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Wednesday, February 15, 2012 – Daily News 5A FEATURES Dear Annie: My husband and I work compara- ble hours, but I earn less than half of what he does and have little discre- tionary income. I come home to my ''second shift,'' Slovenly spouse sparks spite Light therapy for seasonal disorder DEAR DOCTOR K: My wife which includes cook- ing, cleaning and picking up after this man, who leaves his dirty clothes, snack pack- aging and other things strewn about the house. Meanwhile, he runs off to play golf. After dinner, he falls asleep in front of the TV. He doesn't even mow the lawn or do rou- tine household mainte- nance. He hires out for those things. Anything he's asked to do, he deflects by saying ''I pay.'' To an extent, this is true. He pays the majority of household bills. But I pay for most of the food and all of the household products (bathroom tissue, tooth- paste, shampoo) that we both use. I even keep a garden to help pad our grocery bill in the sum- mer months. I've told him I feel like his servant. I don't earn enough to hire a housekeeper. And don't tell me to go on strike. I've tried it, and he is perfectly content to live in a pigsty. He says I'm a clean freak. I am not. I simply cannot live in such clutter and filth. Other than this, he's a good man, intelligent, fun, and he makes me laugh. I'm not ready to throw us away for this problem. But I admit there are days when the idea of living alone is very appealing. He reads 8049 Hwy 99E, Los Molinos, CA We Accept EBT "Your Family Supermarket" BLACK CANYON ANGUS BEEF WE FEATURE Boneless Pork Loin Chops We appreciate your business - and we show it! HOURS: 7AM - 9 PM DAILY SPECIALLY CUT MEATS AT NO EXTRA CHARGE Prices good Jan. 15 - Jan. 21, 2012 Meat Specials Boneless Beef Top Sirloin Steaks Fryer Leg Quarters 5lb. bag Bone-In Country Style Pork Ribs Patti Jean Game Hens 22 oz Annie's Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar you faithfully and respects your opinion. Please help. — Lake- Effect Wife Dear Wife: Marriage is a part- nership. Married couples who have disparate incomes and insist on split- ting the bills often run into these problems. Since you work the same hours, you should both do equal amounts of housework and share laundry and cooking duties. Since he doesn't do these things, however, and you are picking up his used food containers and dirty clothes, cook- ing the meals and doing his laundry, he should pay for cleaning help. And no, this does not mean you are a clean freak. It means you are avoiding a visit by the board of health. Dear Annie: A couple of my friends are recov- ering from illness and accidents, and their fami- ly members keep us updated through Caring- Bridge.org, a wonderful website. I just don't understand why some authors know no bound- aries. I recently read an update saying, ''Johnny is now having a good solid stool every day.'' Really? Did Johnny want that shared with the world? And on another site: ''Mary is seeing a psychologist for help with her anger toward her family.'' There is no shame in bowel movements or psy- chology, but please, out of respect for the person, skip those details. Just tell us the basics of how they are doing and feel- ing. I have informed my kids and siblings that if I ever need such a site, they are not to mention my urine output. I'm thankful for Car- ingBridge, as it is a great way to let people know how a friend is doing. But I am sad for the patient whose privacy is sometimes a casualty. — Not-So-Nosy Nellie Dear Nellie: Thank you for pointing out that not all details need to be disclosed to everyone, a concept many people no longer grasp. And thank you, too, for giving us the opportunity to once again mention Caring- Bridge.org. Dear Annie: ''S.P.'' said she no longer trusts her husband of many years. Yes, it's possible he will someday stop his philandering. But she should also consider what any philanderer could bring home to a spouse: STDs. A lot of things can be forgiven (and medically treated), but some sexu- ally transmitted diseases are with you for the rest of your life. Our society may take casual affairs with a grain of salt, but we should be reminded now and then that affairs can kill you. — Another Side in California Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.n et, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. 384-1563 WE ACCEPT FOOD STAMPS NO CARDS REQUIRED FOR EVERYDAY LOW PRICING OR SALE ITEMS gets down in the dumps every winter. It begins in the fall and hits its peak sometime in January or February. She thinks it's just because the cheer of the holidays has passed, but I think it's more than that. Could it be seasonal depression? wife's depression fits this arc very well. What can she do about it? DEAR READER: It's not impossible that your wife has a case of the "winter blahs," as she insists. The holiday season can be exhausting. Plus, you eat too much, and if you're like me, the rich food and the added pounds make you feel tired. But I agree with you that your wife also could be suffering from what is called seasonal affective disorder. The condition is often referred to as SAD for short, and it's an apt nickname. SAD is better known as winter depression. Winter depression is most prevalent where winter is coldest and the days are shortest. That's in the northern part of the Northern Hemisphere and the southern part of the Southern Hemisphere. At the start of winter in St. Petersburg, Russia, or in Patagonia (Argentina), there is sun- light for only a few hours a day. We don't understand why it is that, in susceptible people, the shorter days of winter bring on winter depression. But they do. Like other forms of depression, winter depression can leave a person feeling sad, lethargic and exhausted. Someone with SAD may lose interest in people and activities that usually bring happi- ness. They often oversleep and overeat. And they don't enjoy doing either. SAD symptoms usually show up every year. They start gradually in the late fall. Then they build up during the winter months. The progression of your William Gray, a vet- erinarian at Cottonwood Veterinary Clinic has confirmed a case of Equine Influenza in northern Tehama Coun- ty. The case was con- firmed by the U.C. Davis Department of Medicine and Epidemi- ology. Dr. K by Anthony L. Komaroff, M.D. Even without treatment, winter depression usually melts away in the spring. But it can leave a per- son with SAD overweight, out of shape and with strained rela- tionships. Fortunately, treatment can help. Only one drug, bupropion (Wellbutrin), is specifically approved for SAD. SSRIs (med- ications in the Prozac family) and other antidepressants are also effective. A healthy lifestyle, including regular exer- cise, a good diet and a strong social net- work, can also help. Another treatment option is light ther- apy. This therapy aims to artificially replace the daylight hours many of us lose in the wintertime. And it does help, especially when the supplemental artifi- cial lights are turned on in the early morning to simulate an early sunrise. Ask your doctor about special devices that may be covered by insurance and about prescription medication. In my mind, the success of light therapy is the strongest evidence that it's the shorter days (not the cold weather) that brings on SAD. When SAD strikes, medication, lifestyle changes and light can lift the dark cloud of depression. We have more information on dealing with depression in our Special Health Report, "Understanding Depression." You can find out more about it at my website. Dr. Komaroff is a physician and professor at Harvard Medical School. Go to his website to send questions and get additional information: www.AskDoctorK.com. Horse influenza reported in Cottonwood The horse is one of many effected horses in the stables. Horses affected have high tem- peratures, nasal dis- charge, cough and lethargy. The virus is rapidly spreading and can result in extremely sick horses or death. Dr. Gray rec- ommends that all horses receive vaccination on a timely basis. He also recommends that horse owners limit exposure to other horses until your horse becomes immuno-com- petent. For more informa- tion, contact the Cotton- wood Veterinary Clinic at 347-3711. NEW! In the Daily News' WEEKEND EDITION Every Saturday! TV Select Magazine --Weekly TV listings and features $199 lb. Large Navel Oranges $349 lb. 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