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FEATURES Dear Annie: My hus- band and I have been mar- ried for 11 years. We have three young children and a great relationship. We recently decided to move from Boston to Geor- gia. My husband, children and I believe it is the right choice. The problem is my mother-in-law. Right now, we live within a mile of her. She is devastated that we are moving and is blaming me. She says I am taking her son away from her and that we are making a big mistake. When I pointed out the exciting profession- al and personal opportunities avail- able to us, she said we are being rash. Our decision is the product of much discussion and analysis over the past two years. Others have not been privy to those conversations, so I understand why my mother-in- law thinks we are rushing things. But when I explain, it falls on deaf ears. Annie's Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar Dear Ready: For 11 years, your mother-in-law has had her son and er-in-law to focus less on how this affects her and more on the positive impact it will have on her son and grandchildren? I worry the move will drive a permanent wedge between us. It's hard for my hus- band because she is framing it as a choice between his wife and his mother. — Ready To Go in the Northeast Is there any way to get my moth- grandchildren within walk- ing distance. Please try to understand that the move is not only a shock to her, it is breaking her heart. And while you see opportunity, she sees uncertainty. If your husband had been offered a terrific job in Georgia, she might be more accepting. Your husband should be the one to talk to his mother about this decision. Don't argue with her. Simply reas- sure her repeatedly that you will remain as close as possible, that you will visit as often as you can and welcome her to your new home, and that the kids will Skype or Face- Time with her daily so she can see them. It will take her a while to get used to the idea, and she will always miss you, but things will eventually settle down. Hang in there. Dear Annie: I am a former Catholic. In my 20s, I left the church and eventually admitted to myself that I am an atheist. Except for those who share or respect my convictions, my relatives and friends don't know this. The problem is, I get many emails of a religious nature with the request that I forward them to oth- ers. I take them in the spirit in which they are offered, but I can't support a philosophy I don't believe in. So far, I have resorted to deleting the religious part and forwarding the rest of the message, or I have sent the email back to the senders only. It grieves me to resort to sub- Thursday, May 10, 2012 – Daily News 5A Family move is upsetting to mother-in-law terfuge, but I do not want to alienate the senders, especially my relatives. I don't have many left. — Brooklyn Dear Brooklyn: You are taking these emails way too seriously. You are under no obligation to pass along what most people consider spam. Your religious beliefs or lack of them are no one's business. For- ward what you like, ignore what you don't, return to sender or do anything else that clears your inbox and doesn't anger the relatives. Dear Annie: ''Sister Wives in Kentucky'' said her ex-husband's third wife shared her taste in gifts, wrapping paper and kitchen decor. She wondered whether there are others like her. I live in Kansas, and my best friend lives in Massachusetts. We met 10 years ago on an Alaskan cruise. We discovered that we use the same shampoo, toothpaste, soap and hairdryer, read the same authors, love the same TV shows and generally know what the other is thinking. My mother passed away the year before that cruise, and I believe with all my heart that Mom set it up for us to meet. — S. Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. Youth at SRDC Watershed Celebration Special to the DN Saturday May 12th the Sacramento River Dis- covery Center "Celebrate the Water" event from 9 a.m. to 1 p.m. under "the old oak tree" in the Dis- covery Garden there will be more things for kids to do this year. Make a quail call, learn about and make an aquifer in a cup and more. The Boy Scouts will start the event with a flag ceremo- ny. There will be a couple of Alpaca's where young people can come eye to eye with animals with very soft fur. There will be visits from Frank & Frances Fish, Smokey Bear and even a great horned owl and a turkey vulture. There will be a basket weaving demonstration. Whttenberg Country School will offer plants for sale and be providing information on the Sum- mer Camps program being led by Zach Whit- ten. The adults will also have opportunities to Courtesy photo Frank and Frances Fish will be visiting the Sacramento River Discovery Center's Watershed celebration from 9 a.m. to 1 p.m. Saturday. learn and have fun. Infor- mation about water quali- ty, water irrigation sys- tems, the new REAP. 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So is a high-fiber diet good for you or not? brings health benefits DEAR DOC- DEAR READ- ER: Many claims have been made about the health benefits of fiber. Yet studies have dis- agreed. With all the back and forth, I can under- stand why people are con- fused. And why they sometimes tune out and say, "Call me when you've discovered the truth." Without claiming to have discovered the truth, let me tell you what I think the best evidence shows. First, a word of explanation about fiber. It's a form of indigestible carbohydrate that's found mainly in plant foods. Fiber was once thought to play an important role in preventing colon can- cer. As you've read, that turned out not to be the case. In my view, most of the evidence is against a protective effect, at least in economically devel- oped nations like the Unit- ed States. However, diets rich in fiber are still good for your health in many other ways. For example, we know that fiber slightly reduces bad (LDL) cho- lesterol. It improves insulin resistance (a com- mon precursor to dia- betes). And it is linked to a lower rate of heart dis- ease and obesity. In addition, fiber increases the bulk of foods and creates a feeling of fullness. As a result, fiber may help you avoid overeating and becoming overweight. You should aim to eat between 21 and 38 grams of fiber daily, based on your age and gender, as follows: — Men ages 50 and younger: 38 grams/day; — Women ages 50 and younger: 25 grams/day; — Men over age 50: 30 grams/day; — Women over age 50: Dr. K by Anthony L. Komaroff, M.D. bread, whole-grain cere- als, brown rice, bran and oats are all good sources of fiber. In particular, split peas, red kidney beans, raspberries, whole-wheat spaghetti, pears, broccoli and apples are all good choices. We have more informa- tion on fiber in our Special Health Report, "Healthy Eating." (Learn more about this report at AskDoctorK.com, or call 877-649-9457 toll-free to order it.) You can also consume 21 grams/day. On average, Americans eat only about 15 grams of fiber a day. So chances are, you could benefit from eat- ing more fiber. Fruits, vegeta- bles and whole- grain foods such as whole-wheat fiber in over-the-counter supplements, which pro- vide some of the same benefits as fiber in foods. Fiber supplements come as pills or powders. Be sure to take them with plenty of water to maxi- mize their benefits. The recently marketed "taste- less" fiber powder, which can be added to any liquid (hot or cold) you drink, is particularly effective. However, the scientific evidence for the health benefits of fiber comes primarily from studies of fiber in food, not fiber in supplements. And the fiber-rich foods I listed earlier also contain lots of other health-giving sub- stances. fiber probably does not prevent colon cancer, it really is good for your health in other ways. A diet full of fiber-rich foods will bring you loads of benefits. Bottom line: Although Dr. Komaroff is a physician and professor at Harvard Medical School. To send questions, go to AskDoctorK.com, or write: Ask Doctor K, 10 Shattuck St., Second Floor, Boston, MA 02115. Clark's Floral Beautiful Flowers (inside Clark's Drug Store) Mother's Day 824-3971 for Open Sunday 9:30-1:30 2126 Solano St. Corning Tehama County DAILYNEWS Farm Bureau and RED BLUFF TEHAMACOUNTY T H E V O I C E O F T E H A M A C O U N T Y S I N C E 1 8 8 5 Candidates Forum co-sponsoring the The Races Invited: US Representative District 1 Assembly District 3 Superior Court Judge 1 Superior Court Judge 2 Supervisor 1st District Supervisor 2nd District Supervisor 5th District May 23 ★ 6:30 pm Red Bluff Veteran's Hall Why - So that the voters of Tehama County will be educated and better able to make their voting choices.