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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman THEDUPLEX GlennMcCoy ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Iama woman in my late 60s who has had a friend for more than 40 years. Many years ago I was in a powerful position with an organization and encouraged her to apply for a job with the compa- ny. She worked for several years in various ad- ministrative roles (never reporting directly to me) and was a very good employee, as well as a good friend. We stayed friends even after she moved away. I'd always invite her to join my friends and me at all my parties and ticketed events. She and I even traveled on several trips together. I sensed her distanc- ing herself, but I didn't push it. Last year I had a short visit with her. I thought we had a decent time. Then, about two weeks later she called and told me something her therapist had told her to tell me — that she didn't like to travel with me because I was too bossy. I told her I thought hers was an easy problem to solve; we just don't need to travel together. I then tried to find out if there was anything else bothering her about me, and she said no. I tried to be calm and remain friendly. We seemed to end the conversation on a good note, but since that time I've not heard from her at all. I am confused and hurt. I'd like to let her know how hurt and angry I am about her complete dismissal of me and our friendship after all these years. I believe she owes me an explanation. Wha t do yo u thin k I should do? —Upset DEAR UPSET » Generally, when someone tells you she has discussed your relationship in therapy, it's not a good sign. In this case, your friend told you that you are too bossy for her and you responded immediately by telling her you could solve her problem in a way that seems — if not bossy, then definitely dominant. The response she might have been hoping for would NOT be, "You have a problem. I can solve it," but, "Oh, let me examine my own behavior and see if I can change it." For your friendship to revive it would be best if you asked how she would like for things to change, without telling her what to do. DEAR AMY » I'm disap- pointed by your response to "Sad Dad," whose parents had mistreated his wife over the years and now, after a lengthy estrangement, he wants her to find a way to "look past it." He should man up and stand by his wife. — Marry an Orphan DEAR MARRY » This reader wanted to find a way to try to reconcile, not continue an estrange- ment. I offered him ideas, but I also think his wife should not be compelled to spend time with people who have mistreated her. Friend's dominance is brought up in some therapy sessions You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribpub.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Taurus(April20-May20)— Build alliances and develop open relationships with people head- ing in the same direction as you. A beneficial idea or service you offer will bring in extra cash. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — You shouldn't let anyone guilt you into something you don't care to do. Don't pay for others' mistakes or make donations you cannot afford. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — Speak up, share your sugges- tions and offer solutions. Don't worry about the actions of oth- ers. If someone is unpredictable, keep your distance. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — So- cializing with your peers will put you in a good position. Personal changes will build confidence. Someone will be jealous of you. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — Use your intelligence and experience to overcome any problems you face at home. An elder or someone you feel re- sponsible for will have difficulty combating common sense and practicality. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — Partnerships will play a major role in decisions. Short trips or a meeting with someone can make a difference to the out- come of a personal situation you are facing. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — You'll have a different vision from someone you are working with. Try to use what both of you bring to the table to come up with something spectacular. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — You'll receive plenty of information, but before you act on hearsay, ask questions and go to the source for the truth. A change of heart will lead to a romantic encounter. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — It's OK to be different. Fol- low your gut when it comes to someone acting inconsistently. Pour more time, attention and cash into your home, family and plans for the future. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Follow your heart and use your skills and best attri- butes to get things done your way. Love is in the stars, and a romantic evening will pay off. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Proceed with caution. Don't give in to someone making demands on your time or money. Consider where you can make the most difference and follow through on your plans. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Your quick wit will put you in the spotlight. Strut your stuff and make personal changes that will boost your morale and result in compliments. Romance is encouraged. Horoscope By Eugenia Last TUESDAY, APRIL 26 TUESDAY,APRIL26,2016 REDBLUFFDAILYNEWS.COM |YOURDAILYBREAK | 3 B