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Tuesday, October 29, 2013 – Daily News 3B FEATURES Treat 'amost anxiety' with diet, sleep, exercise for unhealthy DEAR DOC"comfort" food. TOR K: I've Or they completealways worried a ly avoid food, lot. I saw a psyskipping meals or chologist, but she even fasting. The said I didn't have healthier road — anxiety disorder, and one that will so she couldn't also help tame help. I can't your anxiety — is believe there's Dr. K to eat wholesome nothing to do. Can by Anthony L. foods on a regular you help? Komaroff, M.D. schedule. How DEAR READER: I don't agree with does nutrition help fight your doctor. I've talked "almost anxiety"? It may before in this space about be as simple as this: An how doctors typically unhealthy diet contributes define diseases by how to feeling unwell — and they appear in their most then worrying that you extreme form. I call it the may have a serious dis"tip of the iceberg" phe- ease, such as an undiagnomenon. Doctors have nosed cancer. Next on the list is sleep. certain criteria for what constitutes an anxiety dis- Being sleep-deprived can order. I assume your doc- significantly raise your tor has checked those cri- anxiety level. But there's teria and decided that you good scientific evidence don't have enough of them that good sleep can help to "qualify" for the diag- control anxiety. If you have trouble nosis. You may not have an falling or staying asleep, anxiety disorder, but it try the following: — Use your bed for sounds as though the nagging, worrisome thoughts sleep and sex only. — Get out of bed if you in your mind may be distracting you from the posi- can't fall asleep after 20 tive, enjoyable experi- minutes. — Go to bed and wake ences all around you. If so, there are ways to help you. up at the same time every There's a newly emerg- day. — Don't nap during the ing term for this gray zone that falls between "nor- day. — Don't drink alcohol mal" anxiety and a fullblown anxiety disorder. close to bedtime. Finally, get regular It's called "almost anxiety." In their illuminating exercise. Simply moving new book, "Almost Anx- at a moderate pace has a ious," my Harvard Med- big effect on anxiety. Aim ical School colleague Dr. for 30 minutes of moderLuana Marques with Eric ate-intensity exercise five Metcalf explore the idea of days a week. We don't almost anxiety and intro- understand just how it is duce a set of skills you can that regular exercise use to keep it at bay. (You reduces anxiety, but there can find out more about is good scientific evidence the book on my website, that it does. Just deciding to take AskDoctorK.com.) As discussed in action to deal with your "Almost Anxious," the anxious feelings is itself first needs that usually go therapeutic. Being "almost unanswered when people anxious" can interfere are stressed are the things with your life, but there that actually keep anxiety are simple and natural at bay. These include (and inexpensive) ways to proper nutrition, sleep and treat the condition. exercise. You may see Dr. Komaroff is a how these things could be good for your health in physician and professor at general, yet doubt that Harvard Medical School. they could affect anxiety. To send questions, go to You shouldn't doubt it: AskDoctorK.com, or write: Ask Doctor K, 10 Shattuck They can help. Let's start with nutri- St., Second Floor, Boston, tion. People who are a lit- MA 02115. tle anxious tend to reach Brothers resent me taking care of mom importance to Mom. The best Dear Annie: I am a sinway to handle this is to gle 40-year-old man. The include them as much as pospast 18 months have been sible. Ask their opinion on rough for my family. My Mom's medical treatments father passed away, and my and any major decisions. mother moved to Florida. Make all financial dealings Then she had a mild stroke. I completely transparent. Send have always liked Florida, so them regular updates and I decided to move with Mom and help care for her. My Annie's copies of her checkbook balance, her investments, her two brothers still live in our cash outlay — everything. old hometown with their by Kathy Mitchell Better yet, ask them to come families. Ever since our move here, and Marcy Sugar to Florida to spend a week with Mom and see how she's my brothers have given me the cold shoulder. I heard through the doing. Dear Annie: I have known my grapevine that they believe I am controlling Mom's money and taking best friend for more than 20 years. advantage of her. That couldn't be For the past three, she has completefurther from the truth. I have put my ly forgotten my birthday. She usually life on hold to make my mother's life remembers belatedly and phones, better. She forgets to take her med- mortified that she overlooked it. She ications and has lost interest in cook- then writes a card and gives a gift. I don't know what to say when the ing. So I cook her meals, take her wherever she wants to go, make her awkward phone call comes. My feeldoctors' appointments and see that ings are hurt that my birthday isn't automatic for her because we've she takes the required meds. I have told my brothers the truth of known each other for so long. I also the situation, and so has my mother, know that she manages to remember but nothing seems to change their the birthdays of other friends she hasminds. We have always been a close n't known as long and whose birthfamily, and I don't want that to days are around the same time as change. Is there something I can do mine. What should I say when she tells to fix this? — Confused in Florida Dear Confused: Your brothers me she ''can't believe'' she has formay be suspicious, but it is also like- gotten my birthday once again? — ly there is some guilt mixed in, caus- Perplexed in Pennsylvania Dear Perplexed: It's possible that ing them to resent you and your Mailbox your friend is so confident that your birthday is something she'll remember that she doesn't bother to write it down and consequently forgets until it's too late. Or she might remember but not have a moment to call, and by the time things settle down, it's slipped her mind. She may also be having memory issues that she is too embarrassed to mention. We don't believe it is deliberate, because it requires much more effort to call, apologize and then send a card and a gift. The next time she does this, make a joke of it. Suggest she invest in some belated birthday cards for next year. Dear Annie: I read the letter from ''Second Best in Michigan,'' whose husband's widowed mother controls everything, including picking her husband's clothes and scheduling their holiday gatherings. My husband's mother was widowed when we married 37 years ago. He was an only child. I can tell ''Michigan'' that she will always be second best. My husband and I went to counseling, but as you said, Annie, the key part is the willingness of the husband to change. In my marriage, change was never successful for any length of time. If ''Michigan's'' husband doesn't stand up to Mom now, he never will. She would be happier in the long run without him. — Hate To See You Suffer, Too Why I'm crazy about Amazon Prime ping, no matter the weight, with no cent off the regular Prime rate -- only minimum purchase amount. It makes $39 a year. Student members unlock my head spin how fast things arrive access to unlimited instant streaming with Prime shipping. 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