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Tuesday, August 6, 2013 – Daily News 3B FEATURES Bigoted family hurts daughter into depression. Dear Annie: According to Recently, our beauPFLAG, suicide is tiful, intelligent, the leading cause of kind, responsible death among gay 20-year-old daughand lesbian youth. ter told us she is a More than 30 perlesbian. "Sharon" cent of all reported has been sorting teen suicides each this out alone for the past two years, Annie's year are committed by gay and lesbian which breaks my youth. Fifty percent heart. She told us that she has prayed by Kathy Mitchell report that their parnot to be this way, and Marcy Sugar ents reject them due to their sexual oritried dating men and even came up with a entation, and 26 percent are plan to move out of the forced to leave home country. Sharon's father, because of conflicts over siblings and I were sur- their sexual orientation. These are the children, prised, but have assured her that we are thankful she told grandchildren, nieces and us so she can truly be herself nephews we love. We will and be happy. We love her stand with Sharon and pray for the judgmental, ignorant, just the same. However, Sharon has not bigoted souls to find enlighttold the rest of our family. enment on this issue. — Other relatives have made it Worried in Wyoming Dear Worried: Thank clear that they believe gays and lesbians are disturbed you for your compassionate and disgusting individuals understanding. Sharon does who are going to hell. They not need to come out to her have, in fact, recently stated relatives any sooner than she these vile opinions to is comfortable, and it helps Sharon when she was last enormously that you are so In many visiting. She told me it felt supportive. as if she had been punched instances, families become in the stomach. Ironically, more accepting when they Sharon's grandparents think realize the gay person is the sun rises and sets on her. someone they know and They have no idea that their love. We hope that is how it divisive, hateful, dehuman- works out for your family. Dear Annie: My band izing comments apply to performs at a lot of wedding someone they cherish. Sharon loves her grand- receptions. We usually parents, aunts and uncles make plans with the family and is terrified of how they regarding what music they will respond when they find want. We cannot alter our out. We worry that their music in the middle of a set rejection will push her back just because a guest who has Mailbox Volunteer boaters and anglers sought NAPA – The Bureau of Reclamation, Central California Area Office, in partnership with the C.A.S.T. (Catch a Special Thrill) for Kids Foundation and Pleasure Cove Marina, will host a C.A.S.T. for Kids fishing event at Lake Berryessa on Saturday, Sept. 14. Lake Berryessa is located in Napa County. The C.A.S.T. for Kids Foundation is a national, non-profit organization whose goal is "to provide disabled or disadvantaged children with the opportunity to enjoy a quality outdoor recreational experience through the sport of fishing." The event will be held from 8 a.m. to 2 p.m. at Lake Berryessa's Pleasure Cove Marina. Each child will receive a fishing pole, tackle box, T-shirt and other prizes and spend the morning fishing with local anglers and volunteers. A free barbeque lunch will be served to participants, parents and volunteers in the afternoon. Pre-registration is required for this event as availability is currently limited to 35 children. Reclamation is seeking anglers and boaters who wish to volunteer their time and use of their boat. To register as a volunteer angler or boater or for more information, please contact Jason Jordan, Outdoor Recreation Planner, at 707-966-2111 ext. 143 or jgjordan@usbr.gov. This C.A.S.T. for Kids event ties into the Department of the Interior's "Let's Move Outside" initiative, http://www.letsmove.gov/le ts-move-outside, which was created to encourage children and their families to enjoy outdoor activities, which abound in every city, town and community. Reclamation also supports President Obama's "America's Great Outdoors" initiative, http://americasgreatoutdoors.gov/, by providing recreational opportunities in the great outdoors, promoting stewardship of our natural resources and reconnecting Americans – especially our young people – with the riches the outdoors has to offer. Individuals who would like to participate in this program and need accommodation should contact Jordan at 707-966-2111 ext. 143 or jgjordan@usbr.gov at least 14 days in advance of the activity. had too much to drink comes up to us with a song request. If the bride and groom took the time to specify the songs they do and don't want to hear, they probably are not going to be happy if we suddenly start playing "The Chicken Dance." One other tip: Talking to us while we are in the middle of a song is not a good idea. Please wait until we are on a break. — Frustrated Bandleader Dear Frustrated: Excellent suggestions, and here's one from us: Can you please not set the amplifiers to 11? We can hear you just fine without going deaf. Dear Annie: I read the thoughtful letter from "Concerned Grandma," who is caring for her biracial 4year-old grandson. Your response left out one of the best role models this child could have: President Barack Obama. Perhaps reading "Dreams from My Father" will give this dear grandmother more insight into the struggles her grandson might face as a fatherless child, as well as hope and inspiration. A photo of our biracial president might be a sweet thing for this little boy to have. In addition, the grandmother might want to seek out someone who can help reinforce and strengthen her as she stands alongside this child in a lifelong learning adventure. — A Daily Reader Drop in sex drive merits doctor visit the condition called endometrioDEAR DOCTOR K: I'm a sis. woman in my 50s. I've always If there are no obvious physihad a healthy sex drive, but latecal causes to address, your docly it's gone bye-bye. What could tor will explore your attitudes be wrong? and feelings about sex. For DEAR READER: There example, has your relationship aren't a lot of people with a takewith your partner changed it-or-leave-it attitude about sex. recently? Your doctor will also We are sexual creatures, and for Dr. K ask about depression, selfmost of our lives, we are well by Anthony L. image, stress and fatigue. aware of having sexual desire. So If there may be a psychologiwhen you notice that it's just not Komaroff, M.D. cal or relationship issue, one there, it is upsetting. Many women report a loss of sexual option is sex therapy. The therapist may desire. One huge survey of women in dif- suggest that both you and your signififerent countries found that more than 30 cant other participate. You will be percent of women report this problem, to encouraged to explore any negative feelthe point that it causes them distress. ings that may surround sex. RelationLoss of desire is most frequent among ship-building exercises may be recomwomen in the 45-65 age group, and then mended to increase trust, communication and sensual awareness. You may also be tapers off after age 65. There are many reasons for a decline taught stress-reduction techniques. Medical treatments are also available. in a person's sex drive, some physical and some psychological. A decline in the pro- One option is hormone treatment with duction of estrogen with menopause is testosterone. As testosterone levels one reason, and most U.S. women enter decline with age, a woman's sexual menopause in their early 50s. The "male" interest and responsiveness may also hormones, androgens, are also made by drop off. Another medical option is women, in lower amounts. They are bupropion. This antidepressant may important in generating sexual desire. A substantial fraction of female increase sexual desire and arousal even androgens are made by the ovaries. if you don't have depression. It can also While female androgen levels remain counter the negative sexual side effects relatively constant after menopause, of other antidepressant medications. Finally, an experimental drug called removal of the ovaries (surgical menopause) can cause testosterone, the flibanserin appears to boost female sexmain type of androgen, to drop, and with ual desire. However, it has not been FDA-approved to treat low libido in it, sexual desire. While sexual desire declines some- women. Most of my female patients who have what in women after menopause, a sudden drop for no good reason merits a trip experienced distressing lack of sexual to your doctor. He or she will look for desire have been helped by one of more physical causes to explain your dimin- of these treatments. ished sex drive. Many chronic medical Dr. Komaroff is a physician and conditions can impinge on desire. So, too, can treatments for these conditions. professor at Harvard Medical School. To Low libido may also stem from chronic send questions, go to AskDoctorK.com, pain that causes discomfort during inter- or write: Ask Doctor K, 10 Shattuck St., course. A common cause of such pain is Second Floor, Boston, MA 02115. Actors with fake guns bring police with real ones LOS ANGELES (AP) — College filmmakers were using fake guns to shoot a robbery scene at a suburban Los Angeles coffee shop when the movie took a scary twist that wasn't in the script. Eight police officers were descending on the masked actors. The police were real, with very real guns drawn, and had no idea this was a movie. ''Drop the gun! Drop it! Drop it!'' one officer yells on an audio recording police were carrying. One of the actors immediately let go of his fake assault rifle. But another held onto his replica handgun, forcing officers to make a life-or-death choice. An officer knocked the gun from the actor's hand and handcuffed him, drawing a peaceful climax to what could have been something far worse. ''One of the officers made the decision that had the man moved, he would have been killed,'' said Glendora police Capt. Tim Staab. ''It was just milliseconds from a tragedy.'' Police said it showed the dangers of movie-making for amateur film crews who don't get permits and follow proper steps before taking to the streets. ''I can't think of a situation more dangerous than having a gun in your hand with cops responding,'' Staab said. 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