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Tuesday, May 14, 2013 – Daily News 3B FEATURES Hubby having no luck in open marriage Good posture not marriage and, if so, what you Dear Annie: My husband can do to make things easier and I have been happily marfor him. Marriage, ''open'' or ried for 15 years and recently otherwise, requires the ability decided to try an open-marto communicate. riage lifestyle. We are doing Dear Annie: Would you this with full honesty and please address the distinction respect for each other. between ''dinner'' and ''supThe main problem is that per''? I've heard many people the dating success is not equal. I found it easier to get a Annie's refer to the evening meal as dinner, but the definition of an date. Whereas, my husband is evening meal is supper. I even having a tremendous degree of difficulty. He has online by Kathy Mitchell heard a prominent newscaster dating profiles, but no luck. I and Marcy Sugar refer to the president as sitting down with a guest at the White am seeing someone who is a wonderful person, but I want my hus- House for ''dinner'' tonight, but if they band to experience new things along are sitting down at night, it is clearly supper. — Stickler in the South with me. Dear Stickler: In most parts of the Open marriage is still considered taboo, and it is extremely important to U.S. and Canada, these words are used my husband and me that we are honest interchangeably. However, there are about our marital status with any regional distinctions, which might prospective date. Even though he is explain why this bothers you so much. According to most definitions, happy for me, I feel compelled to help him. But I'm not sure how to do it ''dinner'' refers to the main meal of the without overstepping unspoken day. Back in the Middle Ages, people often ate the main meal at lunchtime. boundaries. — Open but Lost Dear Open: Are you sure your Now we tend to eat it much later, but it husband wants this as much as you do? is still called ''dinner'' regardless of the He may have agreed to the arrange- time. ''Supper'' refers to a lighter meal ment only to please you. We think you taken later in the evening and is often need to have this discussion again and used interchangeably with ''tea.'' The let your commitment to honesty lead word ''dinner'' also is used when referthe way. Ask your husband whether he ring to a formal meal or banquet is truly happy with the idea of an open (hence the president's dinners), and Mailbox ''supper'' is always a less formal affair. We hope that answers your question. Thanks for the change of pace. Dear Annie: In response to ''Wife of the Plumber,'' I have only one thing to say: Get out while the gettin' is good! Her husband is a total narcissist, and nothing is going to change him. Narcissists are superb at conning people, especially those who love them. We are the ones they treat the worst, because we have that unrealistic hope that given time things will improve. After almost half a century, I can attest to the fact that no matter how many chances you give, no matter how many promises they make and no matter how much you love them or how hard you work, it will never change. They see nothing wrong with themselves. It is always the other person's fault. They will not seek help. I urge her not to throw her life away on someone who will never be there for her. I hoped too much and loved too strongly, and although still legally married, I have finally reached the point of emotionally withdrawing from my self-made prison. If leaving is not feasible, she needs to protect herself and her children from the extreme damage that is done by living with this type of person. And get counseling. — Been There, Done That and Escaped Doctor offers free seminar on chronic fatigue CHICO — There is lots of information in the popular press about hypoglycemia, or low blood sugar, and diabetes, which can be confusing. Symptoms of blood sugar fluctuations include fatigue, shakiness, sweating, weakness, irritability, headaches, poor sleep, blurry vision and brain fog. While these symptoms may point to other conditions, they can often be the result of inadequate glucose levels. Without enough glucose to fuel our bodies, it becomes difficult to get through the day and many people become chronically fatigued. When chronic fatigue is not adequately addressed, it can become the perfect host for getting even sicker. Dr. Patrick Giammarise, DC of Chico, CA will be hosting a free seminar 5-6 p.m.on Thursday, May 16 at the offices of the Digestion Relief Center, 2639 Forest Ave., Suite 100. At the seminar, "The Link Between Chronic Fatigue and Low Blood Sugar', residents of the North State will learn about several overlooked causes of hypoglycemia and how poor digestion can create blood sugar problems and chronic fatigue. Traditional approaches to overcoming chronic fatigue overlook several key causes, such as a compromised ability to naturally regulate our own blood sugar, poor digesiton, and hormonal imbalances. For example, some doctors may suggest diet modification or a reduction in sugar intake, but that approach will do little to help treat low blood sugar if the body is not digesting its food well. The seminar is open to anyone who suffers from fatigue and/or low blood sugar, those who know of someone suffering from fatigue and/or low blood sugar or those who would just like answers to what might be causing their chronic fatigue that their doctors have been unable to provide. Space is limited. Call 530-899-8741 in advance to reserve your seat. Yreka plans Gold Rush festival June 15 On June 15, Yreka will put on one of the biggest, most dynamic Gold Rush festivals in the state from 9 a.m. to 4 p.m. as pony rides, old time photo booths and live music fill the historical downtown corridor. The event includes Old West Shooters and Franco American Hotel tour, Chili Cook-off, gold mining tunnel tours, an arm wrestling tournament, watermelon and jalapeno pepper eating contests. There will be an Abraham Thompson display, by Ralph Starritt, gold panning with Phil Osborn, Pony Rides, Cowboy Poetry, old time photos, Horseshoe tournament and live music. Enter the Chili Cook-off Contest Show off your best chili recipe at this signature event from 8 a.m. to 3 p.m. All entry fees will be donated to the Yreka Volunteer Fire Department. Event and Vendor Booth Sign Ups Stake your claim by May 31 for highly sought after Gold Rush booth space. For more information call Yreka Chamber Executive Director Kory Hayden at (530) 842-1649, visit www.yrekachamber.com/ or the Yreka Chambers Facebook. Court Round-Up The following defendants were sentenced in Tehama County Superior Court, according to the Tehama County District Attorney's Office: —————— Recent County Jail Commitments • Bryce Michael Holloway was sentenced to 180 days in Tehama County Jail for driving with a .08 percent Blood Alcohol causing injury. Holloway was driving his vehicle while intoxicated when he lost control and crashed into a bridge. Holloway's passenger suffered injuries as a result of this incident. • Anthony Montana Deuel was sentenced to 180 days in Tehama County Jail for post release community supervision. Deuel was released from prison to post release community supervision. He violated his probation when he failed to keep in contact with probation and failed to complete his drug and alcohol treatment program. • Nathan Charles Hill was sentenced to 120 days in Tehama County Jail for vandalism. Hill was originally granted formal probation. He violated his probation when he failed to keep probation informed of his current contact information and failed to complete his jail sentence. • Benny Raymond Talley was sentenced to 100 days in Tehama County Jail for corporal injury to spouse. Talley and victim had been in an argument which resulted in Talley striking the victim on the head with a flashlight. • Aaron Bruce Howley was sentenced to 90 days in Tehama County Jail for post release community supervision Howley was released from prison to post release community supervision. He violated his terms of supervision when he failed to keep in contact with probation. • Francisco Villalobos was sentenced to 60 days in Tehama County Jail for having a concealed firearm in a vehicle. An officer conducted a traffic stop on a vehicle driven by Villalobos. Upon contacting Villalobos the officer observed a .22 caliber pistol tucked into the passenger seat. • Daniel Christopher Phipps and Eric Ryan Robb were both sentenced to 30 days in Tehama County Jail for possession of concentrated cannabis. Officers observed a car stopped along side the road and proceeded to the location to see if assistance was needed. Upon contacting Phipps and Robb the officers observed the odor of marijuana. A search of the vehicle was conducted and the officers located several pounds of marijuana. • Harley Joe Adkins was sentenced to 90 days in Tehama County Jail for failure to appear on own recognizance and 220 days in Tehama County Jail for transportation of a controlled substance. Adkins was originally granted formal probation. He violated his probation when he failed to keep in contact with probation. Adkins was released from custody on his own recognizance and failed to appear in court as required. • Donald Ray Whitehead was sentenced to 180 days in Tehama County Jail for corporal injury to spouse. Whitehead and victim were in an argument when Whitehead punched the victim in the eye. • Jamie Lynn Reynolds was sentenced to 180 days in Tehama County Jail for grand theft. Reynolds was employed by the elderly victim as a caretaker. She was provided the victim's debit card to purchase items for the victim but instead used the card to make unauthorized purchases and withdrawals for her own use. • Vance Steven Pope was sentenced to 90 days in Tehama County Jail for possession of marijuana for sale, possession of a firearm by a felon. Officers conducted a search warrant at defendant's residence and located firearms, marijuana, a scale and packaging material. Recent Proposition 36 Commitments Note: All cases wherein a defendant is sentenced per the terms of Proposition 36 are not at the request of the Tehama County District Attorney's Office. Per the requirements of Proposi- tion 36, a defendant who possesses drugs cannot be sentenced to confinement time in jail or prison. Instead, the court must place defendant on probation and require drug treatment alone. Per the requirements of Proposition 36, only upon a third drug related probation violation may the court impose confinement time. In the event the defendant violates a non-drug related term of probation the court may then elect to sentence defendant to jail or prison. The Tehama County District Attorney's Office contends that each criminal case is unique and that in certain, specific, cases a defendant should be sentenced to a combination of drug treatment and jail time. We further contend that in other specific cases where a defendant has an extensive criminal record and/or a history of non-compliance with either previous grants of probation or previous grants of drug treatment, a state prison sentence should properly be imposed. • Roger Lee Massie was sentenced to Prop. 36 probation for possession of concentrated cannabis; possession of a controlled substance. Deputies conducted a probation search at a residence and located Massie in possession of hashish. Officers responded to a domestic violence incident and located Massie in possession of a hypodermic needle and methamphetamine. just for looks cises. They can DEAR DOChelp improve your TOR K: I have posture and head mild back pain. I off back pain: sit at a desk all day — Imagery. and tend to slouch. Think of a straight My mother says line passing that sitting up through your body straight may help. from ceiling to Is she right? DEAR READDr. K floor. Your ears, shoulders, hips, ER: I hope it's by Anthony L. true. Otherwise, Komaroff, M.D. knees and ankles should be even and my mother (like yours) was wrong. And I line up vertically as you stand. Now imagine that a think it is true. Most of us get back strong cord attached to pain at some point in our your breastbone is pulling lives. It's usually not your chest and rib cage caused by an accident. upward, making you taller. — Shoulder blade Rather, it develops because, in going about squeeze. Sit up straight in our regular activities, we a chair with your hands strain muscles and liga- resting on your thighs. ments in the back that sup- Keep your shoulders down port our spines. This hap- and your chin level. Slowpens during the course of ly draw your shoulders day-to-day life. Repetitive back and squeeze your activities at work or home, shoulder blades together. such as sitting at a com- Hold for a count of five; puter or lifting and carry- relax. Repeat three times. — Upper-body stretch. ing, may produce tension and muscle tightness that Stand facing a corner with your arms raised, hands result in backache. Fortunately, there's a flat against the walls, lot we can do to prevent elbows at shoulder height, back pain. Most of all, it's with your right foot forimportant to be physically ward. Bend your right fit and to maintain a knee, but keep the left healthy weight. Minding knee straight. Keep your back straight and your your posture helps, too. Posture is the way you chest and head up. You hold your body while should feel a nice stretch standing, sitting or per- across your chest. Hold forming tasks such as lift- this position for 20 to 30 ing or bending. If your seconds. Relax. Now and then, you'll posture is good, the bones of your spine align cor- meet someone who has rectly. If your posture is perfect posture and hasn't bad and the spinal bones had to work on it. It's just are not in proper align- comes naturally. Most of ment, there is extra stress us, however, tend to on the muscles and liga- slouch. Our mothers really ments. They try to correct were right: Good posture for the bad posture and not only makes us look become injured from the better, it also protects us strain. This is how poor against back pain. posture can both cause Dr. Komaroff is a back pain and make it physician and professor at worse. (I've put an illustration showing good posture Harvard Medical School. while sitting and standing To send questions, go to on my website, AskDoc- AskDoctorK.com, or write: Ask Doctor K, 10 Shattuck torK.com.) Try the following exer- St., Second Floor, Boston, MA 02115. Koi pond tour set The Shasta Koi & Water Garden Club will be hosting a self-guided Pond Tour from 8 a.m. to 4 p.m. on Saturday, June 22. This year the tour consists of eight fantastic ponds in the Redding area. Tickets are $10 for adults and children younger than 12 are free. You will receive a guidebook giving directions to and a description of each pond. Tickets are now on sale at Axner Excavating, Sunset Koi, Jose Antonio's, Wyntour Gardens in Redding and Kirk's Body Shop in Red Bluff. For more information, call 917-0930 or visit www.shastakoiclub.com. Support our classrooms, keep kids reading. DONATE YOUR VACATION newspaper dollars to the Newspaper In Education Program HELP OUR CHILDREN For more details call Circulation Department (530) 527-2151 DAILY NEWS RED BLUFF TEHAMA COUNTY T H E V O I C E O F T E H A M A C O U NTY S I N C E 1 8 8 5 PHONE: (530) 527-2151 FAX: (530) 527-5774 545 Diamond Avenue • P.O. Box 220 • Red Bluff, CA 96080