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2A Daily News – Monday, December 12, 2011 Community people&events Tennis players return service Waiting for the door to open Courtesy photo The Red Bluff High School Girls Tennis Team vol- unteered for the Salvation Army Tuesday night at Walmart as bell ringers.They had a lot of fun car- oling and ringing and would like to challenge other sports teams to step up and take a two- hour shift. Pictured from left are members of Red Bluff High School Girls Tennis Team: Josie Clements, Emmaline Iverson, Erika Ellis and Sam Clements Gleaners Gleaners will distribute food as follows in Decem- ber: • Rancho Tehama, noon-2 p.m., Monday, Dec. 12, Recreation Center • Los Molinos, 9 a.m. to noon, Tuesday, Dec. 13, Masonic Hall, 25020 Tehama Vina Rd. • Corning, 8 a.m. to noon, Wednesday, Dec. 14, Corning Senior Center, 1015 Fourth Ave. • Red Bluff, 8 a.m. to noon, Wednesday, Dec. 14, Food Bank, 20699 Walnut St. All other sites in the county will be at the usual times and places. Applications for food bank cards may be on the day of giveaway. Bring large paper or plastic bags if possible. All income must be reported. Income is gross monthly per household not net. Only one card will be issued per household. SECRET WITNESS 529-1268 A program of Tehama County Neighborhood Watch Program, Inc. Setting it straight –––––––– It is the policy of the Daily News to correct as quickly as possible all errors in fact that have been published in the newspaper. If you feel a factual error has been made in a news story, call the news department at 527-2153. The career of motivational speaker is, at its basic level, not dissimilar from most other occupations. It's a job. Hopefully, one gets fulfillment — beyond what he's paid — out of doing it. (Be assured that those who make big bucks for speeches are — like with most careers — the excep- tion, not the rule.) Granted, it has its perks. There's very little heavy lifting or backbreaking labor, and since you're fortunate to be your own boss, you can watch your kids play soccer, or take a long walk along the beach during the day. Again, however, like any other way of earning a paycheck, it has ups and downs. In the same fashion that comedi- ans might always be expected to be funny; or therapists should always be insightful; one con of this profession is people expect you to be, well, moti- vational. After all, a "motivational speaker" who is constantly whining doesn't seem like he'd be much in demand, does he? Of course, despite common per- ception, we are "normal," with emo- tional highs and lows; and of late, for whatever reason; I'm in a valley. There have been many mornings when I'd rather pull the blankets up over my head, be left alone, and just go back to sleep. "Motivational" would not the first word you would use to describe me pre-coffee. Most- ly, I work alone, so it's usually not problematic — but not always. My cranky pants were snug last week as I arrived early to set up my presentation. Not familiar with the locale, I grumbled to myself about having to lug my materials over hill and dale — only to finally locate "room 104" and, of course, find it locked with no one in sight to assist me. My asso- ciate arrived and recogniz- ing quickly the issue, took off to seek help, leaving me unaccompanied with my thoughts in the cold, clear, crisp morning. "I better get my attitude in line, or this is not going to go well," I considered (espe- cially since today's presenta- tion was how to improve your attitude). So I queried of myself, "What would I tell these folks in the same position?" The obvious answer: "Change your viewpoint." Instead of focusing on annoy- ances, the solution is finding some- thing we appreciate. One cannot be grumpy when grateful. It's impossi- ble. The reality is that our feelings are tied to our observations; so if change them, we change what we feel, which lifts up our attitude. It's amazingly simple; we just need to remember to do so. Sauntering around the corner of the building, I planted myself in the sun and watched the melting frost drip- drip-drip over the edge of the gutter on to a mossy mound of stones and leaves. I noticed the sun's reflection as it bounced off the glistening rocks. I saw my breath form white mist in the snappish air and felt warmness on my face. Inhaling deeply the morning, I appreciated that of all the places I could be in this moment, and of all I could be doing to earn my living, this spot in time, at this location wasn't bad; quite the contrary, it was serene, beautiful, and peaceful. I was fortunate to get to be here. Life was again good. Mood reset, I waited — Scott Q. Marcus somewhat more patiently — for my associate to return with the key, when I noticed that room 104 had a door on the side of the building where I was now standing — and it was unlocked. It had been all along; I just hadn't noticed it until I changed my perspective. Scott "Q" Marcus is a professional speaker and the CRP of www.ThisTimeIMeanIt.com, a website for people and organizations who are frustrated with making promises and are ready to make a change. Sign up for his free newsletter at the site or friend him at facebook.com/thistimeimeanit. He is also available for coaching and speaking engagements at 707.442.6243 or scottq@scottqmarcus.com. His first five years of these columns are now available on Amazon at http://amzn.to/StrivingBooks. Persistent playboy peeves partner Dear Annie: I married ''Henry'' five years ago. It was my second marriage and his third. Henry thinks he is easy to get along with, but I find it difficult to communi- cate with him. If he doesn't like what you say, you are wrong. Last year, Henry had an D NEWSAILY HOW TO REACH US RED BLUFF TEHAMACOUNTY THE VOICE OF TEHAMA COUNTY SINCE 1885 VOLUME 127, NUMBER 18 On the Web: www.redbluffdailynews.com MAIN OFFICE: Monday-Friday, 9 a.m. - 5 p.m. Main Phone (530) 527-2151 Outside area 800-479-6397 545 Diamond Ave. Red Bluff, CA 96080 ______________________ Fax: (530) 527-5774 ______________________ Mail: Red Bluff Daily News P.O. Box 220 Red Bluff, CA 96080 CUSTOMER SERVICE: Subscription & delivery Monday-Friday, 8 a.m. - 5 p.m. (530) 527-2151, Ext. 1 subscription rates (All prices include all applicable taxes) Monday through Saturday $9.50 four weeks Rural Rate $10.59 four weeks Business & professional rate $2.19 four weeks, Monday-Friday By mail: In Tehama County $12.17 four weeks All others $16.09 four weeks (USPS 458-200) Published Monday through Saturday except Sunday, by California Newspaper Partnership. 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He claims I forced him into the affair because I didn't give him enough affection. However, one night he casually mentioned that he also had cheated on his second wife. Even after months of counseling, he didn't change his thinking. He stopped seeing the counselor because he would simply sit there and com- ment about how I won't change. I've told him it takes two, but Henry thinks he's fine as is. Annie's Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar steps to work on a relation- ship is not a good bet for a lasting future. Henry has made it clear that he is not going to change. You must decide if you can live with him the way he is or if you are better off without him. We're glad you are still seeing your counselor. This is one of the issues you can discuss. Dear Annie: My older sis- ter devotes Sundays to father- daughter time. She phones Dad to let him know what the Henry has some erectile dysfunc- tion issues for which he takes med- ication, and I continue to see the counselor for my own issues. I do love my husband, but find it difficult to trust him, especially since he still considers the Other Woman a friend. I want to have a normal marriage, but I cannot get him to bend just a little more to be a real participant. Do you have any advice for me? — Just Plain Lonely Dear Lonely: Even someone you love isn't necessarily marriage mate- rial. A man who cannot be faithful, who insists that he is always right and who refuses to take the necessary plans are, but my father never passes the word to me, and neither does my sister. According to her, it's ''under- stood'' that I'm invited, but I don't feel comfortable inviting myself. One time when I decided to join them, I went to the restroom, and they left without me. My sister claimed it was ''miscommunication'' and thought I wasn't planning to come. We've been to several wine festi- vals together and have had a great time, so I was surprised when one came up and they went without men- tioning it to me. I was hurt and angry. Finding a picture on Facebook of my father, sister and brother-in-law hav- ing a great time there was a slap in the face. My sister thinks it's ridiculous that I insist on an invitation. Other people tell me I'm loads of fun to be around. Am I wrong to want a ''hey, let's go,'' or should I just tag along regard- less? — Left-Out Sister The Tri-County Sams Chapter of the Good Sam Club held its November Campout at Feather Falls KOA in Oroville, with six rigs in attendance. Several members went to the casino for dinner and gambling on Friday night. On Saturday morning they held a regular Social Hour in the clubhouses. During the day, several members went to the casi- no again and others drove around the area to see the sites. Saturday night was a potluck. Wayne Barry and Sharon Furia of Orland were trailbosses and decorat- ed using the fall theme, with rust colored tableclothes, fall leaves, napkins and cups of candy and nuts. Targets for Toys Clear Creek Sports Club at Rolling Hills Casino in Corning will hold its 4th annual Tar- gets for Toys event on Dec. 17-18. Proceeds collected from the club's trap range and sporting-clays course on those days will be used to purchase toys for local chari- ties. The club will be open from 8 a.m. to 4 p.m. each day and reservations are required. For more information, call Brad Henman at 520- 9464. Dear Left Out: You are family. You are allowed to tag along on fam- ily outings without an engraved invi- tation, especially when your sister has already made it clear that you are welcome to do so. Please don't let your sibling issues spoil these special times with your father. If you wish to attend, make your intentions clear, and then be the ''loads of fun'' gal you are and have a good time. Dear Annie: ''Twin in Texas'' said her brother in New York is rais- ing two grandsons. He not only shows extreme favoritism toward one of them, but the unfavored child sleeps in a ''windowless storage room.'' As a licensed architect, I can tell you it is illegal to use this storage room as a bedroom for two reasons: First, a bedroom needs two means of egress in case of fire. The second rea- son is that the code requires a win- dow for light and ventilation with specific requirements on the size for each purpose. — W. from Indiana Dear W.: Our thanks to all the architects and contractors who wrote. We are sure many readers learned something today. We did. Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 5777 W. Century Blvd., Ste. 700, Los Angeles, CA 90045. Tri-County Sams Chapter recent outings Election of officers was held after dinner, with Richard Sol re-elected as president, Ed Pereira as vice president, Darlene Dickison as treasurer, Retta Pereira s secretary and newly elected Lisa Sol as wag- onmaster. It was decided to have potlucks at 5 p.m. during the winter months. On Dec. 11,will be the meeting and Christmas Potluck at the home of Richard and Lisa Sol in El Camino. The October campout was at Red Bluff RV Park with four rigs in attendance and three drive ins. Sevearl members went to the Dairyville Orchard Fes- tival. Ed and Retta Pereira were trailbosses. They deco- rated using the Halloween theme. Anyone owning a self-contained RV that would like to go on monthly campouts with a great small group of people may call Wagonmaster Vic Dickison at 824-3081