Issue link: https://www.epageflip.net/i/667345
Hermothersetusup on our first date. "My daughter just graduated. She's really creative, very cute, and, well, you're al- ways joking about hav- ing noth- ing to do on the weekends — so, I thought…" "Invasion of the Body Snatchers," followed by chocolate pancakes at IHOP, was our first meet- ing. Within months, we lived together — much to the chagrin of her par- ents. Before a year passed on the calendar, we were married; moving from Redding to Bakersfield. I worked as a nighttime DJ starting at 5:00 PM. Her job began at 7:00 AM. Arriving home at one AM, I'd wake her up so we could spend time to- gether before going back to sleep. At six AM, she'd get me up so we could do the same, before I re- turned to bed. When you're in your twenties, you can do it. Two years later, she was pregnant and we re- located to the North Coast. A couple years passed and our second son arrived. People who have a baby because they think it will bring them closer together are horribly misguided. The added stress and cost of chil- drearing, plus the loss of half our income, chipped away at our fairy tale castle. Home ownership and long work hours ac- celerated the decay. Dragging myself home exhausted at day's end was her long-awaited cue to relax, leaving me with household and child chores until I collapsed on the couch. There was no "us," only "she" and "me." Drifting ever further apart, we became resent- ful and angry. Overeating was my method of han- dling it; she had her own vices. Our house became an armed camp. The marriage counselor even- tually recommended di- vorce attorneys. For awhile we co-par- ented; one week "on," one week "off." But while I dealt with my demons through therapy and weight reduction, she fol- lowed a different road, eventually severing con- tact with us and moving away. Know that my intent is not to apply blame. The cause of our breakup was not her fault nor was it mine; together we were a mismatched blend; never meant to share a life. Apart, who knows what would have happened? That is also not to say that many good things didn't come from our time together. The last time I spoke with her was actually pleasant. I think she was too embarrassed to reach out to our sons so I'd said I'd be glad to build a bridge, but construction began too late. Years of smoking took their toll; she was diagnosed with terminal throat cancer. In an attempt to heal 15 years of distance, my son invited her to his wed- ding. She planned to at- tend but it was not to be, her health failing fast. This week, at 58, sur- rounded by close family, she passed. Neither my sons nor myself know how to han- dle the whirlwind of emo- tions swirling around her death. As one told me, "I look at her many ways more as a good friend I used to know than I do as 'mom.' After all, I haven't seen her since high school." That doesn't take away the sense of loss or sor- row we all feel. Each of us is flawed — and each of us is as good as we need to be, the strange paradox of being human. Doing the best we can, we muddle for- ward, trying to figure out the rules, hoping to leave the planet a little bet- ter than how we found it. It's horribly sad that her time on Earth couldn't last longer. Mostly, I remem- ber good times; both of us wearing white car- penter jeans and black T-shirts on our week- ends together; work- ing as a team at the ra- dio station, driving to Gold Beach for short get- aways. I will also never forget how well she could sing. When she sang, I'm convinced angels gath- ered to listen. The difference between then and now is she's closer to the audience. Rest in peace Joan. You are — and always will be — loved and missed. Scott"Q"Marcusis a nationally known weight loss expert for baby boomers and the CRP — Chief Recovering Perfectionist — of www. ThisTimeIMeanIt.com. Check out his new series of free weight loss videos and other inspirational material at www. FourMonthsToGoal.com. SCOTTMARCUS ReflectionsonJoan, who will be missed Scott Marcus An enthusiastic meeting was held at the Chamber of Commerce yesterday af- ternoon in the interest of the Peach Growers' Asso- ciation. G. K. King, pres- ident of the Chamber of Commerce , presided. T. H. Ramsay made an interest- ing talk and was followed by Director McKelvy, of the association, and Secretary Robertson, of the Fresno Chamber of Commerce. N. T. Heaton of Jelly Ferry also spoke briefly. As a result of the meet- ing, about $1000 worth of stock was subscribed and about 100 acres of peach orchard signed up. There will probably be another final canvas made of the local field, if necessary to raise more money before May 1st. Tehama county has now subscribed for about 1000 acres of peaches, about half of which is in Corn- ing and vicinity, and the remainder in the territory tributary to Red Bluff. — April 15, 1916 100 YEARS AGO... Big meeting Friday for organizing peach association The following informa- tion is compiled from Red Bluff Police Department, Red Bluff Fire, Tehama County Sheriff's Depart- ment, Corning Police De- partment, Corning Fire, Cal Fire and California High- way Patrol logs. Arrest EricJasonGallo:43,of Red Bluff was arrested Wednesday on Stealhead Court and booked into Tehama County Jail on charges of inflicting corporal injury on spouse or cohabi- tant, assault with a deadly weapon not firearm or force: great bodily injury likely and felon in possession of fire- arm. Bail was $123,000. Sergio Manuel Martinez: 26, of Red Bluff was ar- rested Wednesday at One Stop on Walnut Street and booked into jail on person prohibited from possessing ammunition and two counts of felon in possession of a concealed firearm. Bail was $73,000. Assist South Jackson Street: A man called 911from the Marci Ann Apartments to report his wife le the house without permission and when he located her she told him she no longer wanted to be with him. Clam chowder 99W: A woman reportedly had a bowl of clam chowder thrown at her by another woman she knew who was causing a disturbance about 9a.m. Wednesday at the California Inn. The woman and her husband le the area in a white Nissan Al- tima, going south on 99at a high rate of speed. Crash River Park: a vehicle hit a light pole in the city park about 3p.m. Wednesday, knocking it to the ground and causing minor damage to the vehicle. No one was injured. Kicked out Edith Avenue: An off-duty officer in the area of the Valero gas station reported about 6:45p.m. Wednesday being out with an 11-year- old youth who had report- edly been kicked out of a vehicle by his mother, who then merged onto the free- way. The mother of the boy went to the Corning Police lobby where she reported her son, who has Atten- tion Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, was arguing with her in the vehicle while on their way to church and she kicked him out. Stolen Sale Lane: A white 1996 Chevrolet Express van stolen sometime between Saturday and Sunday was recovered Monday in Chico and returned to the owner. 8100block State Route 99E: A 14-year-old reported his chrome 20-inch frame Huffy bicycle had been sto- len Wednesday. 4400block Hubbard Avenue: A woman reported Wednesday a ernoon that someone had cut her fence and removed a cow and calf from her pasture. The gold- colored black Angus Beefalo cow was not located, but the calf was found about 3:45p.m. The woman called again about 8p.m. to report her fence had been dam- aged where she had repaired it earlier. Suspicious Jackson and Aloha streets: A man with a blue bandana was reportedly pushing his bicycle through the area about 7:45a.m. Wednesday watching chil- dren going to school. He was given a warning. Yolo Street, Corning: A 911 call about 8p.m. Wednes- day reported four shots had been fired in an alley and a white vehicle was seen leav- ing the area. Warning Antelope Boulevard: A man in a jeans and sandals with socks and carrying a backpack was given a tres- pass admonishment a er he allegedly made a statement he wanted to kill someone while at the 76gas station about 7:15a.m. Wednesday. Police Logs The Westside Grange will be holding a yard sale and flea market 8 a.m. to 4 p.m. Saturday, May 7 at 20794 Walnut St. in Red Bluff. The community is in- vited to buy space and ta- bles to sell their own trea- sures. Space rental is $10 and table rental is $10. The Grangers will have their famous grilled hot dogs and onions. Call June Cooper at 527- 6214 for reservations or in- formation. WESTSIDE GRANGE Yard sale and flea market spaces available for rental COURTESY PHOTO Pictured is a previous yard sale and flea market at the Westside Grange. SACRAMENTO In an on- going effort to serve Cal- ifornia's veterans and their families, the Cal- ifornia Department of Veterans Affairs seeks Memorial Day events for its online calendar. Calendar listings are free and viewable by any- one who visits the CalVet website at calvet.ca.gov. To submit your Memo- rial Day or other event for consideration on Cal- Vet's calendar, send the following information to PAO@calvet.ca.gov: Event date, name or type of event, start and end times, name of sponsor- ing organization, venue name and address, con- tact person plus phone number or e-mail ad- dress, cost of admission, if any, and anticipated attendance. If pre-registration is required, provide a link and the registration deadline and indicate the event is in Northern California. To view the Cal- Vet calendar online, go to https://www.calvet. ca.gov/home/Calendar. VETERANS State seeks info on Memorial Day events The Astrobiology Stu- dent Intern Program, a partnership between Red Bluff High School, Lassen Volcanic National Park and NASA Ames Research Cen- ter, will hold its annual in- tern recognition night and public lecture 6-8 p.m. Thursday, April 21 at the Red Bluff High School Li- brary Media Center. The astrobiology interns from the school will give a 45-minute oral presentation on the results of their year- long research project study- ing Warner Valley at Lassen Park. The students will address the big picture implications of their project. By examin- ing the hydrothermal envi- ronments at Lassen, their research will help NASA di- rect the search for evidence of microbial life in ancient hydrothermal systems on Mars. The night will begin with akeynotelecturebyDr.Dave Des Marais, the principal in- vestigator of the NASA As- trobiology Institute's Ames Researcher Center Team, ti- tled "Lassen, Mars Explora- tion and Life." Des Marais is a member of the science teams of NA- SA's 2003 Spirit and Op- portunity Rover mission, the 2004 Mars Reconnais- sance Orbiter mission and the 2012 Curiosity Rover mission. The public is invited to join in celebrating the im- portant contributions of Red Bluff High School stu- dents to NASA research and exploration programs. RED BLUFF HIGH Students to celebrate research partnership with NASA, Lassen beadadtoday. Take time to v i s i t w w w . f a t h e r h o o d . g o v Submissionsmay be posted on an online calendar RUNNINGS ROOFING and CONSTRUCTION SheetMetalRoofing ResidentialCommercial • Composition • Shingle • Single Ply Membrane ServingTehamaCounty 530-527-5789 530-209-5367 NoMoney Down! "NoJobTooSteep" " No Job Too Flat" FREE ESTIMATES CA.Lic#829089B&C39 ARetirementCommunity 750 David Avenue Red Bluff, CA. 96080 (530) 527-9193 www.tehamaestatesretirement.com Tours Provided Daily TUSCAN POOL SUPPLY 40 Chestnut Ave • 527-3262 CLS 944446 EarlyBirdSpringSpecial 50#3"ChlorineTabs 2008 prices $110 .00 price good thru 4/30 STOVEJUNCTION The TheNorthState'spremiersupplierofstoves 22825 Antelope Blvd., Red Bluff 530-528-2221 • Fax 530-528-2229 www.thestovejunction.com Over 25 years of experience Tues-Sat9am-5pm• ClosedSun&Mon Now Carrying! GreenMountainGrills & Accessories Serving Butte, Glenn & Tehama Counties Smog Check (MOST CARS & PICK-UPS) 527-9841 • 195 S. Main St. starting at $ 29 95 + $ 8 25 certificate Shop Equipped With 4SmogMachines For Fast Service No appointment Needed www.RedBluffDailyNews.com Facebook:facebook.com/RBDailyNews Twitter: @RedBluffNews Customer service....................(530) 737-5048 Fax....................................................................................... 530-527-5774 Hours: 8a.m. to 5p.m. Monday through Friday Main Office...........................................527-2151 Write to us........................................P.O. Box 220, Red Bluff, CA 96080 Office...............................................728 Main St, Red Bluff, CA 96080 All Access subscription rates, Tuesday through Saturday: $7.24per week. Digital-only subscription, Tuesday through Saturday $2.99per week. Print-only subscription, Tuesday through Saturday, $4.25per week. Business and professional rate, Tuesday through Friday: $2.19for four weeks. Prices included all applicable sales tax. (USPS 458-200) The Red Bluff Daily News is an adjudicated daily newspaper of general circulation, County of Tehama, Superior Court Decree 9670, May 25, 1955. Published Tuesday through Saturday by California Newspapers Partnership. Postmaster: Please send address changes to: P.O. Box 220, Re d Bluff, CA 96080© 2012Daily News Postage Paid Periodicals NEWSROOM News Tips........527-2151, press 7 Sports............................737-5043 Obituaries .....................737-5046 Fax..................................527-9251 clerk@redbluffdailynews.com ADVERTISING Classified.........1-855-667-2255 Gayla Eckels .................737-5044 Suzy Noble....................737-5056 Fax..........................530.527.5774 advertise@redbluffdailynews.com Production manager Sandy Valdivia..........................................sandy@redbluffdailynews.com Publisher, Advertising director Greg Stevens......................................gstevens@redbluffdailynews.com Editor Chip Thompson........................................editor@redbluffdailynews.com Sports editor.........................................sports@redbluffdailynews.com Circulation manager Kathy Hogan.......................................... khogan@redbluffdailynews.com Home Delivery Subscription Terms & Conditions: Your subscription to the Red Bluff Daily News is a continuous subscription for as long as the service is offered. You will be billed at the interval you have selected, which shall be your Billing Term. You may cancel by calling Customer Service at 530-527-2151ext 2. You must cancel before the end of your Billing Term. No unused portion of a Billing Term will be refunded. No credit is offered for vacation service interruptions. Future prices are subject to change. All home delivery subscriptions will include the Thanksgiving Day special edition which will be charged at the normal Thursday rate plus $3.00. All home delivery subscriptions will include no more than five additional special editions annually, that will be charged at the normal daily rate plus $3.00, which will be charged to the subscriber's account. To opt out of any special editions, please contact custom er service at 530-527-2151ext 2. Receiving these special editions will cause your selected billing term to expire sooner. A portion of your subscription price is allocated to digital online content. Digital online content is not subject to California sales tax. The sale of printed newspapers is subject to sales tax reimbursement per Cal. Code Regs., tit. 18, § 1590(b)(1) COMMUNITY » redbluffdailynews.com Friday, April 15, 2016 MORE AT FACEBOOK.COM/RBDAILYNEWS AND TWITTER.COM/REDBLUFFNEWS A4