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Wednesday, September 28, 2011 – Daily News 5A FEATURES Slovenly slattern slings slanderous slights Dear Annie: I know you won't print this, because your column is all about badmouthing men. Holly- wood does the same thing. Why is it terrible when a man belittles his wife, but funny when she belittles him? Explain why Brad Pitt and Ben Affleck are ''sexy'' when they don't shave, but women complain about us for the same thing. Some of us have nose and ear hair, and women call us slobs. Maybe we don't change our clothes every day. So what? This is for all the wives and girl- friends: When was the last time you shaved your legs, underarms or even your face? Do you really think a moustache or two-inch hair sticking out of your chin is an aphrodisiac? It's not. When was the last time you used makeup or put on some per- fume? Do you really think wearing sweatpants on your 300-pound body makes you look like an ath- lete? Annie's Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar in support of being a slob. Of course a loving heart is the most important attribute of any relationship. But there is no excuse for either men or women to become unshaven, unkempt pigs because they have grown complacent. We guarantee women would find Brad Pitt a good deal less attractive if he had hair sticking out of his ears and nose and hadn't changed his underwear in a week. But you are right that many women also neglect their appearance. Each partner in a rela- tionship should make every effort to look presentable, and sometimes that involves a magnifying mirror. Dear Annie: I would greatly appreciate it if you would please reprint one of your most requested pieces. It is entitled ''After a While'' by Veronica A. Shoffstall. I found it in my drawer and can no longer read it. — El Paso, Texas Dear El Paso: With pleasure. Here it is: I try to appreciate the finer, non- physical things about women. A beautiful heart and personality are much more attractive than a pretty face. But an ungrateful attitude is many times worse than some extra hair. Why don't you try to appreci- ate us for providing a decent home and working hard all our lives to support our families? When you change your attitude, a little extra hair won't seem important. — Slop- py Old Man Dear Sloppy: You'll forgive us if we chuckle at your raging diatribe Skye Featherstone, who attended school in Shasta County and received a McConnell Leadership Scholarship for attending UC Santa Barbara in Global Studies where he graduated with honors, returns to Red- ding in October. Feather- stone is working on a pro- ject: Ride for the River. Featherstone believes in Bikecology, which is defined as the practice of healthy, just and sustain- able transportation. Ride for the River, at its simplest is a bike ride for the communities and the rivers of California, Featherstone said. "This project will open the door for community members throughout Cal- ifornia," Featherstone said. "Stories surround dammed rivers, and cap- turing images of the dams (large and small) and the people they effect is the focal point of this out- reach campaign." Through still photogra- phy and HD-film inter- views with community members along the way, a compendium of personal anecdotes will arise to help policy makers and communitiesalike under- stand that the plight of the Steelhead is a symbol for the plight of our global water systems at large. With the still images Shoffstall After a While by Veronica A. After a while you learn the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul, and you learn that love doesn't mean leaning and company doesn't always mean security. And you begin to learn that kiss- es aren't contracts and presents aren't promises, and you begin to accept your defeats with your head up and your eyes ahead, with the grace of a woman, not the grief of a child. And you learn to build all your roads on today, because tomorrow's ground is too uncertain for plans and futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight. After a while you learn that even sunshine burns if you get too much, so you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers. And you learn that you really can endure, you really are strong, you really do have worth, and you learn, and you learn, with every goodbye, you learn... Copyright 1971 Dear Annie: I was so comforted by the letter from ''Coping in Calif.,'' whose son and his wife have cut her out of their lives. It's true that there's not one thing we can do about it. But I loved that she said along with forgiving them, we must also protect ourselves from their cruel behavior. So much is said about cruelty to children. But so little is said about adult children being cruel to their parents. — Iowa Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 5777 W. Century Blvd., Ste. 700, Los Angeles, CA 90045. Rides for Rivers California will travel with Skye for these outreach events. Support and resources from Surfrider Founda- tion, Waterkeepers, Inter- national Rivers and from professors at UC Berkeley and UC Santa Barbara make this a well rounded and effectual campaign. The Ride for the River seeks to donate $2,500 to International Rivers, cen- tered in Berkeley. After over a month on and interview footage I will create a short envi- ronmental-PSA advocat- ing for more creek clean ups and more dam removals on the once wild rivers of California. The last and most important component of Ride for the River are the people. Several "tabling" or meet and greets at farm- ers' markets and presenta- tions of footage through film screenings will take place in Redding and information will be con- ducted by Skye Feather- stone in San Luis Obispo and Redding. Leaflets, pictures, and handouts explaining the lifecycle and challenges Steelhead Trout face in STEINWAY ARTIST • the Jim Martinez Trio Presbyterian Church of Red Bluff presents Vocalist Laura Didier with Friday, Oct 7, 2011 7:00 pm 333 Oak Street, Red Bluff State Theater Saturday, Oct 8, 2011 6:00 pm Presbyterian Church of Red Bluff 838 Jefferson Street Jazz Praise Doris Tribute $20 / $25 at door • Jazz Praise $10 / $15 at door Tickets available by calling (530) 527-0372 • www.pcRedBluff.org www.DorisTribute.com • www.JimMartinez.com Flu season is coming..... Lassen Medical Group, Inc. 2011-2012 Flu Vaccine Clinics (530) 527-0414 All adults welcome, Children (established LMG patients only) Under 2 years of age require prior physician approval. Pneumonia shots available (for those who meet the requirements) Medical Insurance will be billed. Flu shot available during regular office hours effective September 26th. www.lassenmedical.com Red Bluff office 2450 Sister Mary Columba Drive Sunday October 2nd 9am to 1pm Saturday October 22nd 9am to 1pm Sunday November 19th 9am to 1pm Cottonwood office 20833 Long Branch Drive Sunday October 2nd 9am to 1pm Saturday October 22nd 9am to 1pm Sunday November 19th 9am to 1pm 2450 Sister Mary Columba Dr., Red Bluff the bike, the culmination of the project will be a presentation of the images and interviews in Feather- stone's hometown: Red- ding. There, local anglers and native american tribes can remember a time when fish teemed from the Sacramento River's headwaters above Shasta Dam. FIRST ANNUAL BOOSTER FALL BONANZA Featuring "1987 State Championship Girls Basketball Team" Saturday, October 15, 2011 Social Hour: Tri-Tip Dinner: 6:30pm Dancing: Live Band - Northern Heat Tyler-Jelly Building Red Bluff Fairgrounds Pre- Ticket: $30 (available from a Red Bluff Spartan Athlete) Tickets at the Door: $40 Sponsored By 275 C St. / Tehama 5:30pm 8:30pm How can I fall asleep? DEAR DOC- TOR K: For the past few months I've been having a lot of trouble falling asleep, basically every night. I'm groggy and can't concen- trate on anything all day. I'd give anything for a good night's rest. Dr. K by Anthony L. Komaroff, M.D. DEAR READ- ER: Trouble falling asleep often occurs because a person is overstimulated. There may be unusual stresses in your life that cause a lot of anxiety. With most of my patients, however, there's no one thing they can put their finger on that explains why they are lying there having trouble falling asleep. Here are some of the things I tell my patients to do, and not to do, to fall asleep more easily: — Go to bed and wake up at the same time every day, and avoid naps. Get your body used to a regu- lar sleep pattern. — Cut down on caf- feinated beverages during the day. Believe it or not, having caffeine after noon can make you sleep less soundly 10 hours later. — Avoid heavy meals before bedtime. — Eliminate alcohol before bedtime. A little "nightcap" may make you feel sleepy right after you take it, but it has a stimu- lating effect two to four hours later that can inter- rupt your sleep. — Exercise daily, preferably early in the day. Regular exercise improves your sleep, although vigorous exer- cise in the hours just before bedtime can be stimulating and make it hard to fall asleep. — Eliminate noise or bright lights that might be disrupting your sleep, even if you are not aware of it. — Use a fan, white noise machine or a recording of nature sounds to lull you to sleep. (By the way, I do this myself, and I'm convinced it helps me sleep more soundly.) — Maintain a comfortable tem- perature in your bedroom, slightly on the cool side. — Try not reading or watching TV in bed. They may be stimulating you even if you think they are relaxing you. (But if you don't have trouble falling asleep and love to read or watch TV in bed, there's no reason not to.) If these changes don't do the trick, give behav- ioral therapies a try: Relaxation therapy: Special techniques help quiet your mind and relax your muscles since stress and anxiety often con- tribute to insomnia. Sleep restriction pro- gram: This program ini- tially permits only a few hours of sleep per night, then gradually increases your nightly sleeping time. Reconditioning pro- grams: These programs condition you to associate your bed only with sleep- ing and sex. What about sleeping pills? Your doctor may prescribe them. Some sleeping pills go to work rapidly and therefore help people fall asleep. Howev- er, most sleeping pills are for short-term or occa- sional use. Most of my patients don't need to try pills after they make the adjustments in their lifestyle that I suggest above. I hope the same is true with you. Dr. Komaroff is a physician and professor at Harvard Medical School. Go to his website to send questions and get additional information: www.AskDoctorK.com. Community News? clerk@redbluffdailynews.com Thank You for Supporting the ENGLAND'S BOOKKEEPING SERVICES Need help organizing your information for your tax preparer? Email acownteen@yahoo.com Call or Text 530 739-9413