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Moneyisthemostdiffi- cult subject to discuss be- tween two people in love. Why? Sev- eral reasons: It's per- sonal. We're taught as children to never ask how much people earn, what things cost or how much money people have. It's rude; it's poor manners; and it is just not done. We spend the first two decades of our lives keep- ing anything related to money hush-hush. We learn to skirt the truth in the interest of personal de- corum. We grow up, enter a re- lationship and find that it's not easy to suddenly talk about such personal infor- mation. It's not flattering. We wear clothes that flatter our good points and down- play our flaws. We snap a "selfie," and then retake as many times as necessary to get it just right. We take great pains to present ourselves in the very best light. And when forced to talk about finan- cial issues, well, we do the same thing. We bend the truth or we omit certain details that don't make us look that great. It's terrifying. If you're like most people, you're not sure of your finan- cial situation. At. All. You may be always just two steps ahead of a total fi- nancial meltdown. If you share that kind of infor- mation, your beloved may not think you're such a great catch. You feel that you must be careful here, keeping your terror under wraps. After all, once you get married and have twice the income to pay for half the expenses (being in love does funny things with math), things will be awe- some in no time at all. Don't cause any waves. Stay calm and carry on. Everything is sure to turn out right. Money touches every area of life in some way. If you and your sweet- heart get your money atti- tudes straight, it will help straighten out almost ev- ery other area in your lives. Ask these three ques- tions to cut through all of this and get right to what you need to know: 1 May I see your credit report, please? If he or she hands it right over, great! You need to recip- rocate without question. Trading credit reports will get everything on the ta- ble, perhaps even things you did not know existed. Yes, it is scary, and yes, it may be the most difficult thing you will ever do to- gether as you build your relationship. And the most beneficial. 2 Who handled the money in your home when you were a child? Why this is important: Let's say you discover than your fiancee's dad took care of all the bills in a "behind closed doors" fashion so her mother never had to worry her pretty little head about a thing. If her daddy pro- vided in this way, it is quite possible she assumes the same will be true of her marriage and home. And vice versa. Of course, there are all kinds of possible scenarios here, but it's a great ques- tion for you to ask each other to get the conversa- tion started. 3 "In every relationship/ marriage there is a saver and a spender." Does our relationship fit that statement? Which are you? Which do you believe I am? Don't hide. Just because you might be the spender doesn't mean you are a spendthrift — or if you are the saver, that you hoard money. No, it just means you have an attitude or bent toward that way of thinking. Truth be told, the best combination in a marriage is a spender and a saver. This creates balance when both are committed to full transparency and com- plete honesty. Asking and answering simple questions can give both of you the assurance and confidence you need to move your relationship to the next level. Wouldyouliketosend a tip to Mary? You can email her at mary@ev- erydaycheapskate.com, or write to Everyday Cheap- skate, P.O. Box 2099, Cy- press, CA 90630. EVERYDAY CHEAPSKATE In love, it's not easy to talk about money Mary Hunt Today REDBLUFF Celebrate Recovery:7 p.m., Bethel Assembly of God, 625Luther Road, 527- 0445or 366-6298 Red Bluff Rotary Club Sunrise: 7a.m., M&M Ranch CORNING Achieve: 9a.m. to 1p.m., Corning Family Resource Center, 824-7670 Car Show: 5-9p.m., Bar- tel's Giant Burger, 22355 Corning Road, local car clubs welcome, 824-2788 ESL/Citizenship Class: 9-11a.m., Monday and Friday, Corning Family Resource Center, 175Solano St., 824-7670 Nutrition Classes: 11:30 a.m. to 1p.m., 175Solano St., 824-7670 COTTONWOOD Singles Friendship Social: 7-8:30p.m., at a church we rent, Assembly of God Church, 20404Gas Point Road, for unmarried adults ages late 30s to mid 60s, 347-3770 Saturday RED BLUFF Frontier Village Farmers Market: 8a.m. to 1p.m., 645Antelope Blvd. Tehama County Young Marine Drills: 9a.m. to 3 p.m., 1005Vista Way, Ste. C. 366-0813 TEHAMA Tehama County Museum: 1-4p.m., 275C St., group tours any day by appoint- ment, 384-2595 Sunday RED BLUFF AA Live and Let Live: noon and 5:30p.m., 785Musick St., seven days a week except Thursday meets at 8p.m. Al-Anon New Comers At Heart: 6:30-7:30p.m., Presbyterian Church of Red Bluff, 838Jefferson Road, Room 2, 941-6405 Kelly-Griggs House Museum: 1-3p.m., 311 Washington St., group tours by appointment, 527-1129 TEHAMA Tehama County Museum: 1-4p.m., 275C St., group tours any day by appoint- ment, 384-2595 Monday RED BLUFF Community Band re- hearsal: 7-9p.m., Red Bluff Presbyterian Church, 838 Jefferson St., New members welcome, 527-3486 English as a Second Lan- guage class: 5:30-8:30 p.m., Red Bluff High School Adult Ed building, 1295Red Bud, 736-3308, same time Tuesday and Wednesday and 9a.m. to 12:20p.m. Thursdays, free childcare from 9a.m. to 12:20p.m. classes in Richlieu Hall, 900 Johnson St. Head Injury Recreational Entity: 10a.m.-2p.m., St. Elizabeth Community Hospi- tal, Coyne Center, Rusty, 529-2059 Key to Life: 6p.m., Fam- ily Resource Center, 220 Sycamore St. Suite 101, 528-8066 Narcotics Anonymous: 11 a.m. to noon, 838Jeffer- son St., Room 3, Monday through Saturday and 5:30- 6:30p.m. Saturday Narcotics Anonymous: 7-8:30p.m., 785Musick St., every day except Thursday Nutrition classes: 10:30 a.m. to noon, 220Sycamore St. #101 PAL Martial Arts: 3-5p.m., ages 5-18, 1005Vista Way, Ste. C, free, 529-7950 Salvation Army Writing Class: 9:30-11:30a.m., 940 Walnut St., 527-8530 Senior Writing Class: 10 a.m. to noon, Sycamore Center, 220Sycamore St., 527-5762 Calendar In an effort to fight dis- tracted driving and raise public awareness dur- ing National Teen Driver Safety Week, Oct. 19-25, the California Department of Transportation is join- ing with the Office of Traf- fic Safety and California Highway Patrol to launch an interactive, mobile and online game called "Dis- traction Zone" that helps educate teen drivers about safe driving. Car crashes are the lead- ing cause of death for 14- to 18-year-olds in the United States. "Playing the Distraction Zone game will provide teens with lifelong skills that will not only help keep these young drivers safe, but protect highway work- ers," said Caltrans Director Malcolm Dougherty. According to 2012 data from The National High- way Traffic Safety Associ- ation, among drivers 15- to 19-years-old who were dis- tracted in fatal crashes, nearly 1 in 5 were dis- tracted by their phones. Speeding is also a com- mon contributing factor in fatal crashes. In 2012, speeding was a factor in almost half (48 percent) of the crashes that killed 15- to 20-year-old drivers. Mobile versions of the game are available for download on the App Store and Google Play and the online version is played at www.DistractionZone.com. As always, teens should not play the game or text while driving. An added incentive, a contest invites teen play- ers to submit their highest game score for a chance to win cash prizes. The top prize is $500. Players can play multiple times to achieve their best score and enter the contest be- tween now and June 15, 2015. The campaign also in- cludes a safe driving ed- ucation program for high schools called the Distrac- tion Zone School Chal- lenge. This program calls on student leaders to cre- ate an on-campus traffic safety event as part of a competition to win a cash grant up to $2,000 for their school. Applications to en- ter the competition are due by Dec. 1. CALTRANS Game launched to teach teen drivers The Roaring '20s will be the theme for the Tehama County CattleWomen's an- nual luncheon, fashion show and boutique, which will be held Nov. 8 at Car- lino's Event Center at Roll- ing Hills Casino in Corning. This year marks the 57th year that the CattleWomen have staged the annual gala. The event begins at 10 a.m. with the boutique and Cow- boy Pantry. CattleWomen will stock the pantry tables with baked and preserved goodies from their kitch- ens and nuts and fall fruits from their gardens. In addition, guest ven- dors will offer jewelry, leather crafts, photographs, pottery, woodworking, la- dies fashions, accessories and handbags for sale. In keeping with Cattle- Women tradition, a beef fi- let steak lunch will be served at 11:30 a.m. The meal's first course is a gourmet harvest salad and the grand finale will be an elegant dessert. Luncheon seating is by prepaid reservation only. Individual tickets, which cost $28, may be purchased from Shelley Macdonald at 529-9679. Reserved tables for par- ties of 10 are also available. The deadline for purchasing tickets is Oct. 31 and no tick- ets will be sold at the door. Chairwoman Jeannie Garton will coordinate the fashion show. Pem Les- ter is in charge of the cow- boy pantry with help from Kelly Mouton and Michelle Blunkall. Laurel Walker is organizing the boutique. TEHAMA COUNTY CattleWomen to celebrate with 'Roaring '20s' theme CONTRIBUTED The Roaring '20s decora- tions will be carried out by Garton and Jeanne Smith. Linda Walker and Anne Read are in charge of pub- licity. Master of ceremonies will be retired Judge Rich- ard Schueler. Assisting with the event are Tehama County Beef Ambassadors Danielle Mueller, Kayla McGiffin, Emyli Palmer and Kegan Richards. Fashions will be modeled by CattleWomen members, family and friends. Among the fashion show partici- pants from Red Bluff are Crossroads, Plum Crazy, The Loft, The Closet, Three Generations and Wink. Also participating are Wheeler West Cowgirl Bou- tique from Corning, Pen- delton from the Anderson outlet stores and Sassy and Classy of Chico. Funds raised at the lun- cheon go toward scholar- ships and beef education for the youth of the com- munity. NOTICE OF CURRENT PROPERTY TAX DUE Made pursuant to Section 2609, Revenue and Taxation Code Dana Hollmer, Tehama County Tax Collector, hereby announces that regular secured tax bills will be mailed on or before November 1, 2014, to all property owners, at the addresses shown on the tax roll. If you own property in Tehama County and do not receive a tax bill by November 10, contact the tax collector's office, 444 Oak Street, Room D, Red Bluff CA or call 527-4535. Failure to receive a tax bill does not relieve the taxpayer of the responsibility to make timely payments. The FIRST INSTALLMENT of 2014-15 taxes are due and payable on November 1, 2014, and will become delinquent if not paid by 5:00 p.m. or the close of business, which ever is later, on December 10, 2014 thereafter a 10% penalty will be added. The SECOND INSTALLMENT is due on February 1, 2015 and will become delinquent if not paid by 5:00 p.m., or the close of business, whichever is later, on April 10, 2015, thereafter a 10% penalty will be added plus the cost to prepare the delinquent tax records and to give notice of delinquency. BOTH INSTALLMENTS MAY BE PAID when the first installment is due. Payments may be made by electronic funds transfer or by credit card by logging on to co.tehama.ca.us or by mail sent to P O Box 769, Red Bluff CA, 96080. Mailed payments must be POSTMARKED BY THE DELINQUENT DATE to avoid late penalties. Payments may also be made in person at the county tax collector's office, 444 Oak Street, room D, Red Bluff, CA between the hours of 8:00 a.m. and 5:00 p.m., Monday through Friday, holidays excepted. I certify, under penalty of perjury, that the foregoing is true and correct. DANA HOLLMER Tehama County Tax Collector Executed at Red Bluff, Tehama County, California, on October 20, 2014 Published on October 24, 2014 and October 31, 2014. Buy1entréeget 1 /2 off 2 nd entrée *equalorlesservalue,dineinonly Open Tues-Sat www. palominoroom .com 723 Main St. 527.5470 100JacksonStreet, Red Bluff (530) 529-1220 NEW Membership Specials CallorComeIn for details SCHEDULEYOUR MAMMOGRAM Like Your Life Depends on it. 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