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2B Daily News – Saturday, July 9, 2011 FEATURES Diligent dad disregards descendants Dear Annie: I have been married to my husband for 20 years, and we have two children in their teens. Over the years, my husband has purchased rental property that will hopefully turn out to be a good investment. Along with maintaining those properties and his full-time job, he also partic- ipates in sports and plays in a band. This leaves me home with the kids four nights a week and some- times weekends. I also work full time and come home to laundry, supper and what- ever needs to be done around the house and with the kids. By the time I’m done, it’s 9:30 and my husband is still not home. It gets really lone- ly here. I tried having my own after- hours activities, but when I’d return, there would still be dishes to wash, laundry to do and things to pick up. It was exhausting. I feel like a single mother. It’s not as if his activities involve the kids. He spends little time with them. If I say anything or try to derail his plans with some family time, I am the bad guy, especially if he believes I’m only doing it to force him to spend time with his children. It’s frustrating, and I’m not sure how to rectify the situation. He’s a great, hardworking guy, but the kids are going to be grown and gone by the time he realizes what he’s missed. — Just Want Some Family Time Dear Family Time: While your Annie’s Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar husband should certainly be spending more time with his family, you cannot force him to appreciate what he has at home. He’s too busy running away from it. Instead, con- centrate on yourself. Your children are old enough to help with cooking, cleaning and laundry, and these are skills they should learn. Pick an evening to do something you enjoy, and tell your kids they are responsible for the household chores that night. Hire a sitter if you feel they are not old enough to stay home alone. And if the house isn’t perfect, so what? You have been carrying a big load for a long time. You deserve to decompress, too. Dear Annie: My son fell out of my life several years ago. I do not know why, nor do I know where he is. We used to talk every couple of weeks for years, but then I didn’t hear from him, and his phone was disconnected. When my mail was returned unopened, I was so wor- ried that I had the police there check on him. I then got a call from my son let- ting me know that when he had something to say to me, he would phone. The next year, I received a Mother’s Day card saying he loved me and wished me the best. That was several years ago, and I have not heard from him since. He was a wonderful son until he vanished from my life. I have since remarried, but I refuse to move because this is the The 2011 fishing regulations for salmon fishing on the American, Feather, Sacramento, Klamath and Trinity rivers are effective Saturday, July 16. The Fish and Game Commission adopts yearly regula- tions to help ensure the success of the fish and give the state’s fishing public an opportunity to enjoy this valuable resource. The following is a summary of seasons, daily bag and possession limits on salmon. Sacramento River for all • Daily bag and possession limit of two Chinook salmon open areas. • From Deschutes Road bridge to 500 feet upstream of the Red Bluff Diversion Dam, open Aug. 1 through Dec. 18. The Tehama-Glenn Unit of the California Depart- ment of Forestry and Fire Protection (CalFire) is only place my son knows to contact me. I am now 65 and have resigned myself to never seeing him again. Please, if you are estranged from your parents, check in occasionally. You do not have to divulge your whereabouts. Just a postcard to say you are OK would be enough. I will love my son forever. I hope he knows that. — A Lonely Mom Dear Mom: Your letter broke our hearts. We hope your son will contact you soon. And for all other distant and estranged children out there — please send word that you are OK. Your parents love you and worry about you. Dear Annie: I read with interest the letter from ‘‘Dismayed in the Boston Area,’’ whose daughter has been subjected to anti-Semitic remarks at the company where she works. Please tell this young woman to contact the Simon Wiesenthal Center/Museum of Tol- erance. We have a diversity-training program as part of our ‘‘Tools for Tolerance’’ and can offer her some advice. — A. Fox Dear A. Fox: Thank you for your assistance and suggestions. Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 5777 W. Century Blvd., Ste. 700, Los Angeles, CA 90045. Salmon regulations for Northern California rivers • From 150 feet below the Lower Red Bluff (Sycamore) Boat Ramp to Highway 113 bridge near Knights Landing, open July 16 through Dec. 18. • From the Highway 113 bridge near Knights Landing to Carquinez Bridge (includes Suisun Bay, Grizzly Bay and all tributary sloughs), open July 16 through Dec. 11. • All other areas and dates are closed to salmon fishing. A department weekly status report is available at 1-800- 564-6479. See 2011-2012 Supplement for fall-run Chinook area sub-quotas and area boundaries. Anglers must have report cards in their possession when fishing for salmon in the Trinity and Klamath rivers. All other regulations for bag and possession limits for trout, salmon and other species, as well as general information about restrictions on fishing methods and gear on the above rivers, are available on the DFG website at www.dfg.ca.gov/regulations. CalFire warns of local area telephone scam warning residents of a pos- sible phone scam soliciting ‘Yard Sale Map’ Updated Thursday afternoon – for weekend Yard Sales! Click on locations for exact addresses and driving directions! ‘ at www.redbluffdailynews.com . Mouse over the red ‘ ’ tab and scroll down to ‘ ’ can be easily accessed from our top menu ’ and click. money for CalFire. Recently, a Tehama County resident reported receiving a phone call from an individual representing themselves as a CalFire employee asking for cash donations for CalFire. Cal- Fire does not solicit money via phone calls for any rea- son and asks that anyone who receives such a phone call, not to give financial support of any kind and if possible get a phone num- ber from the caller. Please report the infor- mation to your local law enforcement, Tehama County Sherriff’s Depart- ment at (530) 529-7900 or Red Bluff Police Depart- ment at (530) 527-8282. Overview of lewy body dementia GOTT: I have been waiting for a col- umn about Alzheimer’s or a form of dementia like it. My brother has a dementia called Lewy body. I have never heard of this before and hope you can shed some light on this horrible disease. He was highly intelligent, and it always amazed me how much his brain stored because no matter how much I try to remember something, it just doesn’t stay. DEAR DR. Dr. Peter Gott tain a protein asso- ciated with Parkin- son’s. Sufferers of Lewy body demen- tia also develop plaques and tangles within the brain that are associated with Alzheimer’s dis- ease. T reatment prescribed for Alzheimer’s disease, Parkinson’s med- ications and antipsychotic drugs. in v o lv es cholinesterase inhibitors typically It’s really hard to watch someone go from remem- bering everything to having to write it down so he does- n’t forget, doing unexplain- able things and having mood swings. When you look at his face, you can see the blankness. When he tries to say something, he doesn’t know how to get it out. He forgets to swallow. Some- times he knows me, and other times he forgets my name but remembers that we were connected. He now calls me by my first and middle name when he used to use my first name or call me “Sis.” Please help me to understand what is going on. DEAR READER: Lewy body dementia is the sec- ond-most-common form of progressive dementia fol- lowing Alzheimer’s disease. It is named because of the development of abnormal round structures (Lewy bod- ies) within the areas of the brain that control thinking and movement. Cholinesterase inhibitors increase levels of neuro- transmitters, which can help improve cognition and alert- ness and may reduce behav- ioral problems and halluci- nations. Parkinson’s medications reduce tremors, muscle rigidity and more, but may worsen confusion, delusions and hallucinations, making them inappropriate for some patients. Symptoms can mimic those of Parkinson’s disease and Alzheimer’s. The first sign is often visual halluci- nations, which can include seeing shapes, colors, ani- mals and people that aren’t there. In some cases, suffer- ers may even carry on con- versations with deceased friends and family. Other symptoms include delu- sions, having false ideas about a situation or person, sleep difficulties, fluctuating attention, including long periods of lethargy. Still other symptoms include staring into space, disorganized speech and/or frequent episodes of drowsi- ness, cognitive problems such as a shortened attention span, memory loss and con- fusion, and movement disor- ders including a shuffling walk, rigid muscles, slowed movement or tremors. Men over the age of 60 and those who have a family member with Lewy body dementia are at the highest risk of developing condition. The cause isn’t known, eficial to try non-medicinal therapies to help reduce symptoms, such as reducing clutter and distracting nois- es;, breaking tasks into smaller, easier steps; focus- ing on success, not failure; creating a structured routine; and having caretakers modi- fy responses, such as not correcting and quizzing, but rather being reassuring and validating concerns. Encouraging exercise, mak- ing a nighttime ritual and improving communication are helpful when the patient is at home. Music, aroma and massage therapies can promote calmness and relaxation. Finally, caregivers should Antipsychotic drugs may diminish delusions and hal- lucinations; however, approximately one-third of Lewy body sufferers are dangerously sensitive to these drugs and may devel- op permanent damage such as worsening confusion or Parkinson’s symptoms. When possible, it is ben- but it may be related to Alzheimer’s or Parkinson’s. 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