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2B Daily News – Friday, May 10, 2013 FEATURES Aunt worries about niece who's told she's fat Andrea for ''telling tales.'' Dear Annie: I'm conI've never seen Sara like cerned about my sister's parthis before. I called CPS, but I enting style. ''Sara'' just went worry that Sara will take off through a nasty divorce, so with the kids before help can we let her move into a house be provided. What else can I we own next door, thinking it do? — Big Sis would help to have family Dear Sis: Sara should not close by. be slapping her daughter. You Sara's kids spend a great deal of time with us. What Annie's need to befriend your sister so that she trusts you and her chilworries me is my 7-year-old dren can turn to you for help. niece, ''Andrea.'' Andrea appears underweight for her by Kathy Mitchell It's difficult to ascertain age and height. When she has and Marcy Sugar whether Sara is still stressed from the divorce, simply needs dinner here, she eats like she's starving. Several weeks ago, Sara better parenting skills or there is somejoined us for dinner, and I watched her thing else going on. You may be interdole out food for the kids. She gave her preting the food issues through your 5-year-old son a much bigger portion own subjective filter. Leave a message than she gave Andrea. When I men- with the pediatrician's office with your tioned it, Sara said the pediatrician concerns. But please do not criticize warned her that Andrea is obese. I do and alienate Sara right now. Those kids need you. Be a safe haven for all of not believe this for one second. Andrea is sick all the time. Last them. Dear Annie: I am a married week, when I was preparing the kids an after-school snack, Andrea started woman in my 50s, and I hate to be crying. She said she was really hungry, hugged. I'm sure it stems from my but if she ate anything, it would make childhood, when my mother, who was her mother angry because she is ''so not affectionate, forced me to hug relafat.'' I have never been so furious with tives. I have a friend in his mid-70s who's my sister. I spoke to the school social worker a great guy, but he's a hugger. and was told there is little they can do. ''Henry'' insists on grabbing everyone I also spoke to Sara about getting help, and giving them a bear hug. I have told but she became hysterical and slapped him repeatedly that I don't like this, but Mailbox he doesn't listen. He also hugs my husband, who has a bad back, and those bear hugs really hurt. I've been avoiding Henry lately, but I miss him. Perhaps if he sees this in print, he might finally get it. — Hate Being Hugged in Kansas Dear Kansas: You will have to remind Henry each time he comes near you that you don't want a hug. He has difficulty controlling his effusiveness, and until he can associate his hugging with negative consequences, he won't stop. Gently put out your arm to distance him. Tell him he is hurting you. Cry out in pain if need be. Do whatever will make it extremely clear that you don't like this and he must stop. Dear Annie: Some responses to ''Your Husband'' indicated that he needed to try harder to be intimate with his wife. Maybe he did. I tried talking to my wife. I shared and cleaned, went grocery shopping, did laundry and dishes. I took care of the kids while she went out shopping. Giving her flowers didn't work, small gestures didn't work, and talking about her day didn't work. Seeing a therapist didn't work. I didn't cheat, because I didn't want to lose my kids. Well, that didn't work, either. She left with no explanation. It takes two to make a marriage work. — Mark from N.C. Writers forum set for Saturday in Redding The next Writers Forum meeting will be from 10:30 a.m. to 12:30 p.m. on Saturday, May 11, in the Memorial Hall of All Saints Episcopal Church, 2150 Benton Drive, Redding. The church is located at the corner of Benton Drive and Quartz Hill Road. The topic will be Writing and Wellness Workshop. Writer and Record Searchlight columnist Claudia Mosby will facilitate a special Writers Forum experiential workshop on the use of personal narrative for wellness. Participants will be introduced to the research behind expressive writing and its key biological and psychological benefits while being guided through exercises designed for insight and growth. Mosby's feature articles appear in several northern California newspapers and magazines, including Enjoy Northern California Living, the Sacramento News & Review, the Chico News & Review, the Record Searchlight and North State Parent. A past Research Assistant at the Benson-Henry Institute for Mind Body Medicine, Harvard Medical School, she has worked extensively with organizations and agencies involved in health care delivery and education. Writers Forum, a non- profit organization founded in 1983, is dedicated to promoting writing as an art and as a profession and to supporting and inspiring writers from all over far northern California. The public is welcome to attend. Admission to the first meeting is free. Donations are requested only at the refreshment table. For more information call 547-5303, or visit www.reddingwritersforum.com. Sierra Club events for May The Sierra Club, Yahi Group, is hosting the following events for May. • Spring Renewal Weekly Power Hikes, Sundays through May. Every Sunday, 8 a.m., meet at Horseshoe Lake parking lot, just before the locked gate, and renew your vow to keep in shape this year with a threehour (8 miles) power hike in beautiful Upper Bidwell Park in the spring. The hike begins with a push up the North Rim Trail, steady climb along the ridge, down the winding "B" Trail, and back along the Yahi Trail that runs next to Big Chico Creek. Most Sundays leader will be at the trailhead; otherwise hike is self-organized. Bring water, and wear appropriate clothing and footwear for that days' predicted weather. Light rain does not cancel. Call Jeanne, (530) 321-7279 for more information. • Saturday, May 18– Chambers Creek Hike. Join us for a steady climb up the Feather River Canyon off Hwy 70 west of Belden along sparkling Chambers Creek. We will start by gaining about 1200' elevation to reach beautiful, cool Chambers Creek Falls. Those who want to go on can climb another 500-600 feet to a great overlook of the canyon. About five to seven miles round trip. Bring lunch, water, hat, footwear with good tread and carpool money. Meet at 8 a.m. at Chico Park & Ride or 8:30 a.m. at Spring Valley School (Hwy 70 and Pentz Rd). Leader: Alan, 530-891-8789 or ajmendoza777@comcast.net: Asst. Leader: Kellie, 530892-1744. • Friday-Sunday, May 31-June 2 - National Sierra Club Outing Leadership Training at Clair Tappaan Lodge. Interested in seeing what it takes to be a Yahi Group Sierra Club leader? This workshop is designed to welcome new (and seasoned) Sierra Club leaders who want to connect more people to the outdoors. This training will benefit those interested in leading all kinds and lengths of trips from day hikes to multi-day water trips and trips for specific populations. The purpose of this training is to provide leaders with the skills to address leadership and group management issues that arise on short outings (day-hikes) and longer duration, more remote outings. This workshop will cover trip planning, enhancing competence and confidence in leading groups, achieving good group behavior, inspiring participants, and furthering their awareness and involvement in the con- servation work of the Sierra Club. This workshop will fulfill the OLT 101 and OLT 201 leadership requirements. Note: An optional basic first aid class will be offered Sunday from 1-5 p.m. for an additional $15. To learn more and register, visit the brochure: http://www.sierraclub.org/o utings/training/calendar.asp x. Cancellation: See brochure for details. Cost: $50 which includes food, lodging and teaching materials. The Yahi Group will reimburse you if you lead or asst. lead a trip in the following year. An optional Basic First Aid class will be run on Sunday afternoon for an additional $15. This class will be at Clair Tappaan Lodge in Norden. Contact: Sascha Paris, (415) 9775711, or sascha.paris@sierraclub.org. Unless otherwise noted, trips are free and open to the public and begin at the trailhead. For more information contact Publicity Chair Wayland Augur at (530) 519-4724 or email wba@acm.org. Mouthwash isn't necessary with brushing The most effecDEAR DOCtive way to reduce TOR K: I brush bad breath is to and floss regularbrush your tongue ly. Do I need to when you're use mouthwash brushing your too? teeth. 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