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2A Daily News – Tuesday, March 13, 2012 Flatt - Gagner to wed Community Wanna fight? people&events Some interesting things have been happening in my coaching and helping in the community. I have been approached by people lately who have an issue, a fight or a bone to pick and they think I can help. I love that people feel that I can influence individuals and commu- nities because that is my goal, but I don't wanna fight, I want to find resolve. There was a time in my personal development when I had a more radical view about right and wrong. The problem was that I didn't take serious things into account such as bigger pictures beyond my narrow scope of perspective, wrongs don't make a right and that no one wants to resolve conflict with a screaming banshee. When I was a child I didn't see Courtesy photo Mike and Donna Flatt of Red Bluff announce the engagement of their daughter, Michelle Flatt, to Kenneth Gagner.The bride is a grad- uate of Cal Poly in San Luis Obispo with a bachelors degree in dairy science and a minor in microbiology. The groom is also a graduate of Cal Poly. He has a bachelors degree in engineering. The couple will wed on April 28 in San Luis Obispo and reside in Los Osos. SECRET WITNESS 529-1268 A program of Tehama County Neighborhood Watch Program, Inc. Setting it straight Tehama County is represented in the Sierra Neva- da Conservancy by Supervisor Ron Warner, who is a substitute for Lassen County Supervisor Brian Dahle, the representative to the executive board for the North subregion. In the article, "Water Works," this information was incorrectly stated. The Daily News regrets the error. –––––––– It is the policy of the Daily News to correct as quickly as possible all errors in fact that have been published in the newspaper. If you feel a factual error has been made in a news story, call the news department at 527-2153. many knights on white horses. My role models were a passive aggres- sive woman who abdicated her power to an alcoholic maniacal man whom I can only assume now had a very hard childhood himself. These two and Archie and Edith Bunker, the Cunningham's and the Cosby's. Those were the people I saw in my home solving problems. When I grew up and into my own house- hold, I solved problems with the warped thinking of a woman driven by her subconscious mind. In other words I manipulated things until they worked the way I thought they should. that two Luckily, I was blessed with the gift of insight and left behind my mal- adaptive ways for a high- er form of communica- tion. In my career I have been a part of work groups, committee's, boards, teams and so on. With that experience I have learned that there is a "way" to approach con- flict with individuals and organizations and there is a "better way" The way some people use is the "I have an issue with you/your policy and I am mad, affected and you will change what you are doing." the hope is that the other party will have a light bulb moment and realize their insensitivity and volunteer to make things better. This never happens! The better way is to collect your thoughts, take a moment to remember that anyone attacked, usually attacks and approach the issue with a solution in mind that does not include any- one's head on a platter. There is a reality in situations with large business or government that responsibility is diffused. That the outcome or responsibility does not lie in one persons lap therefore we don't always get the outcome we hoped in that people aren't responding to us as emphatically as we would like. Faydra Rector You Matter The truth is that getting the outcome you want takes maturity, class and a plan. You must approach people or businesses without name calling, threats or sarcastic shame. If you come at them like a banshee you lose all credibility even if your issue is legitimate. If you are a hot head in con- flict, you will only get melted results. If you are only about what "they" did wrong you may be missing your part in the reality of what is going on. Try to approach conflict with a "we are in this together" methodol- ogy and try to solve a conflict or find a solution instead of winning a battle that could leave you losing the war. Faydra Rector, MA is a mental health administrator, author, public speaker, educator and life coach who lives in Red Bluff. 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Local Quint Is Defeated in Stockton The Red Bluff boys' unlimited basketball team, champion of the Northern California High School Athletic League, went down to defeat Saturday night before the fast Stockton team in a game for the championship of the northern section of the California Interscholastic Federation. The score was 42 to 17 in favor of the Stockton boys. — March 13, 1922 Courtesy photo Presenting a check for $1,465, from left, are Red Bluff High students and basketball players Maka Hoffer, Katelyn Foushee, Jordan Cooper, Sarah Brown, Jessica Macdonald, Kelly Cave, Julia Bellon and Alex Dahnke. Adults on either side, from left, are Todd Smith, St. Elizabeth chief operating offi- cer and Lori Raglin, RT, Imaging Center coordinator. The St. Elizabeth Imaging Center is the proud recipient of more than $1,400 donated by the Red Bluff High School Girls' Spartan Basketball Teams. The funds will be used to promote breast cancer CattleWomen & Michael Martin Sunrise Rotary present April 14th Murphey In concert Crystal Art & Apparel, The Loft - Red Bluff, Shasta Farm - Cottonwood, Rabobank - Corning, Richfield Feed Tickets $50 - $35 - $25 available at State Theatre Info 529-2787 • 7pm awareness and underwrite the cost of mammograms for uninsured patients in need of assistance. Jessica Macdonald, supported by her team mates, orchestrated the effort through a series of planned events at the high school including a dress- up day, pep rally and the crescendo event, the Pink Out Basketball tourna- ment featuring the girls freshman, JV and varsity teams against Paradise High School Feb. 7. Many of the girls involved in the effort are not only ath- letes, but active members of student government. Macdonald was driven to raise awareness about the disease when she suf- fered the loss of her grandmother late last year. Huggins is Marine of the Year Courtesy photo Tehama County Marine Corps League Detach- ment 1140 announced that Ray Huggins is Marine of the Year 2011. This award is the highest honor that can be bestowed upon a regular member of the Marine Corps League. The candidates for this award are nominated by the Marines of their own detachment. Ray is always there for his League, his community and the needs of his fellow members. Ray is also Region 1 coordi- nator for MCL California. COMPLETE AUTO REPAIR All makes and models. We perform dealer recommened 30K, 60K, 90K SERVICES AT LOWER PRICES Smog Check starting at $ (most cars and pick-ups) 2595 + cert. Pass or FREE retest 527-9841 • 195 S. Main St. Your tax experts 32 Years Plus Experience "Enrolled to practice before the IRS" Open Year-Round New Clients Welcome www.lassentax.com Enrolled Agents: Rose Hablitzel, EA Rex Cerro, EA (530) 527-8225 208 Elm St., Red Bluff All major Credit Cards accepted