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FEATURES Dear Annie: My wife and I were both married before. Last year, she con- fessed that she'd had a 35- year affair with a married doctor. At the time, she was in her early 20s and he was in his early 40s. After 35 years, she decided he was too old for her and ended things. will not judge her or go look- ing for old boyfriends. It might help to have this con- versation with a counselor who can mediate. Dear Annie: My in-laws name, but when I did some checking, I discovered it was a fake name. I am not upset about her past. But I am terri- bly unhappy that she is lying to me. She met this doctor in his office, so she knows his name. How can she expect me to believe she didn't know the identity of a guy with whom she had a 35-year affair? I no longer trust her and don't like the dishonesty. Is there any way to trust her again, or do I move on? — Lost in El Paso She told me the doctor's Annie's Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar Dear Lost: She may be protecting this man's identity because she doesn't want you to confront him. Or you may know him. Or she could be lying about the affair. She obvi- ously didn't expect you to check the veracity of her story. Now you need to discuss it with her. Tell her what you discovered. Ask her why she lied. Quite frankly, it serves no pur- pose for you to know this man's name, and you should say so (and mean it). She is less likely to hide information when she believes you Whiskeytown National Recreation Area invites everyone to take the Whiskeytown Waterfall Challenge as part of the larger National Park Week celebration, which begins on Saturday April 21 and continues through Sunday April 29. Designated as a fee- free period, this special event encourages every- one to "Picture Yourself in a National Park" and experience the many sig- nificant national treasures and natural wonders throughout the country. Visitors will have a free entrance to any National Park Service site, includ- ing Whiskeytown, where they can enjoy a variety of activities during this cele- bration. Whiskeytown is offer- I don't think she has ever sought therapy for her emo- tional pain. To this day, she continues to badmouth her ex-hus- band in front of her children and grandchildren. She seems to vent mostly to me, probably because I'm related by marriage and she figures I'll be more receptive. Sometimes she'll make up stories about him. I believe she wants me to hate him. The truth is, I don't. In spite of what happened, he has been a won- derful father and grandfather, and we love him.How can I get her to stop bashing him without seeming to take sides and hurting her feel- ings? — Dumped Upon Dear Dumped: It is perfectly OK to tell your mother-in-law that you don't want to hear such criti- cisms and simply ask her to stop. Or get up and leave when she starts in. But you might also say with genuine concern that she seems obsessed with her ex and you are worried about her mental health. Suggest she seek therapy not only to vent to a divorced 10 years ago because of my father-in- law's homosexual infidelity. Shortly after the divorce, my mother-in-law attempted sui- cide. Thursday, April 12, 2012 – Daily News 5A Wife admits past affair, but gives fake name professional, but to learn how to move forward with her life. Dear Annie: I'd like to share how my family handled a situation similar to that of ''Old in Indiana,'' the 90-year-old woman who won- dered how to divide her possessions among her daughters and daughters- in-law. I'm one of three siblings, and the folks had several generational heir- looms that none of us wanted to see sold or given to one of us as a show of favoritism. Our parents put num- bers on each item, and then we drew matching numbers from a bowl. We agreed that if one of us wanted an item someone else had drawn, an offer could be made to trade or pay its monetary value. Anyone who didn't want something they were given had to give notice to the other two siblings before putting it up for sale, allowing the others to buy it and keep it in the family. All of this was written down and agreed to in the presence of a lawyer, and added to the will. There have been no regrets or disputes. — A Happy Heir in Nebraska Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. Take the waterfall challenge at Whiskeytown Carry an EpiPen to treat allergic reaction TOR K: My sister- in-law has a bee- sting allergy. What happens if she gets stung? Can it be life-threatening? DEAR READ- DEAR DOC- ER: For someone with such an aller- gy, a sting can be very serious — yes, even life- threatening. If left untreat- ed, an allergic person could die within minutes to hours after a bee sting. Bee-sting allergies — along with some other allergies, which we'll dis- cuss — are so serious because they can lead to anaphylaxis, a severe, sometimes life-threaten- ing, allergic reaction. It occurs within minutes of exposure to an allergy- causing substance (aller- gen). It is also sometimes called anaphylactic shock. The symptoms of aller- gies vary widely. They can be annoying but largely harmless — a runny nose from hay fever, for exam- ple. Other times, symp- toms can be much worse. Anaphylaxis is the Dr. K by Anthony L. Komaroff, M.D. that anaphylaxis has caused the arteries of the heart to go into spasm, a condi- tion that can cause a heart attack. Above all, the swelling of the throat, if severe, can make it hard to breathe. gies aren't the only cause of anaphylaxis. Severe food allergies — eggs, seafood, nuts and peanuts are common culprits — can lead to anaphylaxis. So can drug allergies, especially to antibiotics in the penicillin and cephalosporin group. Injected anesthetics, Bee-sting aller- like procaine and lido- caine, can cause anaphy- laxis. The same goes for some dyes used in med- ical diagnostic tests, and latex and rubber products used by health care work- ers. most severe allergic reac- tion. When this occurs, the immune system releases chemicals that cause potentially serious symptoms, including: — Rapid pulse; — Low blood pressure; — Dizziness and faint- ing; — Wheezing, difficulty breathing, coughing; — Itching or burning sensations of the skin, and hives; — Paleness, bluish skin color; — Swelling of the lips, tongue or eyes; — Chest tightness or chest pain; Symptoms usually occur within seconds to minutes of the bee sting or other allergen exposure. For some people, symp- toms are triggered only if an exposure is followed by vigorous exercise. Anaphylaxis can improve quickly within a few hours if treated right away. With more serious symptoms, it may take a few days to fully recover after treatment. — Gastrointestinal problems; Courtesy photo town Waterfall Challenge, obtain a free Waterfall Challenge Passport at the visitor center before head- ing out to one of park's waterfalls. Once at the falls write a personal mes- sage in the trail register located at the base of each waterfall, then use the ing several opportunities to explore and enjoy your park throughout Waterfall Week. A picture perfect and healthy way to experi- ence the park is to take the Whiskeytown Waterfall Challenge and visit all of the four major waterfalls. To take the Whiskey- Waterfall Challenge Pass- port to make a rubbing from a bronze plaque unique to each waterfall. Return the completed passport with all four rub- bings from Brandy Creek, Boulder Creek, Crystal Creek and Whiskeytown Falls to the visitor center and receive a special reward, while supplies last. Whiskeytown and Brandy Creek falls will also be offered during Waterfall Week. Reservations for the hikes are required and can be made by calling the visitor center at 246-1225. Ranger-led hikes to Chad Hallock, CEO of Budget Blinds, Inc., fran- chisor of the local edition in Redding that serves all of Shasta, Trinity and parts of Tehama County, steps up to the plate on an episode of Undercover Boss scheduled to air Friday on CBS. CEO visits Redding shop on reality show The episode will feature Hallock trading in his suit for a Budget Blinds polo shirt as he works hands on in the window covering manufacturing process and then goes door to door, taking part in customer consultations and product installations. The Redding shop is in its 10th year run by Cotton- wood resident Jerry Bay. 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For more informa- tion about the WES Open House, please call 225- 0111. For additional informa- tion, call Clinton Kane at 242-3451. To learn more about visiting Whiskey- town National Recreation Area, visit www.nps.gov/whis. — Throat swelling, with a feeling of throat tightness, a lump in the throat or obstructed air flow; The most dangerous symptoms include low blood pressure and chest pain or tightness. These symptoms can indicate Anaphylaxis is usually treated with an epineph- rine (adrenaline) injec- tion. Your sister-in-law probably already carries a syringe preloaded with epinephrine, or EpiPen. If she doesn't, she should. An epinephrine injection can keep her throat from swelling shut and suffo- cating her. I have several patients alive because they always car- ried their EpiPen with them. today Dr. Komaroff is a physician and professor at Harvard Medical School. 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