discuss with den- tist. Finally, pay attention to your body. Keep an eye on new spots and bumps. Note changes in your reg- ular patterns, be they in appetite, sleep, mood, energy or bowel habits. We have more infor- mation on staying healthy as you age in our Special Health Report, "A Guide to Women's Health: Fifty and Forward." (Learn more about this report at AskDoctorK.com, or call 877-649-9457 toll-free to order it.) Screening guidelines change once you hit age 65, so revisit this topic with your doctor in a few years. Dr. Komaroff is a — Blood glucose test: — Mammogram: physician and professor at Harvard Medical School. To send questions, go to AskDoctorK.com, or write: Ask Doctor K, 10 Shattuck St., Second Floor, Boston, MA 02115. — Hearing test: every three years. — Mole exam: clinical Secretary N.A.M.I. Sarah Reid Shelby Dreisbach-Volunteer Christine Dreisbach-Volunteer Jackie Herneamber-N.A.M.I. Events Cor. Connie Weber-President N.A.M.I. Earl Christensen-Member N.A.M.I. Max Jones - Volunteer Ida Pickart - Volunteer