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Tuesday, March 13, 2012 – Daily News 5A FEATURES Etiquette errors enrage estranged equals Dear Annie: My hus- band, ''Rick,'' had been close friends with "Edward'' for 30 years. We used to get together fre- quently, and Edward was always kind and considerate and someone we highly respected. Then, Edward got engaged to "Michelle.'' I was pregnant at the time, and my doctor put me on bed rest because I had already been hospitalized once. I could not travel out of state for any of the festivities. However, Rick was gone nearly every weekend attending the engagement party, bachelor party and wedding. He said Edward was not acting like himself during these visits, saying he was uncharacteris- tically inconsiderate and strange. Two months later, I gave birth to a girl, and we invited Edward and Michelle to the baptism. Edward called to say they would not be attending because Michelle was hurt that I didn't come to the wed- ding. She said my absence meant I did not support their marriage, and they needed time to ''heal'' from this insult. Michelle also was offended that Rick's wedding speech did not make enough men- tion of her. Annie's Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar fronted Edward and disinvit- ed them to the baptism. Edward then claimed it was a miscommunication. When Edward and Michelle announced that they were pregnant, we sent a thought- ful baby gift, which Edward and Michelle did not acknowledge. Rick is determined to rebuild the friendship. He calls Edward at least once a month, but the calls are often unanswered and unre- turned. It's been a year since "the phone call,'' and I'm still furious, but Rick is grieving. Edward does not deserve my husband's loyalty and forgiveness, but for Rick's sake, I want them to reconcile. What can I do? — Scorned and Angry Dear Scorned: We are so sorry that Edward's marriage has thrown a wrench into his relationship with Rick, but these things happen. The only one who can fix it is Edward. Be supportive of Rick by sympa- thizing without being negative about Edward or Michelle. Encour- age new friendships by introducing yourselves to other couples with young children. The best thing you can do for your husband is to help him move forward one day at a time. Rick and I were livid. Not only did my doctor forbid me from trav- eling to the wedding, but Rick spent a long time composing a thoughtful, funny and heartfelt speech and even delivered some of it in Michelle's native language. Rick angrily con- The following defen- dants were sentenced in Tehama County Superior Court, according to the Tehama County District Attorney's Office: —————— Recent State Prison Commitments • Randall Keith Reeves was sentenced to four years in state prison for D.U.I. causing injury, special allegation-Prior Strike. Brief history: Reeves was driving on the freeway with a passenger when he lost control of his vehicle and crashed. Upon contacting Reeves the officer determined he was under the influence of a controlled substance and was subsequently arrested and taken into custody. The passenger in the vehicle suffered minor injuries. • John Delbert Kenyon was sentenced to two years in state prison for transportation of a con- trolled substance. Kenyon was originally granted formal probation. He violated his probation when he failed to appear at probation for scheduled appointments and tested positive for methampheta- mine. • Ricky James Candler was sentenced to two years in state prison for receiving stolen property, Dear Annie: I am a skilled pro- fessional and have been unem- ployed for a year. I have applied for many positions via online postings that are often anonymous. After sending my resume and cover letter, I am frustrated that I never hear back. I have no idea whether they received my information or read it, and there is no way to follow up, as I have no idea who they are. I know they probably get a lot of applica- tions, but a short courtesy note would be nice, even if it's ''thanks but no thanks.'' — Oregon Dear Oregon: We completely agree. Unfortunately, because these sites do not have a contact person, no one feels a personal obligation to respond. Even an automated response saying your resume was received would be a step in the right direction. Dear Annie: ''Sibling Support'' said her mother is always asking for money for the younger siblings, but spends it on herself. The next time she has occasion to talk to her moth- er, she should open the conversation by saying, ''Mom, I'm a little short this week. Could you possibly lend me a few dollars?'' I guarantee this will nip those requests for help in the bud without having to refuse her outright. ''Sibling Support'' can then buy treats for the younger sib- lings directly, leaving Mom out of the loop. — St. Maarten, Dutch Caribbean Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. COURT ROUND-UP stolen vehicle. Candler entered a resi- dence, stole several items including victim's car keys and proceeded to drive away in victim's car. Candler was eventually located on the side of a road standing next to the stolen vehicle. As the offi- cers attempted to contact Candler he fled on foot. The officers pursued Can- dler on foot until he dove off a cliff into the river. Candler was eventually detained and taken into custody. Recent County Jail Commitments • Toby Joe Riggs was sentenced to 90 days in Tehama County Jail for possession of concentrat- ed cannabis. Agents served a search warrant at Riggs' resi- dence and located several marijuana plants and con- centrated cannabis. • Travis Lloyd Kevie was sentenced to 180 days in Tehama County Jail for unlawful driving or taking of a vehicle. An officer conducted a traffic stop on a vehicle driven by Kevie. The offi- cer was advised the vehi- cle Kevie was driving had been reported stolen. Kevie was arrested and taken into custody. Recent Proposition 36 Commitments Note: All cases where- in a defendant is sen- tenced per the terms of Proposition 36 are not at the request of the Tehama County District Attor- ney's Office. Per the requirements of Proposi- tion 36, a defendant who possesses drugs cannot be sentenced to confinement time in jail or prison. Instead, the court must place defendant on proba- tion and require drug treatment alone. Per the requirements of Proposi- tion 36, only upon a third drug related probation violation may the court impose confinement time. In the event the defendant violates a non-drug relat- ed term of probation the court may then elect to sentence defendant to jail or prison. The Tehama County District Attorney's Office contends that each criminal case is unique and that in cer- tain, specific, cases a defendant should be sen- tenced to a combination of drug treatment and jail time. We further contend that in other specific cases where a defendant has an exten- sive criminal record and/or a history of non- compliance with either previous grants of proba- tion or previous grants of drug treatment, a state prison sentence should properly be imposed. • Michael Benjamin Haber was sentenced to Prop. 36 probation for transportation of a con- trolled substance. An officer conducted a traffic stop on a vehicle in which Haber was a pas- senger. The driver of the vehicle was on searchable probation and the officer proceeded to conduct a search of his vehicle. The officer located a backpack belonging to Haber, con- ducted a consent search and located marijuana and methadone. Upcoming Court Dates -Trials, Prelimi- nary Hearings(PX) & Pre Trial Conferences(PTC) • Joseph Dailey Froome and Daniel Miguel Ludwig will appear in court at 8:30 a.m. on March 28. Department is yet to be determined. Both men are facing charges of cultivat- ing marijuana and posses- sion of marijuana for sale. Froome faces additional charge of eight counts of money laundering. Agents served a search warrant at the defendant's warehouse off of Baker Road in Red Bluff. Inside they found over 400 mari- juana plants. TIDE agents also located over 30 pounds of processed mar- ijuana. Fowl weather a boon for poachers No one welcomed the recent storms more than California's 70,000 waterfowl hunters. Rain and wind in California's central valley has salvaged what was an extreme- ly slow hunting season for water- fowl. All of the central valley wildlife areas and national wildlife refuges with hunt programs report- ed increased hunter success aver- ages last weekend. The vast majority of hunters in the field were law abiding and ethi- cal. But wardens cited three Butte County men and one San Jose man who stepped far out of bounds by shooting a total of 108 ducks in two days. California regulations provide for a duck hunting limit of seven ducks per day with 14 in possession if taken over two or more days. Col- lectively, the four men had an over- limit of 52 ducks, with additional individual species violations. On Jan. 20, Butte County War- den Tyson Hulse observed unusual behavior from the three men that suggested they might be "double tripping." Double tripping is a term used to describe when a poacher takes a limit of ducks or geese, brings them back to his residence, then goes out again in an attempt to shoot more. 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Hulse offered a special thank you to the Butte County Fish and Game Commission for their recent purchase of high quality binoculars and a spotting scope, without which the case would not have been possi- ble. K W I K K U T S Family Hair Salon $200 REGULAR HAIRCUT off with coupon Not good with other offers 1064 South Main St., Red Bluff • 529-3540 Reg. $13.95 Expires 2/29/12 Lift in Dave's Honor Drug shortages worry doctors DEAR DOC- TOR K: It seems like every day in the paper I read about doctors and hospitals running out of medicines because the phar- maceutical com- panies can't manu- facture enough of them. Why are we having these prob- lems? Dr. K by Anthony L. Komaroff, M.D. DEAR READER: You aren't just imagining this; the problem really has gotten worse. There have been shortfalls of com- mon drugs for ADHD, cancer, pain and heart dis- ease. Like other doctors, I'm frustrated. Under- standably, our patients are scared. Although drug short- ages are not new, they seem to be on the upswing. According to The Associated Press, tracking information from the University of Utah Drug Information Service shows 267 newly reported drug shortages in the United States in 2011, up from just 58 in 2004. Clearly, this is not in the public interest. For example, the drug methotrexate is in short supply. The Dana Farber Cancer Institute, one of the affiliated centers at Harvard Medical School, played a major role in dis- covering that this drug could treat and even cure some kinds of cancer. Now the institute can't get enough of the drug for its patients. Many people believe that "the market" is the best way to deliver critical human services and prod- ucts. At least at this point, it doesn't seem to be working. Some of my expert colleagues here at Harvard, such as Dr. Jerry Avorn, favor more regula- tion by the Food and Drug Administration (FDA). The FDA surely does have the authority to mon- itor the production of medicines. In fact, the clo- sure of some drug manu- facturing plants because of quality control prob- lems is contributing to the unavailability of some drugs. A larger problem, according to Avorn and others, is the desire of drug companies to maximize their profit. For exam- ple, there have been many drug company mergers. One important goal of some mergers is to shed "unnecessary expenses" — which has meant shuttering some manufacturing facilities. Neither the FDA nor any other governmental agency has the authority to stop the closing of a drug manufacturing plant because the closure might lead to a shortage of a par- ticular drug. The FDA can some- times help ease a drug shortage. It can approve a manufacturer distributing a drug that it has in stock when the drug has expired or is close to expiring. The FDA also can help ramp up production of hard-to- get drugs by speeding approval of new produc- tion lines. It also can look for overseas sources for specific drugs, after checking their safety. The FDA has just announced it will allow methotrexate manufactured outside the U.S. to be sold here. The FDA has a Drug Shortage Action Plan. Drug manufacturers are encouraged to share infor- mation on shortages, but are not required to do so. If your doctor recom- mends a drug that is in short supply, ask about other medications that might work for you. Also, your pharmacist may be able to track down a source. When a medica- tion is in short supply, be especially wary of Inter- net or faxed advertise- ments for alternatives (often highly priced and sometimes counterfeit products). Finally, if you've had trouble getting one of your medicines, go to this website to report it: http://www.fda.gov/Drugs /DrugSafety/DrugShort- ages. Dr. Komaroff is a physician and professor at Harvard Medical School. Go to his website to send questions and get additional information: www.AskDoctorK.com. Lottery joins effort during Gambling Awareness Week The California Lottery joins other state and national organizations to recognized the week of March 4 as the 10th Annual California Problem Gambling Awareness Week. The goal of the week was to educate and raise public awareness that problem gambling affects people from all segments of society, and it can negatively influence the gambler's family, friends, employer and community. The Lottery annually participates in the National Prob- lem Gambling Awareness Week in partnership with statewide communications efforts that promote the 1-800- GAMBLER Hotline. The Hotline is featured on all draw game tickets, Hot Spot monitors and electronic point of sale devices. Additionally, the Lottery website, www.calottery.com, will have a special banner to connect visitors to the Office of Problem Gambling website. For more information on how to play responsibly, please click on the following link: http://www.calottery.com/sec- ondarynav/playresponsibly.