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JUNE 10-16, 2015 UCW 19 WWW.UPANDCOMINGWEEKLY.COM ADVICE GODDESS Owe, Baby, Baby My girlfriend always cries that she's " broke." I just ended up buying her groceries and paying to have her car f ixed, and then I discovered by accident that she'd recently paid hundreds of dollars for hair extensions, beaut y products and a facial. She isn't the f irst girlfriend I've had who prioritizes beaut y stuff over necessities. I really don't get some women's relationship with money. — ATM On Legs Evolut ionar y economist s f ind t hat our glaringly irrat ional choices in one domain ( like t he sur v ival domain, including f inancial sur v ival) aren't so irrat ional in anot her ( like t he mat ing domain). For example, because men evolved to have a ver y v isually driven sexualit y, women look ing to land a man or ret ain one's interest w ill (of ten subconsciously) priorit ize beaut y measures. And t hough we aren't in a recession right now, a July/Aug ust 2014 Public Religion Research Inst it ute poll found t hat 72 percent of people believe we are. This is relevant because research by evolut ionar y psychologist Sarah Hill f inds t hat t hough economic dow nt urns lead bot h men and women to cut t heir spending across t he board, t hey also seem to prime women to increase t heir spending in one area: beaut y enhancement . Hill explains t hat a scarcit y of resources appears to cue an evolut ionar y adapt at ion in women to " increase t he ef for t t hey invest in at t ract ing a mate who has t hem." (And t his seems to be t he case even when a woman has resources of her ow n.) St ill, it isn't fair for your beaut y- binging girlf riend to t reat you as her boy f riend-slash-overdraf t system.Tell her t hat you feel bad being put in t his posit ion and t hough you love her, her abusive relat ionship w it h her debit card is eat ing away at your relat ionship. Nex t, show empat hy. Ment ion t hat many people f ind t hemselves in her posit ion, mainly because nobody ever t aught t hem how to budget . Explain t he evolut ionar y v iew of human rat ionalit y and of fer to help her plot out her f inances. You might get her t he book Smart Women Finish Rich, by Dav id Bach. AMY ALKON Copy right 2015 WEEKLY HOROSCOPES NEWS OF THE WEIRD by CHUCK SHEPPARD In New York City, someone can be fired for being "too nice." Doorman Ralph Body, 41, was dismissed from his job at an upscale New York City apartment building because he did too many favors for tenants, according to an April New York Post report. Body said he "gave his life" to the residents at the "27 on 27th" tower in Queens, but "upper management" thought such extra kindnesses violated building policy and ordered his dismissal despite a tenant petition. [New York Post, 4-5- 2015] When the chief auditor for Hartford, Connecticut, finally got around to checking the finances of the police shooting range recently, he found that the range supervisor had bought 485,000 bullets per year, but was using only 180,000 — and had no paperwork on where the other bullets went. (In one instance, the supervisor acknowledged having bought 94,500 rounds of .45-caliber ammo two years after the department had stopped using .45s and switched to .40-caliber weapons — but his story was that he needed .45-caliber bullets so he could trade them for .40s.) [Hartford Courant, 5-2-2015] Millions of sports fans "draft" their own fantasy sports teams — and even the bass-fishing tournament circuit has its fantasy league, where fans select anglers good at exploiting choice spots on the lakes. In March, Alaska Dispatch News reported that, for the fourth straight year, there would be an Iditarod Fantasy League, with a "salary cap" of "$27,000" to pick seven mushers with the best chances to push their dogs to victory, with all-stars going for around $6,000 and promising rookies selling for much less. [Alaska Dispatch News, 3-6-2015] Alfred Guercio, 54, was arrested in Burnsville, Minnesota, in March after forcibly entering a neighbor's home and swiping a knife set that he had given the woman as a Christmas gift. He told the woman, and police, that he was taking the gift back, as he was upset that the woman was failing to appreciate it enough. [The Smoking Gun, 3-17-2015] Copyright CHUCK SHEPPARD ARIES - Mar 21/Apr 20 Aries, this week expect to gain a better understanding of things that have confounded you in the past. Someone comes into your life to play the role of teacher. TAURUS - Apr 21/May 21 Fun conversations with a friend prove to be a great way to start your week, Taurus. Things will continue to progress on a positive note throughout the week. GEMINI - May 22/Jun 21 Gemini, make an effort to more effectively manage life at work and at home this week. The fruits of your labors will pay off with more productivity at work and more family time at home. CANCER - Jun 22/Jul 22 Cancer, do not hesitate to share your personal goals with others in your life. Your loved ones are there to offer their support and encourage you to do your best. LEO - Jul 23/Aug 23 Leo, others are sure to take notice of your work ethic and impressive accomplishments this week. If you keep quiet, recognition may pass you by. VIRGO - Aug 24/Sept 22 Virgo, stay true to your faith this week. Don't feel you have to change to fit in with the masses. Uniqueness is to be prized, and your faith can guide you. LIBRA - Sept 23/Oct 23 Worrying about something you can't change will only bring on more stress, Libra. Trust that things will work out and don't worry about things you can't control. SCORPIO - Oct 24/Nov 22 Scorpio, your ideas are met with encouragement and optimism this week. Stick with your plans and allow others' encouragement to fuel you as you work toward your goals. SAGITTARIUS - Nov 23/Dec 21 Sagittarius, don't be afraid to readjust your work schedule if you are running out of gas. You can handle multiple projects at once, but don't do so at the expense of your health. CAPRICORN - Dec 22/Jan 20 Capricorn, attention to detail is a staple of your work ethic. Try not to get too caught up in the minor details, as you might end up missing the big picture. AQUARIUS - Jan 21/Feb 18 Aquarius, be there for a friend who needs you in the coming days. This friend has been there to support you in the past, so now it's your turn to provide support. PISCES - Feb 19/Mar 20 This week you are more comfortable relaxing and engaging in fun pursuits, Pisces. Immerse yourself in creative projects. Amy Alkon Chuck Sheppard