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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman PHOEBEANDHERUNICORN DanaSimpson ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Yearsago, I took out several loans to help put my daughter through college. She took out some smaller loans, which she has paid off. She has been out of school for seven years and has a good job, while I have lost mine. I've had to request a temporary forbearance on repay- ment of these loans until I am back to work. I have asked my daughter if she could split the balance with me, with each of us paying roughly $7,000. I have not received a reply. This is the second time I've brought this matter up. The first time was over a year ago, and her answer then was that she was having expensive dental problems, so she could not do it at the time. I understood. She does not live nearby and unfortunately, we aren't close. However, I don't think I was out of line to ask her to help me, was I? —FinanciallyTight Mom DEAR MOM » Your daugh- ter is now benefiting from the education, which you took a risk to help finance. You did what you could at the time, and she should do what she can, now. That is not how loans are structured, but this is how healthy fami- lies are structured. You should proceed, however, under the assumption that your daughter will not help you. Stay in touch with the lender concerning the loan balance and do whatever is necessary to try to prevent this from damaging your credit. Explore any other options available to you. Check the U.S. Department of Education's Direct Loan Program site (direct. ed.gov/parentrepay.html) for more information. DEAR AMY » Our sister "went off" on our broth- er's wife, in front of all of us, for being control- ling an d ha rsh wit h our elder parents' care, which this sister-in-law was generously providing. Our sister's criticism is unfounded. Sister doesn't think she has anything to apologize for. Sister-in-law feels rejected by all of us be- cause we act like nothing is wrong. Two of us sisters have talked and agree that Sister Number Three was rude and should apolo- gize. Either way, apology or no, what should we do? — Upset DEAR UPSET » Ideally, you would have reacted in the moment to say, "Whoa, wait a minute, sister. This is unfair." You didn't do this, for all sorts of under- standable reasons. You should apologize on your own behalf for not being more su p- portive when your sister launched her attack. You need not try to explain your sister's motivations. And then, yes, you should tell Sister Number Three, honestly, that she was out of line. The burden is on her to mitigate this by apologizing; the burden on you is to be honest and transparent, and to continue to offer your sister-in-law the gratitude and support she so obvi- ously deserves. 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