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2B Daily News – Wednesday, August 10, 2011 FEATURES Mom’s mien mums mothering Dear Annie: I am 26 and a single parent to a 3-year-old girl. I love my daughter more than anything in this world. However, in the past few months, she has become a brat and a monster, doing everything she can to test me. Due to recent financial problems, we had to move in with my mother until I can finish my degree and get a job. No matter what dis- cipline I use, noth- ing works because my mother under- mines me. There is no consistency in what is right or wrong. My mother always gives in to her every request. Once in a while, I will spank my Annie’s Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar your mother that discipline does not require spanking your daughter, we also understand how difficult it is to raise a child when an indulgent grand- parent rules the roost. First, have a sit- down discussion with Mom when your daughter is asleep. Get her to acknowledge that a lack of discipline is not healthy for her grandchild. And you can compromise by agreeing to use different forms of discipline other than spanking. Create rules you can both abide by. If that doesn’t work, bring Mom to your next pediatrician appointment, and ask the doctor to speak to her. And please, find other living arrangements as soon as possi- ble. Dear Annie: I am a typical 20- daughter, but only on very rare occa- sions. I would never hurt her. My mother, however, cornered me and gave me a lecture on how awful I am for spanking my child. Yet I can clear- ly recall being spanked by my mother numerous times when I was little. Mom often questions my parenting in front of my daughter and then treats me like an 8-year-old. I am enormous- ly grateful that she opened her home to us, but I can’t be an effective parent when she constantly undercuts my authority. How can I get her to keep her child-rearing opinions to herself and allow me to make the parenting decisions for my child? — Texas Dear Texas: While we agree with year-old college guy. About five years ago, on the way back from a family vacation, my brother got carsick. Since then, he constantly complains about stomachaches, gets nervous about everything and never travels. He’s been to various doctors, but all of them say nothing is wrong. He doesn’t have friends anymore. He works once a week and says he’s ‘‘too sick’’ for a second job. He sits in his room playing computer games all day.I want to motivate him, but when- ever I try, he turns the argument against me. I see how much it upsets my parents. They are trying every- thing they can, and honestly, none of us knows what to do anymore. Can you help? — Concerned Brother Dear Brother: Your brother has anxiety issues that have not been addressed, so they have become worse over time. In addition, he may now be suffering from depression. This is not to say he isn’t also using his anxiety as an excuse to avoid responsibility, but it nonetheless can be crippling to deal with. Your parents should get a refer- ral to a psychiatrist and then insist that your brother make an appointment and be evaluated. There is medication for anxiety disorders, and the sooner he can be helped, the better. Dear Annie: ‘‘Scared Sister’’ said she was afraid whenever her sister, ‘‘Louise,’’ had to drive at night, because her vision was impaired. My 22-year-old son’s night driving was scary. It took two separate visits to the ophthalmologist to discover that he had congenital cataracts. It affected his depth perception. He was very clumsy as a little kid and had a lot of bruises. It was unnerving to be ques- tioned by the school principal about child abuse. Despite multiple eye exams, the cataracts were not diag- nosed until recently. Maybe ‘‘Louise’’ has the same condition. — Accused Mom Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 5777 W. Century Blvd., Ste. 700, Los Angeles, CA 90045.To find out more about Annie’s Mailbox and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate Web page at www.creators.com. Primary care doctor can safely treat your ears DEAR DR. GOTT: You have repeatedly indicated that a primary care doctor can remove wax from the ears. NO WAY! Only a trained ENT doctor should do that. It does not take much to cre- ate serious problems. I go every three months to my ENT for ear cleaning. I am deaf in one ear and have an over 75 percent hearing loss in the other. I will not take a chance on just anyone doing any more than look- ing in my ears. The same thing goes with my eyes. I have a story about how a primary care doctor could not help with an ear prob- lem. A little girl we knew had a problem with one ear where she would get real bad pain. Her parents took her to the pediatrician, who just gave her antibiotics, which did nothing. They finally took her to an ENT. He took one look, got his tools out, reached in and removed a watermelon seed. That is why we need specially trained doctors when it comes to our ears and eyes. Dr. Peter Gott DEAR READER: Your story doesn’t convince me. A watermelon seed is a fairly large object to be wedged into the ear. Had the pediatrician done a thorough examination, including look- ing into the girl’s ear, he would have no doubt found the cause of her pain. Your story simply leads me to believe that he prescribed antibiotics without actually looking to see if she had an ear infection. I stand by my statement that a primary care physi- cian can safely remove wax from the ear. If other prob- lems are suspected or pre- sent, then a referral to an ENT (ear-nose-and-throat) physician is definitely in order. As for the eyes, simple problems such as pink eye can also be safely handled by a primary care physician. For more complicated mat- ters, such as shingles or her- pes of the eye or poor vision, referral to a ophthal- mologist is appropriate. 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