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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman PHOEBEANDHERUNICORN DanaSimpson ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Ourfamily has a problem. We won- der what to do about the man who in all likelihood will soon be the husband of my s tepd aughte r, wh o is 30 years old. No one likes the way he treats her — he is condescending and close to being emotion- ally abusive. Also, he is a complete jerk. The prob- lem is that she thinks he walks on water, which has us all perplexed, because she is bright and beautiful and no one can imagine what she sees in this guy. He is over the top in being complimentary to her but he pretty much has the final say in whom they see and what they do. We are deathly afraid that if we even mention how we feel about this clown, she will cut us off. What should we do? —UpsetStep DEAR UPSET » Being condescending is not the same as being "emotion- ally abusive." Being a jerk or a clown does not make him a danger to your stepdaughter's well-being. Your not liking him does not mean that she can't choose to love him or marry him. The red flag I see here is that, according to you, he dominates her and controls what they do with their time. Unfor- tunately she could easily interpret your expression of concern as a desire on your part to dominate or control her. You cannot pick your stepdaughter's friends and partners. She is an adult. She might have unrefined, immature or flat-out terrible taste in partners. This might be an expression of deep insecurity on her part. Make sure she knows that you are her family, now and forever, and that you will always be in her corner, no matter what. If this is the guy she ulti- mately chooses to marry, then you'll have to deal with both of them. DEAR AMY » The other day I told my fiance that I had cheated on him. We had been going through a very rough t ime and I th ough t we were going to break up. It only happened once. I wound up getting pregnant (with my fiance) and I didn't want to ruin what we were rebuilding. After our son was born things got so much better between us and we got engaged. I couldn't be happier, but the guilt was eating me alive. The weird thing is, he said he wasn't mad or upset, but just a little shocked. I know I should be grateful that he's tak- ing it so well, but I can't help but feel he's bottling it all up inside and then one day when we get into a fight it's going to be thrown back at me. Should I be concerned that he's taking it so well? — Confused but Grateful DEAR CONFUSED » Tell him, "I feel so much bet- ter because I was honest. Are you sure you're OK with what happened? If you are upset about it, we should deal with it now, because I want to put this behind us and start fresh together." 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