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Wednesday, March 16, 2011 – Daily News – 3B Raucous rebel ruining rapport Dear Annie: I am the second wife of the nicest, most wonderful man I have ever known. ‘‘John’’ and I have been in a happy marriage for seven years. John is friends a with ‘‘Ruth,’’ 36-year -old mother of two, and her husband. The problem is their out-of-control 16-year- old daughter, ‘‘Bethany.’’ The girl is jealous, manipulative and vindictive. She tells tales, runs around town at all hours, has wrecked her share of vehicles and has an excuse for every problem she caus- es. This would be none of my business, except one of my friends is the mother of Bethany’s on- again, off-again best friend. The mothers of these girls don’t like each other and have had a number of verbal con- frontations. Recently, I received an emotionally charged call from Ruth demanding I end my relationship with my friend. Supposedly, I made certain comments that have hurt Bethany’s feelings, even though Ruth admitted the infor- mation may not be true. The only thing I am guilty of is resenting this child. John and Ruth’s husband are both great fellows, and I’m afraid this will harm their relationship. Either way, Bethany will most certainly make more trouble in the future. Is there anything I can do? — Aurora Dear Aurora: You need to stay out of this entirely. While Ruth should not be dictating College to host info session California State Univer- sity, Chico, College of Business will host an Infor- mation Session for prospective students who are interested in the Busi- ness Administration – Entrepreneurship and Small Business Manage- ment degree completion program. The Information Session will take place Wednesday, March 23, noon to 1 p.m., in the Shas- ta College Student Center Stage Building 2000 on the Shasta College campus in Redding. Professor Jim Morgan, associate dean, College of Business, and Amy Lance, director of business advis- ing, will attend to present an overview of the degree completion program and answer questions. Lunch will be provided at the Information Session. Fall 2011 applications for the Business Adminis- tration – Entrepreneurship and Small Business Man- agement degree completion program are due June 30. The Business Adminis- tration – Entrepreneurship and Small Business Man- agement degree completion program provides partici- pants with the knowledge, skills and values necessary to understand and cope with the complex, changing and increasingly global business environment. If you are interested in attending the March 23 Information Session, please RSVP by calling the Uni- versity Center Program coordinator, Dan Greaney, 530-339-3652 or e-mail dgreaney@csuchico.edu. For complete information on all the CSU, Chico offerings in Redding visit http://rce.csuchico.edu/red- ding. Annie’s Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar the terms of your other friend- ships, you should not be talking about Bethany with anyone. Your resentment is coming through loud and clear, and both Ruth and her daughter can pick up on it. If necessary, apologize to Ruth for any misunder- standing, but otherwise, drop the subject. Your husband can deal with his own friendships. Dear Annie: My hus- band and I both work full time and have three young children. I make larger meals on Sundays so we can eat leftovers during the week. I invited my in-laws over for dinner last Sun- day, and they ate more than I had ever seen them eat before. My mother- in-law said they skipped meals knowing they were coming over for dinner. Needless to say, there were no leftovers, and I was not happy. I don’t intend to invite them too often anymore. Annie, please remind people to be considerate guests. — Love My In- Laws, But Dear Love: Honey, if you didn’t want your in- laws to eat the food, you should not have invited them for dinner. A gra- cious hostess does not expect guests to save leftovers so you won’t have to cook the rest of the week. The next time you have company, we suggest you make enough so even hungry people leave food on their plates. Or put aside the food you need later. Whatever is on the table is fair game. Dear Annie: During most of the 20 years that my first wife and I were married, I didn’t realize how important it was to demonstrate how much I appreciated her. When she suddenly passed away six years ago, I thought of all the times that I had not expressed my love and apprecia- tion. Two years later, I met a widow online. From the beginning, we start- ed and ended our meet- ings with a hug. After we married, we remem- bered to give each other a hug and a kiss when- ever either of us left the house. We also held hands and kissed or hugged for no reason other than to express our love. At age 62, we could still enjoy a romp in bed or just cuddling under the covers. When they told us a year ago that she had cancer, we were even more affec- tionate, providing com- fort to each other. We’ve heard others indicate that they don’t need to tell their spous- es they are loved ‘‘because they already know.’’ How wonderful it would be for couples to remember how they treated their partners during courtship. If they continued to ‘‘court’’ their partner as long as they live, there would be a lot more happy cou- ples. — Widowed Again Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast. net, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 5777 W. Century Blvd., Ste. 700, Los Angeles, CA 90045. FEATURES DEAR DR. GOTT: Are there Tinnitus treatments any new developments in the treatment of tinnitus that really work? My wife swears by many of your remedies. Your articles are the only reason we get a printed newspaper. DEAR READER: Tinnitus (noise or ringing in one or both ears) is not a disease but a symptom that points to some- thing wrong in the auditory sys- tem. Dr. Peter Gott The cause can be something as sim- ple as wax blocking the ear canal, the result of a thyroid abnormality, Meniere’s disease, infection, noise- induced hearing loss, aneurysm or brain tumor and more. My guess is that because you or a family member has tinnitus, your doc- tor has referred you to an otolaryngol- ogist (ear-nose-and-throat specialist) or an audiologist and an examination has been performed. This first step would likely rule out simple wax impaction. A series of specialized tests can help determine where the problem originated. An auditory brain response to test hearing nerves and brain path- ways or a CT or MRI to rule out tumor on a nerve may be ordered. A physician might suggest hearing aids to control outside sound levels; wearable sound generators that fit in the ear to generate pleasant sounds or white noise to mask the tinnitus; acoustic nerve stimulation to reduce or eliminate the tinnitus; cochlear implants that can bypass the damaged area of the inner ear but send electri- cal signals to stimulate the auditory nerve; biofeedback; and more. A study performed in Brazil some six years ago tested the drug acam- prosate (Campral), currently used for the control of alcoholism, in tinnitus sufferers. It showed greater than 86 percent relief of symptoms. Studies remain ongoing in the United States for this use. Keep in mind that some antidepres- sants and other medications such as aspirin might be the sole culprit. Speak with your physician regarding any prescriptions, over-the-counters and herbal supplements you might be on. Perhaps a simple switch to another product might be just what is needed. There are numerous herbal supplements and other products available without prescription to com- bat tinnitus; however, before beginning any of them, con- sult with your doctor to deter- mine whether they are right for you. On the home front, reduce caffeine and salt intake, dis- continue smoking if appropriate, and check zinc levels through simple labo- ratory testing. These steps might reduce symptoms to a more manage- able level. Be sure to protect your hearing when mowing the lawn, lis- tening to television, or even using a blow-dryer on your hair. If your job involves being around machinery, earplugs might be appropriate. Readers who would like additional information can order my Health Report “Ear Infections and Disorders” by sending a self-addressed stamped No. 10 envelope and a $2 check or money order made payable to Newsletter and mailed to Newsletter, P.O. Box 167, Wickliffe, OH 44092- 0167. Be sure to mention the title or print an order form off my website’s direct link at www.AskDrGottMD.com/order_form. pdf. DEAR DR. GOTT: I have followed your advice about using Vicks to kill a toenail fungus I had for years. My problem is that the toenails on my big toes have lifted and they don’t want to return to normal. Any suggestions? DEAR READER: Perhaps some- thing other than a fungus is going on. Make an appointment with a podiatrist to determine whether the nails will fall off freely or need to be cut back, and whether a fungal infection per- sists or an unidentified issue remains. Dr. Peter H. Gott is a retired physician and the author of several books, including “Live Longer, Live Better,” “Dr. Gott’s No Flour, No Sugar Diet” and “Dr. Gott’s No Flour, No Sugar Cookbook,” which are available at most bookstores or online. His website is www.AskDrGottMD.com. Saturday, March 26 County-wide Customer Appreciation Days Start And more … from Tehama County’s most customer- minded local businesses … Special section of sales, discounts, bargains Exclusively in the D NEWSAILY RED BLUFF TEHAMACOUNTY On Saturday, March 26 It’s the way these local businesses say “Thank You” for remembering to “shop local,” supporting the tax base that provides local services, protecting local jobs and much more. Don’t Miss It! Look for posters around town the week of March 21 In the windows of participating stores and businesses. BUSINESSES: To participate contact your Daily News advertising representative (530) 527-2151