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Friday, August 16, 2013 – Daily News 5A FEATURES Fights with daughter-in-law Most people exposed to HPV never develop symptoms to relax your standards a bit? Can you stop picking up after your husband? Could you save the housecleaning for weekends and make it a joint effort? Sometimes, this is simply a matter of disorganization, in which case a list and a reminder might work. You cannot force your husband to grow up, but you can help him understand that this type of issue will erode a marriage over time, making one partner resentful and turning the other into a recalcitrant child. He needs to step up. Dear Annie: I, too, have suffered from depression all my life. It took courage to finally seek help, because you think you're ''crazy'' and fear the stigma of admitting something is wrong. I thought the gap between where I was and being ''normal' was as wide as the Grand Canyon. In fact, it's only as wide as a couple of pills. It took a few tries before I found the medication that works best for me. Once I ''came out,'' I discovered that several people I work with are also on antidepressants or anti-anxiety medication. — Been There, Too. vaccines are DEAR DOCTOR recommended K: A famous actor have received recently said he got the vaccine. throat cancer from oral Nevertheless, a sex. Could this be true? recent study by DEAR READER: I the CDC found assume you're referring that the number to actor Michael Douof young peoglas, who recently divulged that his throat Dr. K ple infected with HPV has cancer could have been by Anthony L. brought on by oral sex. Komaroff, M.D. dropped considerably. Prior He's right. Oral sex is a common way to become studies have shown that the infected with the human vaccines given to girls and papilloma virus (HPV), and young women also reduce HPV is a leading cause of the risk of cancer of the cervix later in life. mouth and throat cancers. Vaccination won't help There are about 200 different strains of HPV. Some people beyond their mid-20s strains cause warts; other or the millions of people strains cause cancer of the already infected with HPV. cervix, anus, penis and Using condoms can prevent throat (including the base of the spread of the virus durthe tongue and tonsils). Sex- ing penile-vaginal, penileual contact, including oral anal or penile-oral sex. sex and deep kissing, can Using a dental dam (a thin transmit HPV from one per- piece of latex) can help preson to another. Many men vent the spread of the virus who have sex with other during oral-vaginal sex. If you've been infected men are infected with HPV. Fortunately, most people with the virus, diagnosing an sexually exposed to HPV HPV-related oral cancer as never develop symptoms or early as possible greatly health problems. That's true improves the chance of cure. even of the strains of HPV See your doctor if you have known to cause cancer. any of these symptoms for Most HPV infections go more than two to three away by themselves. But in weeks: • A sore in your mouth some people, the infection can persist and cause long- or on your tongue that doesterm problems, including n't heal. • Persistent pain with cancer. There are ways to prevent swallowing or sore throat. • A lump in your neck HPV-related oral cancer, depending on your age. Pre- that persists. The discovery that HPV teens, teens and young adults of both sexes can get was the major cause of canvaccinated against HPV. The cer of the cervix led to diagCenters for Disease Control nostic tests for the virus, as (CDC) recommends that well as to the HPV vaccines. both young women and These discoveries and young men be vaccinated inventions have been honwith the HPV vaccine. The ored with the Nobel Prize two available HPV vaccines and have saved hundreds of provide excellent protection thousands of lives. It was against sexually transmitted government-supported HPV. Avoiding oral sex will research that made the disalso protect against oral can- coveries possible. cer, although not all cases of Dr. Komaroff is a oral cancer are caused by physician and professor at this virus. These two vaccines were Harvard Medical School. To approved in 2006 and 2009. send questions, go to They have been available AskDoctorK.com, or write: just a few years, and only Ask Doctor K, 10 Shattuck about a third of the kids and St., Second Floor, Boston, young adults for whom the MA 02115. Dear Annie: My d a u g h t e r- i n - l aw tends to go to her family. She says she is uncomfortable with my son's side. She has been rude to us since she married my son, and she controls him. She threat- Annie's ens him if he does not do what she wants. by Kathy Mitchell My daughter had and Marcy Sugar a fight with my daughter-in-law four years ago, and I just woke up to the fact that my daughter-in-law blames us for my daughter's actions. My husband and I tried therapy with my son and daughter-in-law, but it made things worse. I left, saying that I am not happy with either of them and I just want to see my grandchildren. My son said that if I don't continue with therapy, I won't see the kids again. They are using the children as weapons to control us. I told her she didn't like us from Day One. She told me she doesn't trust me. My new granddaughter had a baptism, and my daughter-in-law told us it was an occasion only for her family. We were insulted and hurt. I'm thinking of going to court and suing for grandparents' rights. — Trustworthy Dear Trustworthy: Your son and his wife may not be behaving in a kind Mailbox or loving way, but there is room for improvement on both sides. They are willing to go for counseling to resolve this, which is a good sign. But walking out of a counseling session because you don't like what you hear is not productive. The point of counseling is to work through the issues that get in the way of a better relationship. Please stop trying to get your son to favor you over his wife. It won't happen. The more you blame her the more defensive they both will be. If you want to be in his life and see those grandkids, we urge you to agree to go back for counseling and really work on it with an open mind. Dear Annie: I recently married a man who is quite wonderful, but he won't help out around the house. We have a child together, and I am the breadwinner. When I'm not working, I'm cleaning the house and picking up after him. Once in a while, he may do a chore or two, but that's it. We've had many talks about this, and he always agrees to do things when I ask. But I still come home from work and find nothing done, and he has plenty of excuses. He will be 30 soon. He was not raised this way, and his mother has tried to help, but we can't seem to make any progress. What can I do? This is driving me insane — Maid on Demand and Sick of It Dear Maid: Can you afford periodic cleaning help? Would you be willing Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. 'Call of Duty: Ghosts': 5 ways it's different LOS ANGELES (AP) — ''Call of Duty: Ghosts'' is conjuring new ways to play online. Female characters, interactive maps, canine sidekicks and a knucklebiting intense mode dubbed ''cranked'' are among the new additions deploying to the multiplayer mode of the popular military first-person shooter franchise when ''Ghosts'' is released for both current and nextgeneration consoles Nov. 5. ''Call of Duty'' publisher Activision Blizzard Inc. detailed the complex multiplayer mode, which includes 30 new weapons and more fluid movement, during a Wednesday showcase. ''I think the biggest difference is going to be the dynamic maps,'' said Eric Hirshberg, CEO of Activision Publishing, backstage at the event in downtown Los Angeles. ''It really changes the game for the better. You not only have to learn how the maps are laid out and where the best hiding spots and vantage points are located, but you also have to figure out how they can be used for you or against you.'' Here are five ways the online mode for this ''Call of Duty'' will be different from its predecessors: GIRL POWER For the first time in the 9-year history of ''Call of Duty,'' multiplayer combatants can choose to portray a female soldier on the front line. It's one of 20,000 possible customization options when it comes to creating an online avatar in ''Ghosts.'' Other personalization possibilities include selecting the race, body type, gear and AP photo/Activision/Infinity Ward This undated publicity photo released by Activision/Infinity Ward shows a scene from the video game, "Call of Duty: Ghosts." "Call of Duty: Ghosts" is summoning new ways to play the first-person shooter online. Female characters, interactive maps, canine sidekicks and a new mode called "cranked" are among the new additions coming to the popular shoot-'em-up franchise's multiplayer mode when the game is released this fall. clothing of virtual characters. MAP QUEST The battlefield won't always be stable in ''Ghosts.'' The developers have added several interactive tricks that can dramatically alter the maps in the game's multiplayer mode. Some are as simple as a closed door with the ability to block access to a secret hideaway, while others are as explosive as a gas station that can obliterate nearby foes if ignited. DIRTY DOG Riley, the geared-up German shepherd who appears in the singleplayer campaign, will leap into the multiplayer mode as one of 20 new ''killstreak'' rewards earned when players take down the opposition and complete objectives. The canine companion will growl when enemies approach, scout out the battlefield and take out baddies who come too close. CRANK AND FILE There are seven new multiplayer modes coming to ''Ghosts,'' including the cooperative ''search and rescue'' and ''squad'' installments, but the most intense new way to play ''Call of Duty'' online is called ''cranked.'' For each kill, a player's reload and movement speeds are amped up, but if a 30-second countdown clock reaches zero, they spontaneously combust. HEAR ME NOW The developers have enhanced the game's sound effects with details that more closely resemble the real world. For example, gun shots fired in a large metalfilled warehouse sound different from those in a small carpeted room. The chatter during battle has also been fleshed out with teammates who call out when grenades go off or enemies appear near landmarks. Return of Redding's Annual Beer Week After a successful inaugural year, Catalyst Redding Young Professionals are happy to announce that the 2nd Annual Redding Beer Week will take place from Sept. 25-29. During Redding Beer Week, participants can anticipate unique beer events in collaboration with some for Redding's finest dining and drinking establishments, highlighting the creativity and diversity of our regions local craft beers. Current events include; IPA Fests, Barrel Aged Nights, Beer Pioneering, Beer Dinner Pairings, Brewery Tours, Beard Competition and much more. Opening Ceremonies at the Redding Civic Center will kick off Redding Beer Week's 5 day weekend on 6 p.m. Sept. 25. Advanced ticket sales for Opening Ceremonies will be available through Redding Civic Center and on our website, www.reddingbeerweek.com Catalyst will close out the week with an Indie Element on Sunday, Sept. 29th, featuring a pop-up beer garden and concert by North Lake Tahoe's Dead Winter Carpenters, in Paul Bunyan's Forest Camp at Turtle Bay. Showcasing some of the best regional breweries from Northern California to Central Oregon. With over 25 events, Redding Beer Week's 5 Day weekend, will surely be one of the "shortest" long weekends you will ever have! Catalyst Redding Young Professionals are truly excited to bring back the festival and can't wait to finalize all the details, which will be published on our website. www.ReddingBeerWeek.com For more information about Redding Beer Week, contact Jessica at 530-941-4749, jategerstrand@gmail.com or Crystal at 530-604-8835, crystala315@gmail.com Lariat Bowl & Bowling Greens HELP WANTED BOWLING LEAGUES STARTING NOW!! AUTO ROUTES DRIVERS WANTED OPENINGS FOR TEAMS & INDIVIDUALS CALL 527-2720 or www.lariatbowl.com TO SIGN UP TODAY!! Must be 21 or older & bondable. Call or apply in person Circulation Dept. Red Bluff Daily News (530) 527-2151 ext 128 CELEBRATE NATIONAL GOLF MONTH BUY 1 ROUND OF MINI GOLF GET 1 FREE WITH THIS AD. Not valid with any other coupons or promotions. Expires 9.15.13 Lariat Bowl & Bowling Greens Mini Golf 365 S. Main St., Red Bluff RED BLUFF & CORNING AREAS DAILY NEWS RED BLUFF TEHAMA COUNTY