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4B Daily News – Friday, September 30, 2011 FEATURES Guy's ganja gets granny's goat Dear Annie: I am a 67- year-old woman who has been deeply hurt. My hus- band died seven years ago, and I suffered deep depres- sion. My psychiatrist told me to meet new people, so I did. I joined an expensive dating service, which was a disaster. Then I went to din- ner with a girlfriend in an upscale nightclub. A good- looking fellow asked me to dance, and we clicked immediately. He was charming, adorable and could dance. I was smitten. Over the next two years, we trav- eled extensively, cooked together, went to the beach and had a lot in common. My family embraced him and was so happy for me. There were a few concerns, but they didn't seem important. He told me he'd been addicted to alcohol and tobac- co, but stopped using both 30 years ago. Three weeks ago, he brought marijuana to my home and proceed- ed to smoke. I was appalled and told him to never bring it into my house again. He then proceeded to sneak it in the bathroom. He refused to quit and said if I want to see him, I'd have to go to his place. (His house is a wreck, and there is no place for me to sit.) We had an argument, and I haven't heard from him since. I am shocked that the man I loved is an addict. I will never accept having a With 30,000 disabled military men and women coming back from service overseas in Iraq and Afghanistan to live in Cali- fornia each year providing understanding, support and opportunity are crucial to their successful return to civilian life. With veteran unemployment four times the national average, entre- preneurial opportunity is critical to helping them cre- ate financial independence, 83RD Annie's Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar pot smoker in my life. He claims he didn't lie about it, but I consider this a lie by omission. How could he do this after all our time togeth- er? — Hurt in Connecticut Dear Hurt: There were probably signs during your two years together, but peo- ple in love are prone to over- look red flags, especially if they are unfamiliar with the markings. We don't doubt that this man enjoyed your company, but his addiction comes first, and he isn't willing to give it up for you. We know you are hurting, but please know you also are lucky to have missed this train. Dear Annie: I am an amateur writer and publisher of a minority newspaper. It circulates all over the U.S., so I am becoming rather famous in my ethnic community. I often receive unsolicited newly published books in my native lan- guage. The authors ask me to write some words of praise for the book. Whenever possible, I give them the positive comments I feel they deserve. My question is, how do I respond if the book is not well written? Do I tell the author my true feelings or give no reply at all? I know how to respond in my culture, but since I have been living in the U.S., I think I should do ''as in Rome.'' Please help. — Cultural Stranger Dear Stranger:You can respond with kind words that are not exactly support their families and create new jobs. Now the statewide non-profit DVBE Alliance is taking the mes- sage on the road. Executive Director Rich Dryden says, "The Travel- ing Chapter will bring experts from financing, business development, diversity officials and con- tract buyers from State agencies and private indus- try who are eager to support these entrepreneurial war- praise (''You have clearly worked hard on this'' or ''I wish you the best of luck''), or you can tell the writer that you are too inundated with material to read everything, so sorry. However, although you are ''in Rome,'' the people who write to you expect you to respond accord- ing to your own cultural norms, so you might want to reconsider. Dear Annie: This is for ''No Pets, Please,'' whose friends and relatives insist on bringing their pets to her home. She should not worry for one second about saying the dogs are not welcome. I am an officer in a breed club and have raised and shown dogs for years. Dogs are welcome in my home, but if they are staying overnight, I request a crate and do the same with my dogs when I visit elsewhere. Every one of my dogs is a four-footed child, but it would never occur to me to bring a dog to someone's home unless told he was invited. Part of being a responsible dog owner is recognizing that not everyone is as nuts as we are. — Owner, Handler Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 5777 W. Century Blvd., Ste. 700, Los Angeles, CA 90045. Entrepreneurial opportunity for disabled veterans riors." 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Grapevine Wreath Class Friday, October 7th & Saturday, October 8th @ 10:00 am $10.00 per person Please call to reserve a seat Red Bluff Garden Center 527-0886 766 Antelope Blvd. (Next to the Fairground) Do carbonated beverages harm you bones? DEAR DOC- TOR K: I know I should drink plen- ty of water every day, but some- times I get tired of drinking plain water. So I reach for club soda, seltzer water or sparkling mineral water. But I've heard that carbon- ated drinks could be bad for my bones. Is this true? DEAR READ- Dr. K by Anthony L. Komaroff, M.D. lower her bone mineral density (BMD). Some scientists suspect that the caffeine in cola may have a harmful effect on BMD, but there's no proof of that. So the good news is that drinking carbon- ER: Several of my patients have asked the same question. Some- times they are not asking about carbonated water, but carbonated beverages that contain caffeine (like colas) and sugar or sweet- ener. I'll tell you what I tell them. grams, training and contract opportunity to all corners of the Golden State. With nine established Network Chap- ters serving in major CA cities, the DVBE Alliance will extend its services by working directly with dis- abled veterans in smaller cities and outlying areas. The Disabled Veteran Business Enterprise Alliance Traveling Chapter will host a business network event in Redding in con- junction with the already scheduled Small Business Development Center event Next Steps 2011 at the Red- ding Convention Center, 700 Auditorium Drive, on Oct. 5. The DVBE Traveling Chapter network meeting will be held 7–9 a.m., prior to the SBDC event. All DVBE are encouraged to attend the entire day of activities. For more infor- mation call the DVBE Alliance at 916-446-3510. There is a theory that phosphoric acid (phos- phate), found in some carbonated beverages, can interfere with calci- um absorption. But there's no good evidence that consuming a lot of phosphate affects bone metabolism or bone den- sity. Researchers have looked at the effect of carbonated beverages on bone health in adults. One study found that non-cola carbonated drinks (like the carbonat- ed water drinks you asked about) were not associat- ed with low bone density. Another study com- pared two groups of healthy postmenopausal women. Both groups drank one quart of either carbonated or non-car- bonated mineral water per day. After eight weeks, there was no dif- ference in bone turnover between the two groups. So I don't put much stock in the theory that carbon- ated water weakens your bones. On the other hand, in the same study I just talked about, women who drank cola had lower hip bone density. The more cola a woman drank, the The Tehama County Peace Officers' Associa- tion will meet on Thurs- day Oct. 6, at M&M ated water doesn't appear to be bad for your bones. On the other hand, don't overdo the caffeinated beverages, carbonated or not. And make sure that carbonated water isn't taking the place of other healthy beverages in your diet, such as calcium- rich, low-fat milk. Finally, in talking about the carbonation in carbonated beverages, let's not forget about the real culprit that makes some types of carbonated beverages unhealthy: sugar. A few years ago a patient of mine asked me if the carbonation in the 10 cans of cola she drank a day was bad for her bones. I told her that the carbonation in colas might be a problem for her bones, but that was the least of her problems with colas. The sugar in all those colas was a defi- nite problem for her whole body. The weight gain associated with sug- ary sodas puts a big strain on the heart, blood ves- sels and joints. So my advice is to feel free to enjoy carbonated water without worrying. However, I reserve the right to change my mind, when and if new evidence emerges. 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