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Saturday, June 22, 2013 – Daily News 5A FEATURES Self-centered friend moving to town her arm to get her attention Dear Annie: I have a and say, ''Sue, can I get a longtime friend who has word in?'' She may be become quite difficult to be unaware that she monopoaround because she talks lizes the conversation. You nonstop about herself. She also can tell her how much it is a single professional would mean to you if the woman who is intelligent conversations were more and talented. But I think give-and-take. And you can living alone causes her to unleash all of her thoughts Annie's ask whether she's having difficulty hearing you. We on me. Honestly, I somecan't promise things will times don't even make an effort to talk about what's by Kathy Mitchell change or that Sue won't be and Marcy Sugar offended. But if she wants to going on in my life. remain friends, she will This has not been a huge problem for me, because ''Sue'' make the effort. Dear Annie. My wife and I are lives in another state and I see her only a couple of times a year. When in our early 60s and enjoy eating I speak to her on the phone, she usu- out several times a week. We can ally talks for about 30 minutes with- cook perfectly well at home, but are out a pause. As soon as I speak, she happy to pay a 20-percent gratuity in order to have someone else do the says, ''I have to go.'' Recently, however, Sue told me cooking and clean-up. We recently ate out with three she plans to move to my area when she retires. This isn't so far into the other couples at an upscale restaufuture. I need to address the imbal- rant. It was not crowded. However, ance in our relationship for our it took more than an hour for our friendship to continue, but I don't dinner to arrive, the bread basket want to hurt her feelings. How was long gone, water glasses were should I handle this? — Tired of not refilled, and then the orders were misplaced. Twice I had to find Listening Dear Tired: A certain amount of our waitress, who was busy texting hard feelings may occur no matter on her phone, just to get some inforhow sensitive you are when telling mation. When our dinners finally Sue she doesn't let other people arrived, the cook had to come out talk. She is not ''trained'' to listen to and help her sort our orders, as she anyone else. Retraining is best done had no clue. The food was excellent, and the in person and will take repeated efforts. It's also possible that Sue restaurant, as is customary, added talks incessantly in order to cover a an 18-percent gratuity for the large party. We paid in cash to the exact hearing loss. The next time you see her, touch penny, wrote a note on the bill about Mailbox the horrid service and left no additional tip because there was no service. I realize that things happen in the kitchen that are beyond the server's control, but when this happens, a good server should communicate this to their customers. Bring a free round of drinks or hors d'oeuvres. At least keep the water glasses filled. It's not that difficult. — Still Steamed Dear Steamed: Your complaint is quite valid. However, if there was an 18-percent gratuity added to the bill, you did indeed pay for service. If you intended to teach the server a lesson, you may have missed. Better to complain to management. Dear Annie: ''Native New Yorker'' took issue with people asking ''Where are you from?'' because he had a raspy voice. I have been asked that, too. A couple of times I responded, ''From the womb.'' Once, someone actually asked, ''What state is that in?'' I had the presence of mind to respond, ''I believe it's in the state of matrimony.'' — Pedro from Guam Dear Pedro: We love it! Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. Summer's here We lived through the news. We had 163 kids first Tehama County heat join us in Red Bluff for wave and now we're the Summer Reading ready for some fun. By Program as well as over the way, spending time in 80 in the Corning the library is a cool way Library and 9 in the Los M o l i n o s to chill out on a Library. If you really hot afterlive in Los noon. Molinos, please The "Readbring your chiling is So Delidren in so our cious" summer numbers can reading proclimb! gram is up and AT T E N cooking at your TION, KIDS: local library Tehama County branch. EveryFriends of the one is invited Library and in to visit and Tehama County see the fabuSally Library are lous decorations that will Ainsworth bringing back Accelerated make your Reader Testing mouth water. Be sure to look at the at the library branches book buffet - What's on this summer. For each your plate - and marvel AR test taken and at the way the kids have passed, you will be decorated their funny entered to win a $100 fruits and vegetables gift card to Barnes and growing in the garden. Noble. The winner's Each child got a person- name will be drawn after al, special packet filled August 23. Testing will with reading logs, book only be open from June marks, and home pro- 17 to July 26, so get jects. And every branch started right away. NOTE TO PARENTS: had very special guests for the first session. The summer reading proChris Bentz and Bryan gram can't be a winning Gilles wowed the kids experience for the kids if with their magic tricks they don't take part. If and then told them about you can't get them to the how they got their starts library yourself, make with when they were young arrangements by reading books about grandparents, or older magic from the library. brothers and sisters, or a You might recall we told friend or neighbor, or you last time the library someone you trust who is truly a magical place. loves your kids and the And there's more good library, to bring them for you and stay for the feast of fun. The library staff is working hard at the task of fund raising for the new library. There are lots of ideas and there is something for everyone who wants to help with the project. Readingthemed T-shirts will be on sale in about two weeks. Be sure to look for your library staff at the Farmer's Market several times this summer. They'll set up a booth to be available to answer questions and sell you San Francisco Giants' bat tickets. The bat is autographed by most of that World Serieswinning team. Friends of the Library are selling candy bars and lollipops. In addition to these activities you will see donation tins in downtown Red Bluff businesses and, hopefully, in Los Molinos and Corning as well to benefit the building of our new Tehama County Library. Having access to a library in our community is a privilege, but one that thinking, caring people deserve. Our human ability to continue to wonder and learn throughout our lives is what enhances our humanity. Our ability to read allows us to be better, stronger people which in turn makes for a better, stronger community. Submit items for the local calendar To publicize an upcoming event in the Daily News, submit information attention Calendar of Events, P.O. Box 220, Red Bluff, 96080 or send it by e-mail to clerk@red- $ 59,270 DAILY NEWS TEHAMA COUNTY … And that does not Count all the ads offering percentage discounts, two-for-ones and Free-with-Purchase offers! Don't miss a Day of it! 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To ensure that the Session 1: June 17th-20th • Session 2: June 24th-27th Session 3: July 8th-11th • Session 4: July 15th-18th *All Sessions Run Daily from 1pm-4pm* Meet in the Basketball Gym! 30 per child Per Session 20 per additional child $ $ (same family) *Healthy Snack Provided* 6-12 years old For Information or to Sign Up Contact Aubrie Thomas 528-8656 Tehama Family Fitness Center 2498 South Main St. Red Bluff www.tehamafamilyfitness.com The library staff challenges each of you, not only to read, read, read all summer, but we also challenge you to go to the library and get yourself a free library card if you don't already have one. It's the best bang for your tax dollar you'll ever encounter. Make sure every member of your family has his own card. Then tell at least one other person you know to get a free library card too. Let's set a goal to insure that every Tehama County resident is carrying the blue card in their wallets by the end of summer. Then after you get your free library card, join the Friends of the Library in your community. A friend is someone who cares about you, supports you and props you up when you need help. That's what you will do for your library branch. The Friends are the ones who raise extra funds, holding special events like book sales, for example, to cover what's not in our budget. They're making delicious happenings like the children's summer reading program possible. Get a library card. Be a Friend. Tehama County Library needs all the Friends it can get. And we especially need you. Sally Ainsworth is the interim county librarian. Foot care ranges from good to worthless a more gentle DEAR DOCoption for removTOR K: I see lots ing dead skin. of products — Foot powdesigned to treat ders are better foot problems — than many sprays and I have lots of and can help with foot problems. Are sweaty and smelly the foot care prodfeet. 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If you find yourself using Here are our thoughts on a lot of moleskin, consider some common foot care attacking the root problem: Switch to more flexiproducts. — An arch bandage ble, better-fitting shoes. — Nonprescription might make your arch feel better and more support- orthotics are worth a try ed, but it won't change the before considering the structure of your arch or prescription ones, which fix serious problems. Peo- cost a lot and usually ple with diabetes or poor aren't covered by insurcirculation should avoid ance. The flat, foam and these because they could gel orthotics cushion the reduce blood flow through foot nicely. If you overthe foot. If you don't have pronate (if your foot rolls circulation problems, it inward) or have arch probmight be worth a try. lems, buy a pair with arch Some of my patients real- support. Some doctors don't ly find that arch bandages take foot problems serihelp their feet feel better. — Callus and corn ously. After all, they're cushions are simple and not fatal. I was probably effective. The doughnut like them until I develshape keeps pressure off oped some arthritis in my calluses and corns. feet. It was then I realized Change them often; other- how much we walk in the wise the skin underneath course of a day, and how irritating it is to experiwill start to break down. — Stay away from cal- ence pain whenever you lus and corn removers. walk. So it's good that simple The active ingredient, salicylic acid, can harm the over-the-counter solutions healthy skin around the can help out with foot pain. Some are definitely corn or callus. — Detoxifying foot worth trying; others are pads claim to absorb definitely not worth the impurities from the body money. and aid "natural cleansDr. Komaroff is a ing." In a word — bunk! physician and professor The best way to clean Harvard Medical your feet is by washing at To send them with soap and water. School. questions, go to — Foot files are OK, or but use with care. Don't AskDoctorK.com, scrape and scrape until write: Ask Doctor K, 10 you start to bleed. An old- Shattuck St., Second fashioned pumice stone is Floor, Boston, MA 02115. Cat nurses orphaned pit bull puppy in Ohio CLEVELAND (AP) — A cat caring for four newborn kittens is nursing an orphaned week-old pit bull puppy in Cleveland. Sharon Harvey of the Cleveland Animal Protective League said Wednesday that Lurlene the cat welcomed Noland the puppy to her ''unusual little family.'' The puppy was dropped off at the animal shelter last week when he was a day old. The staff decided to place Noland with the nursing cat and her litter because bottle feeding doesn't always work. The puppy will grow faster, so the shelter says it may have to come up with another feeding idea in several weeks until Noland is ready for adoption.