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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman PHOEBEANDHERUNICORN DanaSimpson ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Ihaveseven brothers and sisters. One of my brothers waited to get married until his mid- 40s. Before marrying, he was happy and everybody loved him. Unfortunately his wife turned out to be a shrew and turned him into a beaten-down and unhappy man. She found fault with almost everyone in our large family and has kicked my brother out of the house twice. For the last four years she has refused to attend any of our fam- ily functions. My brother has attended while she stayed at home. I suggested to my brother that she must have some kind of disor- der and needs counsel- ing but, of course, the response was that our whole family had issues and that there was noth- ing wrong with her. My mom died four years ago and my dad died last week. At both funerals she was smart enough not to sit with the family. However, she was at my dad's wake help- ing my sisters, and just yesterday she showed up for a memorial service for my uncle. Now that my mom and dad are gone she is sud- denly back in the picture! Some of my brothers, sisters and in-laws are forgiving and welcoming her back to the family. My wife and I cannot forget the wrongs she did to my parents and other family members. My daughter was married four weeks ago and we refused to invite her to the wedding. My brother came alone (reluctantly). My wife and I refuse to forgive and forget. This has caused a rift in the family. Now that she decides she wants to be a pa rt of t hi ng s , we a re supposed to welcome her with open arms? —UnwillingtoForgive DEAR UNWILLING » You and your wife should ask yourselves whose inter- ests are served by your c ur r e nt a tt i t ud e. D oe s it make your brother's life any better when you exclude his spouse? Given that other family members have moved on, your unforgiving attitude may only serve to further alienate you — not her — from family-related events. Have you noticed that she draws closer and YOU are withdraw- ing? Does it occur to you that she may be trying to change the dynamic? The answer now is for you to express yourself clearly and respectfully and then — yes — forgive and move on. (You don't have to forget). DEAR AMY » "A House Di- vided by Noise" outlined a scena rio w here a gro up of teen girls were too loud when they visited the parents' home. Your attitude and sug- gestion that the family should put up with this disruption is EXACTLY what is wrong with teen- agers today. Nobody ever says, "Knock it off!" — Disgusted DEAR DISGUSTED » I don't think today's teens are any worse than teens have ever been. And parents can't tell kids to "knock it off" if the par- ents are hiding in another room. Sibling unwilling to forgive rift caused by sister-in-law You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribune.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Taurus(April20-May20) — Someone will try to take advantage of you. Guard against a fast talker who offers the impossible. Unless you have examined all the details, you would be best off taking a pass. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — You will find it necessary to go the extra mile when it comes to keeping the peace. Don't be too hardheaded; compromise and cooperation will be needed to avoid arguments. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — Younger people will gravitate to you. A stimulating new pros- pect will be of interest. If you use your imagination, you will discover a solution to a problem that's been bothering you. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — Present your ideas with confi- dence if you want to convince everyone to follow your lead. Residential changes will add to your comfort and reduce stress. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — Be respectful. You'll forfeit a friendship if you are too pushy. Be aware of the harmful conse- quences before you make a rash, irreversible decision. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — Someone you encounter will find you extremely alluring. A ro- mantic relationship will take an upward swing. Make the most of your appeal. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — You are entering a period of growth that will enhance your creativity and curiosity, so be bold and take on some- thing new. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — Personal relationships may be strained. Learn as you go. Consider starting a home business that will use your tal- ents and add to your cash. 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