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Tuesday, April 27, 2010 – Daily News – 3B FEATURES Eighteen and feeling stuck in relationship Dear Annie: I am 18 and have been in a relationship with ‘‘Justin’’ since I was 15. I couldn’t ask for any- one better. Justin would do anything for me. We love each other’s families and friends, too. Let’s just say I feel married. But lately, I feel like we should have some space. Justin doesn’t agree. He says once we’re apart, he will leave for good. He doesn’t understand why we need this. He doesn’t believe in breaks. However, I think it would make us realize whether we really are meant for each other, instead of wondering when we’re much older and it’s too late. I don’t want to lose Justin forev- And yes, there is a possibil- ity you won’t get back together. But if you don’t give yourself some space now, you are likely to regret it later. Annie’s Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar Dear Annie: My wife has early Alzheimer’s, which is not noticeable by casual friends. The problem is that serving on commit- tees, hosting arrangements, taking telephone messages and organizing programs are beyond her ability to handle. I make sure these requests are turned down, but I have a strong urge to explain why and then feel guilty if I tell. Do you have any suggestions er, but I can’t help the way I feel. Do I stay in this relationship and make the best of it? After all, we do love each other. Or do I take the chance of giving myself some space and risk losing him for good? — Terrified and Confused in Canada Dear Canada: Take the risk. If you are feeling boxed in now, it will only get worse over time and destroy the relationship when the stakes are higher. You both deserve the chance to see what else is out there before making a commitment to each other, especially since you haven’t had the opportunity before. Justin is issuing ultimatums because he is scared. You’ve been together a long time, and it can be daunting to give up the familiar for the new. that would help me decide when to explain and when to withhold this information? — Loyal Husband Dear Husband: According to Beth Kallmyer, MSW, senior direc- tor of constituent services at the Alzheimer’s Association, when to share a diagnosis is a personal deci- sion that differs for everyone. While it is important for people with Alzheimer’s to remain engaged in meaningful activities, the opportu- nities should match your wife’s cur- rent skill set. Consider having a conversation with her, and together decide who to tell and how. Sharing this infor- mation with close friends or family is often a good place to start. If either you or your wife feels uncomfortable sharing her diagno- sis with a wider circle, you could agree upon a response, such as, ‘‘After many years of leading com- mittees and organizing programs, my wife has decided to step down so she can concentrate on her hob- bies. She would still love to partici- pate, so please keep her on your invitation list.’’ For more informa- tion, visit the Alzheimer’s Associa- tion (alz.org) at 1-800- 272-3900. Dear Annie: ‘‘Married and Alone’’ could have been me 60 years ago. I used to become terribly upset with my husband because he never gave me cards or gifts on spe- cial occasions. I would get so hurt that I would cry. One day, my husband took me in his arms and said, ‘‘Honey, wouldn’t you rather that I love you every day of the year and not just two or three?’’ It is now a running joke in our home for me to buy myself a gift and thank him for his wonderful taste. Once in a great while, I will get a Valentine’s Day card. But for 60 years, he has given me that ador- ing look that says ‘‘I love you.’’ That is so much better than any card or gift. — Loving that Man of Mine in Ithaca, N.Y. Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 5777 W. Century Blvd., Ste. 700, Los Angeles, CA 90045. FFAstudents attend conference FRESNO — Red Bluff Union High school stu- dents were among more than 5,000 who attended the 82nd California FFA Leadership Conference. Attendees from Red Bluff FFA were Jennifer Stillwell, Rose Petros, Lori Bleeker, Wyatt Tausch, Stacy Stroing, CJ Henry, Haley Matheson, Shay McCluskey, Brittany Bickers and advisor Jenny Lynn Svejda. The four-day confer- ence, attracted young agri- cultural leaders from over 300 chapters of the Cali- fornia Association of Future Farmers of Ameri- ca. The conference encourages students to develop personal and team leadership skills, discover agricultural careers, estab- lish lasting friendships and strive for success. The conference high- lighted student accom- plishments in public speaking and production practices with proficiency awards, scholarships and special recognitions. Kerry DeFonte was chosen to sing during a Asupplement for blood-pressure control? DEAR DR. GOTT: Have you heard of the supple- ment Ameal bp for maintaining blood pressure within the normal range? If so, can it work success- fully? DEAR READ- ER: Ameal consists of two bioactive tripeptides — valyl prolyl proline (VPP) and isoleucyl prolyl proline (IPP) — that are extracted from milk proteins. The product is purported to block biochemical reactions in the body that can cause blood vessels to narrow and result in rising hypertension. It should be used in con- junction with proper diet and regular exercise. Dr. Peter Gott alcohol consump- tion. These steps should keep your blood pressure in check without the use of supple- ments. Work with your physician to deter- mine whether you truly have high blood pressure, and get his or her While you ask about maintaining readings within the normal range, you don’t indicate whether you have been diagnosed as pre- hypertensive or whether you clearly have hypertension. You also don’t specify other pertinent facts such as your age, gender, race and family history. Blood pressure tends to increase as we age. This is likely because the arteries and arterioles become less elastic, preventing them from working as efficiently as they did before. Hypertension is more common in men than in women between the ages of 35 and 50. At the age of 55, the rates are relatively equal. By 65, the rates for women surpass those of men. African-Americans are twice as likely to develop hypertension as are Cau- casians, and the condition is generally more severe. Last but not least, hyper- tension runs in families. People with a family history of heart attack or stroke at a young age run an increased risk of developing hyperten- sion. Blood pressure is the Courtesy photo Red Bluff High FFA students at the 82nd California FFA Leadership Conference. session for FFA Talent in front of over 5,000 people. Speakers at the event included Mark Scharen- broich and Josh Sundquist, as well as national FFA officers Levy Randolph and Bethany Bohnenblust, who will share their expe- riences serving as national FFA officers. The conference was coordinated by California State University, Fresno, and was held April 17-20 at Selland Arena. The California FFA Association, founded in 1928, helps more than 69,000 California high school students develop their potential for leader- ship, personal growth and career success through vocational edu- cation. force exerted by the blood against arterial walls as it is pumped from the heart throughout the body. A normal reading is 120/80 millimeters of mercury. High blood pressure occurs when readings become ele- vated beyond the figures quoted. Were I to provide guide- lines, I would prefer you exercise regardless of your weight. If appropriate, begin a weight-loss program, dis- continue smoking, eliminate salt from your diet, and reduce or discontinue any views on other ways of bringing your levels down. Request a trial of my sug- gestions, if appropriate, as well as the other recommen- dations presented to you at your meeting. Following that, if prescription medica- tion is necessary, you can be guided accordingly. To provide related infor- mation, I am sending you a copy of my Health Report “Hypertension.” Other read- ers who would like a copy should send a self-addressed stamped No. 10 envelope and a $2 check or money order to Newsletter, P.O. Box 167, Wickliffe, OH 44092. Be sure to mention the title or print an order form off my website at www.AskDrGottMD.com. DEAR DR. GOTT: Your advice about distilled vine- gar really works. I had a spot on my forehead my doctor told me wasn’t cancer — just to use creams to deal with it. I started using vinegar 34 days ago, and the spot is completely healed. I have been applying it to a wart, and that is almost gone, too. This is to encourage you to continue writing your col- umn. I can’t tell you how happy this makes me because I do not have this unsightly spot on my face, and I don’t need a surgeon. Thank you. DEAR READER: It never ceases to amaze me when remedies are often found in a kitchen cupboard. As with many medications, I am sure distilled vinegar will not work successfully for everyone in curing warts and a plethora of other con- ditions. However, I’m glad it did for you. Dr. Peter H. Gott is a retired physician and the author of several books, including “Live Longer, Live Better,” “Dr. Gott’s No Flour, No Sugar Diet” and “Dr. Gott’s No Flour, No Sugar Cookbook,” which are available at most bookstores or online. His website is www.AskDrGottMD.com Museum says picture this - before it’s too late Film and flash bulbs; glass plates and brass lenses; Brownie, large format and panorama cameras. These words are foreign to today’s typi- cal camera user but were once standard in the world of photography. Picture this, a Tehama County Museum exhibit, is all about pre-digital, formerly state of the art camera equipment and the pictures it creat- ed. Come by and examine this treasure one more time before it comes down. The historic photographs featured in picture this demonstrate the many ways cameras were used to capture the county’s shared history. Each picture provides a chance to observe a particular moment in time, to view the past at a stand still. Over the years quite a few Tehama snap-shots have become all too familiar. In this exhib- it the museum is displaying less well known images. Included are glimpses of the area’s agri- culture, its people and culture, its many his- toric places and old school houses and even its early recreational activities, such as river racing, motorcycle riding, camping and fly- ing. Highlighted are photographs of log- ging in the Lyonsville region; "CSI Tehama" crime and accident scenes and a portrait of Leo Gorcey, the well known actor from the Dead End Kids (Our Gang Comedies), who retired in the area. The historic equipment features cam- eras, supplies and projection items dating from the late 1800s. A majority of the pho- tography gear was donated to the museum by Greg Sybrant. Many of the older cam- eras incorporated large bellows, fine leather, wonderfully finished hardwoods and polished brass fittings and lenses. The exhibit reveals aspects of how the photography business have changed over the years. Starting in the late 1800s, manu- facturers modified their products in an Courtesy photo Jim Bacquet, a Tehama County Museum board member, takes one last investigative look at the "CSI Tehama" display, part of the museum’s soon to close picture this exhibit, which focuses on pre- digital photography equipment ranging from antique cameras to supplies, and a large collection of never before displayed pictures. attempt to bring more buyers into the mar- ket. The results were smaller cameras, less cumbersome designs, easier methods of operation and more affordable prices. In the early 1900s, revolutionary steps involved new lens models, smaller film for- mats and the use of less costly production materials. A visionary and leader of the industry’s transformation was George Eastman, a co- founder of Eastman Kodak. His major innovation was roll-film which in turn led to the birth of the small box camera. The famous Kodak Box camera, used exten- sively around WWII, is one of the first instances of a mass produced camera. Pho- tography was placed in the hands of the general public. In the 1930s advances in technology continued to update the trade. Pocket-sized 35mm film was brought to still photogra- phy. Relatively small metal cameras took over the market. The introduction of color roll-film captured the public’s imagination. Light meters came into being. These pio- neering developments shifted photography to a different level and it remained there for almost 70 years. The public is invited to enjoy the final days of the exhibit. Parents, grandparents and teachers have the opportunity to intro- duce children to the age of pre-digital cam- eras and explain about film, view finders, the developing process, slides and nega- tives. Everyone is asked to look for friends, acquaintances or relatives in the pictures on display. If you recognize someone, please pass that information on to docents. The museum charges no admission fees. It is a local, non-profit that receives no tax funding. Financial assistance to keep the doors open for future generations comes directly from special event fundraisers, donations and membership dues. Donations, in any amount, are always appreciated and may be made in person or via mail. The 2010 Membership Drive has been launched with categories ranging from stu- dent to lifetime. Faithful participation is valued and fundamental to the continued operation of this prized resource. Please join or renew your sponsorship today. Volunteers are another essential part of the support system of the museum. They ensure the continued availability of the Museum’s riches. Anyone interested in serving the community and keeping local history alive is encouraged to call 384- 2595. The museum is at 275 C St., corner of C and Third streets, in Tehama. Hours of operation are from 1-4 p.m. Saturdays and Sundays with arrangements for special tours. The mailing address is P.O. Box 275, Tehama, CA, 96090; and the e-mail address is tcmuse@tehama.net.