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2A Daily News – Tuesday, May 7, 2013 Community people&events Focus on What to do when you are wrong fantastic flavors at beer, wine and food tasting event on May 18 More than 50 different beers, ales, wines and meads will be featured at the "Keg, Cork & Fork Fest" a beer, wine and food tasting event on May 18 at the Red Bluff Elks Lodge. This highly-anticipated event will also showcase gourmet food samples and live music and is scheduled from 3-9 p.m. at the lodge, 355 Gilmore Rd. Among the featured breweries will be Sierra Nevada, Mad River, Lost Coast. Lagunitas, 21st Amendment, Ninkasi, along with the non-local, but immensely popular Guinness and Newcastle brewing companies. Among the featured wineries will be Cedar Crest, Bertagna, One Maple, Honeyrun, Long Creek and Matson. Food will be provided by Red Bluff's own Cozy Diner and Redding's uniquely popular Cinders Wood Fired Pizza among other venues being organized at press time. In addition to all the tastings, patrons will also receive a complimentary wine glass to take home, and full glasses of beer and wine and complete meals will be available for purchase. In the interest of keeping the event affordable for everyone, admission prices will be just $15 for all advanced tickets and $20 at the door. Tickets will soon be available at Wild Oak in downtown Red Bluff, and are now available online at www.northstateevents.info. Additional purveyors of gourmet foods, beers and wine are also welcome and there is no charge to vendors. Breweries, wineries and restaurants that would like to take part, or want additional information, should visit the website or phone (530) 784-4TIX. Each and every one of us does things wrong. Sometimes we are rude, thoughtless, forgetful, under the weather, stressed, pouty, jealous, or just plain out of sorts and we do wrong things. Maybe we gossip, we forget to do what we were asked to do, we hurt someone intentionally or otherwise. Sometimes we mess up royally at work, home or in the community. When we mess up, we have choices about how to manage our outcome. In the world of psychology, there are terms like avoidance and transference that refer to ways people deal with the emotions associated with being wrong. A lot of the time people are unaware of how they manage being in the hot seat and therefor make matters much worse than they need to be. One of the best signs of a healthy relationship is the ability within it to be wrong. Every one is wrong at one time or another. Everyone. Everyone takes a misstep and does an oops. When you are the wrongdoer, it is healthiest to stand tall, take responsibility for what ever happened and make an emotional or literal restitution. It is actually quite simple. " I am sorry, I did X, it wasn't ok for me to do that, can you forgive me?" Under most circumstances, most people will be willing to forgive. Once you have made your plea for forgiveness and made whatever have the person they offended apologizing to them. That in restitution is needed, a hug, turn, teaches the person a kinder demeanor or they are in a relationship replacing something, you with that they can expect can expect to have a closer to be walked on and relationship with whomever manipulated. Not exactly you offended. People the ideal relationship. respect humility. People If you find yourself in like people who can say the wrong, stop whatever they did something wrong it is you are doing. Take a and want to do better. breath, a walk or a time This leads me to my next out. Go back to the persuggestion. Once you do X and realize it did not get you Faydra son and calmly tell them you are wrong and you where you wanted to be, stop doing X. You should Rector are sorry. If they are still fighting mad, you may not be apologizing to people for the same offenses You Matter have to endure some wrath for a short time, over and over again. If you are wise enough to know that you but after the adrenaline is gone, you did something wrong, you are most will see that your willingness to certainly wise enough to examine admit your shortcomings and ask the behavior that caused what you them to come along side of you and did. If you don't have the expertise to fix the situation will bring you closunderstand why you are driven to do er, improve your relationships and what you do, buy some couch time make you a better person. with a therapist and get your inner Faydra Rector, MA is a mental child healed. Everyone hates conflict and some health administrator, author, public people who were never taught how speaker, educator and life coach to fight fair avoid conflict by being a who lives in Red Bluff. She can be bully. They are so afraid of being reached at lifecoach@shasta.com view her blogs at rejected for being flawed that they or insist they are right and you are http://faydraandcompany.blogspot. and wrong. It switches the tables on the com/ people they love. They do something http://allaboutdivorce.blogspot.com wrong and before you know it, they /. Soroptimists donate to college T program Courtesy photo Nancy Smalley, Soroptimist member, Melissa Mendonca, coordinator of the Mentoring Program, and Bobie Hughes, president of Red Bluff Soroptimist International. SECRET WITNESS 529-1268 A program of Tehama County Neighborhood Watch Program, Inc. Setting it straight –––––––– It is the policy of the Daily News to correct as quickly as possible all errors in fact that have been published in the newspaper. If you feel a factual error has been made in a news story, call the news department at 527-2153. 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FAX: (530) 527-2151 Ext. 122 (530) 527-2151 Ext. 133 (530) 527-5774 E-mail: advertise@redbluffdailynews.com CLASSIFIED: 1-855-667-2255 SPECIAL PAGES ON THE FOLLOWING DAYS Tuesdays: Kids Corner, Health Wednesdays: Business Thursdays: Entertainment Fridays: Education Saturdays: Select TV, Farm, Religion Publisher & Advertising Director: Greg Stevens gstevens@redbluffdailynews.com Editor: Chip Thompson editor@redbluffdailynews.com Sports Editor: Andre Byik sports@redbluffdailynews.com Circulation Manager: Kathy Hogan khogan@redbluffdailynews.com Production Manager: Sandy Valdivia sandy@redbluffdailynews.com POSTMASTER SEND ADDRESS CHANGES TO: PO BOX 220, RED BLUFF CA 96080 The Red Bluff Daily News is an adjudicated daily newspaper of general circulation, County of Tehama, Superior Court Decree 9670, May 25, 1955 © 2012 Daily News Postage Paid Periodicals The Tehama County Cattlewomen (TCCW) are pleased to announce that they are offering at least two scholarships, each in the amount of $2,000. TCCW offers these scholarships to support students and their families who are engaged in the agricultural industry in general, and specifically the cattle industry. The scholarships are both for current college students. One scholarship is for a student who is majoring in an agricultural field and one is for a student who is not majoring in an agricultural field but comes from a Tehama county family who is involved in an agricultural business. The members of the TCCW Scholarship Committee select the scholarship winners based on the quality of an interview with the student and the student's autobiography, financial need, understanding and potential contribution to agriculture, understanding of the cattle industry and grade point average. Past scholarship winners are Amazing Finds NEW & USED FURNITURE & MUCH, MUCH MORE! Featuring Western, Lodge & Ranch Styles Two Locations - 30,000 square feet RED BLUFF 530-917-1138 REDDING 530-917-7797 22660 Antelope Blvd. 3351 S. Market St. amazingfindsredbluff.com amazingfindshome.com 9am – 8pm (closed Saturdays) 9am – 6:30pm daily Amazing Sale! 90 years May 11 • 10-4 Well-Being Faire & Sidewalk Sale Discounts & Specials at participating merchants Street Vendors Practitioners - 623 Main St. Free Workshops - 409 Walnut Bring a friend Downtown Red Bluff ago... Fire Destroys Home Of Minch Family Fire late Saturday afternoon completely destroyed the dwelling house on Oak street, between Johnson and Franklin streets, occupied by B. F. Minch and family, who conduct a grocery store on the west side and are well known in local business circles. A man's gold watch and a few minor articles constituted the only property saved from the blaze. The fire originated from a gasoline stove in the kitchen. — May 7, 1923 encouraged to apply again as long as they are eligible. Scholarship applications and a full description of the process for applying are available on http://www.tehamacountycattlewomen.org/. Applications are due by May 24. Trail run set Northern California Regional Land Trust will be hosting its annual Take a Hike! and 10K Trail Run – Saturday, June 1, from 7:30 a.m. to 1 p.m., Five Mile Recreation Area at Upper Bidwell Park. Registration available on-line at: https://raceplanner.com/register/info/Take_a_Hike or call the Land Trust at (530) 894-7738. CattleWomen trail ride Tehama County CattleWomen will host the CattleWomen's Trail Ride at the Dye Creek Preserve on May 19. Reservations are due on May 11. Information is available at www/TehamaCountyCattleWomen.org or at ride-4ranching@yahoo.com. The CattleWomen will have a luncheon and tour at Anselmo Vineyards on June 8. Reservations are due on May 31. Information is available at the website. In charge of the event are Irene Fuller and Maudie Gregory. Gleaners Gleaners will distribute food as follows in May: • Corning, 8 a.m. to noon, Wednesday, May 15, Corning Senior Center, 1015 Fourth Ave. • Red Bluff, 8 a.m. to noon, Wednesday, May 15, Food Bank, 20699 Walnut St. • Rancho Tehama, noon to 2 p.m., Monday, May 13, Recreation Center. • Los Molinos, 9 a.m. to noon, Tuesday, May 14, Masonic Hall, 25020 Tehama Vina Road. All other sites in the county will be at the usual times and places. Applications for food bank cards may be on the day of giveaway. Bring large paper or plastic bags if possible. New applicants please bring Rent Receipt, PG&E bill or something with a physical address. All income must be reported. Income is gross monthly per household not net. 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