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Tuesday, May 7, 2013 – Daily News FEATURES Affair makes workplace hostile handle this? — In a Dear Annie: Bind My husband works Dear Bind: at a private college. How does your His male boss had husband feel about an affair with one of the situation? If his the female directors daughter were under him. My husguaranteed a band and his assistuition-free educatant found out about it and, after much Annie's tion at this college, would he be able to deliberation, stick it out for brought it to the attention of the by Kathy Mitchell another year or two human resources and Marcy Sugar until she is established? Is the presidepartment. The president of the college was dent of the college the only informed, but he only put one who can transfer your the two guilty parties on sus- husband to another department? Would it do any good pension for two weeks. My husband and his for him to go back to the assistant still have to work human resources departfor this man. He constantly ment? Please discuss his undermines them, and it is options, and then let him do obvious that there is no whatever he feels is best. We future for my husband at know you have a vested this college. The affair is still interest in the outcome, but going on, and my husband it is his job, and he should has told no one else. The make the final decision. Dear Annie: My husspouses are in the dark, too. My husband has only band and I have eight grown worked for this college for a children between us and an few years. Until this affair, ever-increasing number of he loved his job and did it grandchildren. We make a well. Our daughter gradu- good living, but when severates high school next year, al of them come home for and we were hoping she the weekends, the grocery could attend this school bills get very high, especialtuition-free. Instead, we ly when I have to buy for may have to move, losing those with food allergies whatever benefits we may and unusual preferences. Now that some of our have accrued. Should my husband ask kids have good salaries, for compensation when he what's the best way to say it leaves, such as some kind of would be nice if everyone tuition benefit? The presi- chipped in when we have dent is about to retire and weekends together? I find it has no interest in moving difficult to ask, and some of my husband to a different them get a little annoyed department. How do we that we would even think Mailbox they should help. They've been known to send requests for the meals they want. I've thought about sending out an email with the anticipated menus and asking them to let me know whether they would like to bring or prepare any of it. Is that fair? — Too Good of a Cook Dear Cook: This is your family, and they are staying the weekend. They should be pitching in at every meal, and you should not be afraid to tell them so. Since they refuse to offer graciously, it's fine to send a group email and assign a type of dish (starch, vegetable) to each child. Be upbeat and excited about their contribution to the weekend, and say you can't wait to taste their cooking. They can swap assignments or ask to prepare something else, but if they bring nothing, please do not compensate by cooking it yourself. Simply say you're sorry there will be less to eat. Dear Annie: I read the response from ''Frank'' about guests who track snow into the house. His suggestion is for the hostess to let people know in advance that they will have to take off their shoes. Nobody wants snow tracked into their home. If there is snow on the ground, why don't you already know that you'll have to remove your shoes at the door? — Glass Half Full Gluten free to relieve bloating There now is good evidence for DEAR DOCTOR K: I'm a a condition called non-celiac gluten healthy young person, but I tend to sensitivity. It causes gas, bloating have a lot of gas, bloating and diarand indigestion, but no intestinal rhea. Could a gluten-free diet help damage. The evidence for non-celime? ac gluten sensitivity comes from DEAR READER: Gluten-free studies of people who believe they eating is essential for people with have gluten sensitivity. The people celiac disease, which is an intolerhave been chosen at random to eat ance to the protein gluten. This proDr. K foods containing gluten or not contein is found in grains such as by Anthony L. taining gluten — with neither the wheat, barley and rye. Gluten gives structure and tex- Komaroff, M.D. doctors nor the subjects in the study knowing what they were eating. ture to breads, pastas, cereals and baked goods. It is also used as a flavoring, Those who thought they had symptoms thickener and stabilizer in foods such as ice from gluten really did. If you don't have celiac disease but you cream, sauces and condiments. So gluten is have symptoms after consuming gluten, try in a lot of foods. About 300,000 Americans are diagnosed a gluten-free diet for a brief time to see if with celiac disease. In people with this dis- you feel better. Many foods now are labeled ease, gluten provokes the immune system to as being gluten-free. By cutting out gluten-containing foods, attack the lining of the small intestine. It causes gas, bloating, diarrhea, constipation, you may reduce your fiber intake from headache, trouble concentrating and fatigue. whole grains. You may also miss out on It also leads to weight loss and malnutrition. vitamins and minerals that you'd normally For people with celiac disease, following get from fortified foods. So you might cona strict gluten-free diet is essential. In its sider contacting a registered dietitian. He most severe form, celiac disease can cause or she can help you put together a food plan that has adequate fiber and nutrients. life-threatening diarrhea and dehydration. Given your symptoms, you should talk to A gluten-free diet based on fruits, vegetayour doctor about getting tested for celiac bles, lean proteins, nuts, seeds, legumes disease. If you have it, you definitely should and whole grains that do not contain gluten, such as brown rice and quinoa, can be on a gluten-free diet. Even five years ago, I would have said be quite healthy. For many years, I saw patients who said there's no point in your following a glutenfree diet if you don't test positive for celiac that they were sensitive to gluten-containing disease. Two million Americans follow a foods. When their tests showed no celiac gluten-free diet — and that's a lot more than disease, I told them there was no reason for have celiac disease. Many really believe it them to avoid such foods. Guess what? helps them, and recent studies have found They often didn't follow my advice — and they were right. that they may be right. Social Security honors all who serve By Jennifer Cooper Social Security Manager in Redding Every day of the year, Americans across the nation remember friends and family members who have served and sacrificed for their country. Memorial Day is a day when we all come together to honor those who have given their lives in the defense of freedom and the principles we hold dear in this country. May is also National Military Appreciation Month. As we observe Memorial Day and Military Appreciation Month, we would like to let members of our military know how much we value what they do for our nation. At Social Security, we offer a wide range of services for our service members. Families of fallen military heroes may be eligible for Social Security survivors benefits. Learn more about Social Security survivors benefits at www.socialsecurity.gov/p gm/survivors.htm. For service members who return home with injuries, Social Security is here to help. Visit our Wounded Warriors website. You can find it at www.socialsecurity.gov/w oundedwarriors. We use an expedited process for military service members who become disabled while on active military service, regardless of where the disability occurs. The Wounded Warriors website answers a number of commonly asked questions, and shares other useful information about disability benefits, including how veterans can receive expedited processing of disability claims. It is important to note that benefits available through Social Security are different than those from the Department of Veterans Affairs and require a separate application. Even active duty military who continue to receive pay while in a hospital or on medical leave should consider applying for disability benefits if they are unable to work due to a disabling condition. Active duty status and receipt of military pay does not necessarily prevent payment of Social Security disability benefits. Receipt of military payments should never stop someone from applying for disability benefits from Social Security. If you've served in the Armed Forces and you're planning your retirement, you'll want to read our publication, Military Service and Social Security at www.socialsecurity.gov/p ubs/10017.pdf. You also may want to visit the Military Service page of our Retirement Planner, available at www.socialsecurity.gov/re tire2/veterans.htm. At Social Security, we honor all those who served in the military and we remember those who died for their country. 3B