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Wednesday, February 22, 2012 – Daily News FEATURES Deceitful daughter divides devoted dynasty Dear Annie: My hus- band and I were both wid- owed before meeting. We are now 70 and have been happily married for six years. We both have grown children. Everything is good in our blended family except for my son's wife. ''Stacy'' has been a thorn in my side from the day they married 20 years ago. My former husband and I always man- aged to keep her quick tem- per under control. But since he died and I remarried, she's gone com- pletely overboard. She has stopped my son from having any contact with our family, including his broth- ers and me. Stacy has been unable to hold whatever she wants. Cards, letters, phone calls and emails go unanswered. Do you have any sugges- tions? — Grandma with a Broken Heart Annie's Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar Dear Grandma: We are so sorry that your son and his wife have chosen to exclude themselves from a loving family. Without your son's insistence, it is unlike- ly Stacy will come around. We understand that he is reluctant to rock the boat and possibly damage his marriage, but he shouldn't be isolated from his family in order to placate his wife. It is a form of emotional abuse. down a job because she can't get along with others. She's judgmen- tal, critical and short-tempered. She is often jealous and has many unre- solved issues from her childhood. She is keeping us away from her family, and none of us has seen my grandsons in three years. She says we aren't trustworthy, but that isn't true. We are not deceitful in any way, and our word is good. The rest of the family continues to get together without my son and daughter-in-law, but we miss them very much. Our blended family is kind and loving toward one another. But those two grandsons don't know us, and it looks like that won't change anytime soon. My son is overwhelmed with Stacy's control issues, so he just goes along with The following defen- dants were sentenced in Tehama County Superior Court, according to the Tehama County District Attorney's Office: —————— Recent State Prison Commitments • Ben Richard Davis was sentenced to 25 years to life in state prison for receiving stolen property, special allegation two prior strikes. Davis entered the vic- tim's residence and stole several items including music equipment. The victim proceeded to go to a local music store to see if anyone attempted to sell any of her items. As the victim was exiting the store she observed Davis enter the store with two guitars that were stolen from her residence. Offi- cers arrived on scene and Davis was taken into cus- tody. During a search of Davis' vehicle the officers recovered several items that had been reported stolen. • Miguel Javier Gonza- lez Soto was sentenced to seven years in state prison for possession for sale of a controlled substance, special allegation-punish- ment by quantity. An officer conducted a traffic stop on a vehicle driven by Gonzalez-Soto. Upon contacting Gonza- lez-Soto the officer observed a strong odor of air freshener and noticed Gonzalez-Soto to be visi- bly nervous. The officer obtained a K-9 and con- ducted a search of the vehicle and located sever- al packages of heroin in a hidden compartment. • Christian Dejesus Ramirez Nares was sen- tenced to five years in state prison for possession for sale of a controlled substance. An officer conducted a traffic stop on a vehicle driven by Ramirez Nares. The officer received con- sent to search the vehicle and located a large amount of cocaine and methamphetamine. • Jim Edward Williams was sentenced to four years in state prison for transportation of a con- trolled substance. Williams was original- ly granted formal proba- tion. He violated his pro- bation when he was arrested for driving under the influence of drugs/alcohol. • Johnny Franklin Thorpe was sentenced to Please continue to send cards, letters and emails without expecting replies. You never know what gets through. Depending on your state, you also could sue for visitation privileges if you so choose. A lawyer with expertise in grandpar- ents' rights can help you. Dear Annie: My father's secre- tary of many years smokes a pack of cigarettes every day in her office. The ceilings are low, and the venti- lation is poor. The secondhand smoke is detrimental to my father's health, which is already compro- mised by other medical conditions. My siblings and I have asked her many times to try to get help for her addiction, and to smoke outside or on the office balcony. Do we have to let her do as she pleases, even though it hurts to see Dad breathing in her fumes? — Montreal Fan four years in state prison for transportation of a controlled substance. Thorpe was originally granted formal probation. He violated his probation when he failed to keep probation informed of his current contact informa- tion and failed to com- plete his drug and alcohol treatment program. • Billy Walker German Jr., was sentenced to three years in state prison for second degree robbery. German and a compan- ion entered a gas station wearing hooded sweat- shirts, masks and holding knives. The clerk was ordered to the ground while German and com- panion grabbed items from the shelf as well as the cash register before fleeing the scene. German was contacted a short time later at his residence and taken into custody. • Jacob Ezra Monroe Hale was sentenced to two years in state prison for first degree residential burglary. Hale was originally granted formal probation. He violated his probation when he failed to keep in contact with his probation officer. • David John Nelson was sentenced to two years in state prison for petty theft with a prior. Nelson entered a store, grabbed an item from the shelf and proceeded to the customer service counter claiming he purchased the item and was requesting a refund. Nelson received a refund for the items but he was apprehended by store security before leaving the store. • Manuel Thomas Valencia was sentenced to two years in state prison for two counts of forgery. A local church was burglarized and several checks had been stolen. Valencia obtained some of the stolen checks and was able to cash them at several different loca- tions. • Cynthia Lynn Har- land was sentenced to two years in state prison for possession for sale of a controlled substance. Harland was originally granted formal probation. Harland violated her pro- bation when she tested positive for marijuana and methamphetamine. Recent County Jail Commitments • Geoffrey Brian Pomeroy was sentenced to 300 days in Tehama Dear Montreal: We have to wonder whether this secretary har- bors some hostility toward Dad. Nonetheless, your father is the one who needs to speak up, and appar- ently, he is unwilling. So put in some fans, smokeless ashtrays and other helpful devices that will mini- mize the damage. Dear Annie: I was bothered by the letter from ''New Yorker,'' who volunteers at a nonprofit that pro- vides homework help to neighbor- hood school kids. Her assumption that many newer families are ''stable and affluent'' could be wrong. We have friends and family who are struggling, yet they try to maintain a proud face. This after-school program might be the saving grace for a woman work- ing two jobs. ''New Yorker'' should find another way of volunteering in the community if she finds some chil- dren unworthy of her charitable works. — M Dear M: You make a good point. These after-school programs can be a true blessing to families and an educational boon to children regardless of income levels. Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. COURT ROUND-UP County Jail for possession of a controlled substance; violation of post release community supervision; petty theft with a prior. An officer contacted Pomeroy after he was observed walking in a park around midnight. The officer was advised Pomeroy was on parole and conducted a search. Inside Pomeroy's pocket the officer located methamphetamine. Pomeroy entered a store, grabbed a bottle of alco- hol from the shelf and attempted to exit the store without paying for the item. Pomeroy was origi- nally released from prison to Post Release Commu- nity Supervision. Pomeroy violated the terms of the supervision when he failed to keep probation informed of his current contact informa- tion. • William Louis Klatt Jr., was sentenced to 240 days in Tehama County Jail for possession of ammunition. Deputies responded to victim's residence regarding a disturbance. Upon arrival the victim stated she had an alterca- tion with Klatt and he left the residence. The deputies were advised Klatt was a felon and they conducted a consent search of the residence and located ammunition. Klatt arrived at the resi- dence a short time later and was taken into cus- tody. • Angelina Maria Cas- taneda was sentenced to 210 days in Tehama County Jail for corporal injury to child. Castaneda became angry after a telephone conversation and punched the three-year- old victim in the face sev- eral times causing the victim to receive a bloody nose. • James David Phillips was sentenced to 120 days in Tehama County Jail for possession of marijuana for sale. A deputy made a con- sensual contact with Phillips and observed a syringe inside the vehi- cle. A search of the vehi- cle was conducted and the deputy located sever- al pounds of marijuana. • Amy Hastings Arm- strong was sentenced to 30 days in Tehama Coun- ty Jail for aid by misrep- resentation. Armstrong was receiv- ing aid for herself and a child and failed to report when the child was no longer living in her home. Armstrong received approximately $1,026 that she was not entitled to. Upcoming Court Dates -Trials, Prelimi- nary Hearings(PX) & Pre Trial Confer- ences(PTC) • William Holt Baymiller will appear in court at 1:30 p.m. on Feb. 21 in Dept. 1. He is fac- ing the charge of second degree murder The Tehama County Sheriff's Office received a 911 call from a man who said that Baymiller showed up at his house and claimed he just shot and killed his dad. Baymiller showed the man his California Dri- ver's License. Deputies arrived and located Baymiller at his father's home armed with a shot- gun. The Sheriff's office took Baymiller into cus- tody after a brief stand- off. Upon entering the residence, TCSO located the victim with a fatal gunshot wound to the chest. Baymiller claimed that he was going to be killed by "Muslims" and he "believed" that his dad was in on it. Prevent bedsores in bedridden elderly DEAR DOC- TOR K: I care for my elderly mother, who is confined to her bed most of the time. I'm worried about her getting bedsores. How can I prevent them? DEAR READ- ER: You're right to be concerned, since bedsores cause pain and can lead to serious infections. Fortunately, there are several things you can do to prevent your mother from getting them. Bedsores are areas of broken skin that are more likely to develop in people who are confined to a bed for extended periods. They form where the weight of a person's body presses against the firm surface of the bed. This includes the hip, spine, lower back, tail- bone, shoulder blades, elbows and heels. Bedsores begin with a patch of redness. If this red patch is not protected from additional pressure, the red- ness can form blisters or open sores. Broken skin can allow bacteria to enter and cause a skin infection, which can spread to the bone beneath the skin and to the blood. It can then be car- ried by the blood to other organs, including the brain and heart. What begins as a little patch of red skin can lead to a life-threatening infection. To reduce the risk of your mother developing bed- sores: — Relieve pressure on vulnerable areas. Change your mother's position fre- quently. Move her every two to four hours from the back to one side, to the other side, and again to the back. When she is on her side, she should be only partly on her side (about a 30-degree tilt); if she is completely on her side, her hip bone will push down hard on her skin. Use pillows to raise her arms, legs, buttocks and Dr. K by Anthony L. Komaroff, M.D. hips. Relieve pres- sure on her back with an egg-crate foam mattress or a sheepskin. Place pillows or wedges made of foam between her ankles and knees, so that they don't press against each other. Use pillows or spe- cial heel protectors under her heels, so that they don't press against the mat- tress when she is lying on her back. — Reduce irritation. Avoid dragging your mother across the bedsheets. Either lift her or have her use an overhead trapeze to briefly raise her body. Keep the bed free from crumbs and other particles that might rub and irritate her skin. — Inspect your mother's skin at least once each day for the earliest signs of bed- sores. If you find a suspi- cious area, promptly contact her nurse or doctor. — Encourage good nutrition. Your mother's diet should include enough calories, protein, vitamins and minerals. If she cannot eat enough food, consider nutritional supplements. — Encourage daily exer- cise. Even bedridden people can do stretches and simple exercises. — Keep her skin clean and dry. Clean with plain water and very gentle soap. Use absorbent pads to draw moisture away from vulner- able areas. We have a lot more infor- mation on caring for the elderly in our Special Health Report, "The Caregiver's Handbook." You can find out more about it at my website. Dr. Komaroff is a physician and professor at Harvard Medical School. Go to his website to send questions and get additional information: www.AskDoctorK.com. Restaurant management class The Small Business Development Center at Butte College is presenting a workshop "Controlling Costs & Surviving Lean Times." The workshop will be held on Monday, March 12 from 8:30 a.m. until 11:30 p.m. at the Small Business Development Center at Butte Col- lege, 19 Williamsburg Lane in Chico. The cost of the workshop is $75 prepaid or $85 at the door. This workshop is designed to help restaurateurs thrive in the current economic environment with sound financial decision making. It focuses on "Running your Restaurant by the Week" - using Weekly Flash Reports, forecasting & budgeting; Reducing your Controllable Costs - Cost of Goods & Labor; Make or Buy Analysis; & Vendor Relations. The trainer, a certified nationally known restaurant consultant will provide customized one-on-one business consulting by appointment only. Pre-registration is required. Please call the Small Business Development Center at Butte College at 895- 9017 to register and for information. 3B