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Wednesday, November 21, 2012 – Daily News FEATURES Mother-in-law resists woman moving on Dear Annie: I was mar- ried to my husband for 31 years. Two years ago, he was killed in an accident. I loved him to the moon and back and miss him terribly. Eight months later, my daughter introduced me to a nice gentleman. He is a sweet man, and we have been seeing each other ever since. Unfortunately, my mother-in-law is upset and bitter because of it. She thinks I did not wait long enough after my husband's death. What gets me is that one of her daughters just left her husband a couple of months ago, is not yet divorced and already has a boyfriend moving in with her. That doesn't seem to bother my mother- in-law. I love my in-laws, but they have to realize that my path in life is changing, and I have to do what is right for me. How do I get my mother-in-law to understand? Do I just leave it alone and live my life? — Confused Daughter-in-Law Dear Confused: Parents grieve Annie's Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar loving their son, but you don't think he would want you to be alone. Explain that you hope they will always be part of your life. Intro- duce them to your new man. Be gentle and compassion- ate, but don't let them dic- tate your future. Dear Annie: While wait- ing in a line at a deli, a young girl ahead of me was dressed in today's typical tight, skimpy shorts. She was leaning against the deli case, and I noticed she had a sizable tattoo just above her very clearly exposed rear cleavage. Naturally, I glanced at it briefly and read what it said. I did not gawk or ogle. It was simply normal curiosity. I was cautioned by a friend who in their own way, and the loss of a child is different from that of a spouse. No amount of mourning would be ''long enough'' for your mother-in-law. But it is unrealistic and unfair for her to expect you to remain alone indefinitely. Try to bring your in-laws into your new life. Tell them how much you love them and how you will never stop warned me that doing so could be considered sexual harassment. My argument is that when someone essentially has a billboard on their butt, it's an invitation for others to peruse it. To me, people who have multiple exposed tattoos should expect others to look them over. What's your take on this? — A Guy in Virginia discovered that he had a half-broth- er and wanted to know whether it was too late to form a relationship over his father's objections. After my mother died, I found out at age 42 that I was a child from a first marriage. My stepdad adopt- ed me and changed my name to his. I went on a search and found half- brothers from my biological father's other marriages. One half-brother thought it was terrible that I was searching, but another of my half- brothers, only five months younger, was thrilled to have a new sister. We have a wonderful relationship. So, it's never too late. And I agree with your advice that this is not Dad's decision. Yes, I'm angry that my birth information was hid- den from me and that I never had the opportunity to meet my biologi- cal father. My new half-brother and I have often wondered whether any of the wives knew about the others. I have one more brother we haven't found, and I'm guessing he was also adopted and had his name changed. — California Sister Dear Guy: In most instances, body art is intended to be noticed. Discreet glancing is fine. Ogling is not. Staring, making comments, whistling, smacking your lips or touching the other person are defi- nite no-nos. You can look, but do so respectfully. Dear Annie: ''New Sibling'' Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. Parkinson's advocacy group in Corning Northern Valley Social Service (NVCSS) and Corning Healthcare District will team together to sponsor a Parkinson's Disease Advocacy Group start- ing at 2 p.m. Tuesday, Nov. at 175 Solano St. in Corning, according to Elaine Benwell, from NVCSS. The first meeting will provide general infor- mation on the disease. The Parkinson's Disease Foundation video, "You are not alone" will be discussed, and resource information will be pro- vided. There will be an opportunity to ask ques- tions. The average age of onset of Parkinson's dis- ease is 60 years old, but has been known to affect people in their 30s. It is a chronic slowly-pro- gressing disease that affects the nerve cells associated with muscle function. Our bodies naturally produce a sub- stance called dopamine that regulates move- ment. In Parkinson's disease, dopamine pro- duction begins to deteri- orate resulting in tremors, movement problems and often depression. "I couldn't stop the Republicans elect new board the last Tehama County Republican Central Committee meeting on Nov. 8. Michael Holtsclaw was elected chairman of the A new executive board for 2013-14 was elected at Tehama County Republicans succeeding Ken Say, who has been serving faithfully in that position for many years. Vice-chairmen are Ken Say and Jerry Crow. Elected as Secretary was Joyce Bundy and Treasurer Linda Alston. Prior to the voting in of new officers, Say performed his last official duty as chairman and swore in the elect- ed and appointed incoming members of the committee that where present at the meeting. management workshop UC Cooperative Extension in Tehama County and the Shasta-Tehama Water Education Coalition is pro- viding a workshop on Irrigation and Nutrient Manage- ment for Deciduous Orchard Crops 8 a.m. to 1 p.m. Wednesday, Dec. 5, at the Veterans Hall, 1620 Solano St. in Corning. Irrigation and nutrient tremor in my left hand," said Lilly, age 65 when diagnosed with Parkin- son's disease. "My doc- tor referred me to a neu- rologist. 'You're in the early stages of Parkin- son's Disease. See me again in three months.' That was it. I walked down the street in a daze." experience is not rare. "Too often doctors can be dismissive," said Shirley age 60 when diagnosed. "If you are fortunate he or she may refer you to the Parkin- son's Disease Founda- tion website Unfortunately Lilly's (www.pdf.org), but most of us have a need to ask questions, share our experiences and talk to a live person. We want to feel like we are not alone." you love has been diag- nosed with Parkinson's disease you may wish to attend the Corning Parkinson's disease advocacy group. Your ideas, questions and suggestions are wel- come. If you or someone TOR K: I recently suffered through a miserable bout of food poisoning. How can I protect myself in the future? DEAR DOC- grow. 3B Tips to prevent food poisoning DEAR READ- ER: There are few things less fun than food poison- ing. I speak from experience, and not just experience as a doctor. Abdominal cramping, vomiting and diarrhea — clearly not an experience you want to repeat. Fortu- nately, there are many things you can do to pro- tect yourself. 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As I've discovered, and more than once, it's not enough to know what to do about selecting, stor- ing and preparing food. You actually have to do these things. Try cutting corners and you'll pay a price. physician and professor at Harvard Medical School. To send questions, go to AskDoctorK.com, or write: Ask Doctor K, 10 Shattuck St., Second Floor, Boston, MA 02115. CHPto accept new officer applications SACRAMENTO – The California Highway Patrol (CHP) announced today that it will accept applications in January from individuals inter- ested in a career as a CHP officer. who is looking for a challenge." "This is an opportu- nity to serve alongside some of California's finest who provide the highest level of safety, service and security throughout the state," said CHP Commissioner Joe Farrow. "A career with a law enforcement agency like the CHP offers unlimited oppor- tunities for someone Community Clip? An update will be provided on the Central Valley Long-term Irrigated Lands Regulatory program and how it may affect local nut and fruit crop industries. This meeting will also provide an opportunity to dis- Wednesday, Nov. 28, or call 527-3101. Pre-register at the Tehama County Cooperative Extension website: cetehama.ucanr.edu. cuss effective irrigation and nutrient management strate- gies in orchard crops. Specific topics include: efficient irrigation and nutrient management tools and strategies; irrigation system performance: what‚s working well and what are the challenges; new soil information resources to enhance productivity and natural resource sustainabil- ity; the use of soil and water amendments. On-line pre-registration is available through Water/Irrigation Program from the list on the left and then click the link to register for the 2012 Irrigation and Nutrient Management Workshop. Select e-mail: clerk@red- bluffdailynews.com or Fax: 527-9251 Applications will be accepted online only during a three-day peri- od from Thursday, Janu- ary 3 through Saturday, January 5. This brief application period marks the first time in three years that the CHP has accepted applica- tions. Those interested in applying, or seeking additional information, should visit www.chp- careers.com. "Officers are needed throughout California," added Commissioner Farrow. "Through this process, we are deter- mined to find qualified men and women from diverse backgrounds who are committed to carrying out the CHP's mission and making a difference in their com- munities." To be considered, candidates must be 20- 35 years old, a U.S. citi- zen, have no felony con- victions and be a high school graduate. 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