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2B Daily News – Saturday, September 7, 2013 FEATURES Reader hurt by unfaithful beau every meeting Dear Annie: with her need to I have been in a speak. She stands relationship for up and yells a year, and my across the room. boyfriend has Sometimes she already cheated gets excited and on me twice. In waves her arms. fact, he continShe has an ues to talk and text with one of Annie's u n p l e a s a n t , scratchy voice these ladies, and and always she recently more posted a picture by Kathy Mitchell knows of them hugging and Marcy Sugar about every subject than the perclosely. My boyfriend says son speaking. She occathey are just friends, and sionally points out how accomplishments he doesn't see how it her affects me. I happen to have exceeded those of know he slept with her others. I always make it a in the back of her car. Also, he blew money we point to put her on the needed for bills to see agenda and ask her to her. When I found out, I speak on some project was furious. He couldn't she has knowledge seem to apologize to me, about. But it is never but he did apologize to enough attention. I tried controlling her through her. How am I supposed strict adherence to the to believe he loves me rules of order, but it's when all he does is hurt had no effect. She has been encourme? — Crying in Caliaged to have her hearing fornia Dear Crying: Your checked to see whether boyfriend doesn't love perhaps she isn't aware you. He probably likes of how she sounds, but you, but he also likes a she won't do it. I have repeatedly lot of other women and sees no reason not to be tried to point out to her ''friendly'' with them. as kindly as possible her behavior He will continue to hurt how you in this fashion as appears to others, but long as you permit it. she refuses to change. You can cry and yell and Everyone in the commuforgive him over and nity knows about her over, but things are not obnoxious behavior, and most avoid her. We have likely to change. Please work on doing had members leave what's best for you. We because of her. She is a good-hearted think that means breaking it off with the person and works tireboyfriend and strength- lessly to further causes ening your self-worth. she believes in. In the You will miss him, but past, I have enjoyed her you certainly don't need company on a one-onhim. A little short-term one basis. But I am ready to ask unhappiness is better than a lifetime of mis- her to quit our club to avoid losing more memery. Dear Annie: I am the bers. Is there any other president of a local way to resolve this? — women's organization. Frustrated President Dear Frustrated: One member disrupts Mailbox Probably not. You apparently have tried every possible gambit to get her to stop monopolizing the meetings (although ''strict adherence'' to the rules doesn't seem terribly strict). She also may have a physical or mental health issue that makes it difficult for her to recognize or control her behavior. Your final option is to tell her that she is driving people away, and that if she cannot pipe down at meetings, you will be forced to ask her to leave. Dear Annie: This is in response to ''Distraught Mother,'' who was upset that her sonin-law doesn't do more for her daughter on the days when she has chemo. When I went through chemotherapy for breast cancer, I didn't really feel the side effects of nausea, fatigue and pain for at least two days after. On the days when I felt up to it, I enjoyed doing for others. You don't always want to be treated like you're sick. I know her anxiety and distress come from love for her daughter, but the daughter and her husband know best. — LG Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast. net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. Reduce recurrence of atrial fibrillation side effects. DEAR DOCTOR K: I went to Another relatively new my doctor after a few episodes of approach to reducing the risk that shortness of breath. It turned out to atrial fibrillation will recur is called be atrial fibrillation. How is this "radiofrequency catheter ablation." condition treated? This procedure uses radio waves to DEAR READER: Atrial fibrilladestroy tissue in the heart that is tion is a heart rhythm disorder that triggering abnormal electrical causes a rapid and irregular heartrhythms. Another surgical procebeat. In this condition, electrical sigDr. K dure intentionally creates scars in nals in the heart become uncoordiby Anthony L. the heart tissue; this blocks abnornated. As a result, the chambers of the heart stop pumping in a coordi- Komaroff, M.D. mal electrical signals from spreading throughout the heart. nated and efficient way. (I've put an These techniques can be quite effective, illustration showing electrical signals in a healthy heart and in a heart affected by atri- and they were not available when I graduatal fibrillation on my website, AskDoc- ed from medical school. But they don't always work to keep atrial fibrillation from torK.com.) Atrial fibrillation doesn't always cause returning, and they can cause side effects. symptoms, but most people who develop it So I don't consider them unless medicines can tell: The symptoms include palpitations, haven't worked to keep atrial fibrillation fainting, dizziness, weakness, shortness of from returning. If, despite treatment, your heart repeatedbreath and chest pain. There are different treatments to restore a ly slips back into atrial fibrillation, doctors normal heart rhythm when you are having may allow the heart to stay in atrial fibrillaatrial fibrillation. When a patient of mine tion. When this happens, doctors attempt to first develops it, I always try medication slow the heart rate to help the heart work first. It's important to move quickly: The more efficiently. Medicines used to slow longer the heart is allowed to stay in atrial heart rate include beta blockers, calciumfibrillation, the harder it is to restore a nor- channel blockers and digoxin. When someone remains in atrial fibrillamal heart rhythm. Medicines often can restore a normal tion, he or she generally needs to take bloodrhythm. When they don't work, another thinning drugs such as warfarin or aspirin to treatment option is electrical cardioversion. reduce the risk of blood clots. The uncoorThis treatment delivers a small electrical dinated beating of the heart causes blood to shock to the chest. The shock can "reset" the pool and form clots. These clots can travel through the blood and lodge in an artery, heart to a normal rhythm. Unfortunately, many patients eventually causing a stroke (and other complications). redevelop atrial fibrillation. A number of Blood thinners greatly reduce that risk. different medicines can reduce the risk that Dr. Komaroff is a physician and professor atrial fibrillation will recur. Beta-blocker or at Harvard Medical School. To send antiarrhythmic drugs are used for this purpose. However, none of them is perfect; questions, go to AskDoctorK.com, or write: sometimes the irregular heart rhythm returns Ask Doctor K, 10 Shattuck St., Second anyway. And all of the medications can have Floor, Boston, MA 02115. University women to meet Members of the Red Bluff-Tehama county branch of the American Association of University Women will learn how to reach financial goals at their meeting Saturday, Sept. 14. It will be at the home of Beth Birk, 11681 Parey Ave., Red Bluff. Following a potluck supper at 5 p.m., Susie Mustaine, certified financial planner with Edward Jones, will discuss how to apply financial planning knowledge to client-specific situations. It can range from saving for education to estate planning and retirement. A graduate of San Diego State university, she is an accredited asset management specialist and holds a California insurance license. AAUW was founded in 1881 and advances equity for women and girls through advocacy, education and research. It is open to all graduates who hold an associate's or higher degree from a regionally accredited college or university. Student affiliate memberships are also available. Catherine McGregorBentz is president of the local branch, and Gail Locke is secretary. The local branch is observing its 75th anniversary this year. We're making a great thing even better. 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