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FEATURES Dear Annie: My son married a young widow with two small boys. They have been married 15 years and are currently expecting their first child together. Throughout this marriage, my daughter-in-law would never let my son have any kind of fatherly relationship with her older boy, although he was the sole father of the younger child. Now the older boy is 20 and won't leave his mother's side. Wondering Dear Wondering: We Annie's Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar He has had only one girlfriend, and she was the daughter of a close friend of Mom's. He has to sleep in the bedroom next to hers. He paces the floor until she gets home from work and then follows her around the house. He sits outside the bath- room door while she bathes. He calls and texts her constantly, and she does the same. When he gradu- ated high school, he attended a local community college because he did- n't want to leave the city. But it became too difficult to drive back and forth between school and the house, so he quit and got a mini- mum-wage job. This young man doesn't have a good relationship with his younger brother or my son. It's as though he resents their presence in the home and wants his mother all to himself. She takes him everywhere she goes. I find it very strange and can't help wondering whether they are involved in an incestuous relation- ship. What do you think? — Just Permits are being sold at the McCloud Ranger Station. The season runs from through Nov. 6. Forest visitors who The 2012 Matsutake mushroom harvest season opened on Sept. 19 on the Shasta-Trinity National Forest. her affections to the new baby, cre- ating a more serious problem. Please talk to your son and urge him to help this young man become independent of his mother — a developmental step that he has missed. It sounds as if the entire family could use some counseling. Dear Annie: I love my mother, don't believe it is necessari- ly incestuous, but it is decid- edly unhealthy. The mother has created a dependency. She treated her son as a ''husband substitute'' when she was widowed, and he has clung to that job (with her encouragement) ever since. This is unfair to the boy, as well as to his brother. And there is the possibility that the mother will transfer Friday, October 5, 2012 – Daily News 5A Boy's attachment to mother is unhealthy family soon. I want my mother in my life, but I don't want my kids to be around so much negativity. There is no loving way to describe her negative attitude. How would I explain it to them? — Worried Daughter My husband and I plan to start a Dear Daughter: Kids are amaz- ingly adaptable and accepting. If your mother loves them, they will respond and understand that this is just the way Grandma is. You may need to set boundaries on how much rudeness she spouts in front of them and limit her time when she is par- ticularly negative. But otherwise, handle each challenge as it appears. Dear Annie: As a public health Babies can eat solid food at 4-6 months TOR K: When should I start giving my baby solid foods? Will starting solids too early increase her risk of food allergies? DEAR DOC- but our relationship has never been easy. Most of my childhood memo- ries are unpleasant due to my par- ents' nasty divorce. When my younger brother chose to live with Dad, it just about killed Mom. The bitterness and depression swal- lowed her up. My brother and I could never fill the hole in her heart or put a smile on her face. I am now 25 and can't stand her self-pity and rude comments about my father and brother. She com- plains about being single, having no friends and coming home to an empty house. I try to spend time with her, but we always end up arguing. I think she thrives on the conflict. days for $100. $200. official, I disagree with your response to ''Concerned Sister,'' whose sister has dogs, cats, turtles and a lizard. The home environment as described suggests some signifi- cant health issues, from salmonella that is carried by reptiles to canine feces left on the floors for periods of time. These health hazards are sources of pathogens that cause infectious diseases. If there isn't a mental health diagnosis, the symp- toms are definitely in place for one. — D.S., Health Director Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. Matsutake mushroom harvesting permits on sale p.m. • A seasonal permit for All picking days must be consecutive. To purchase a permit, want to harvest Mastutake mushrooms must first purchase a commercial harvest permit. The per- mits may be purchased as follows: • $7 per day with a three-day minimum for $21. • A one-month permit, valid for 30 consecutive the harvester must be 18 years of age and have a valid ID. There are no permits for personal use harvesting. Permits from adjoining National Forests are not valid on the McCloud Ranger District, nor will the McCloud Ranger Dis- trict permit be honored on the Klamath or Modoc National Forests. During the month of September the McCloud Office will be open Mon- day through Saturday, 8 a.m. to 4:30 p.m. Begin- ning in mid-October, the Office will be operating during normal business hours, Monday through Friday, 8 a.m. to 4:30 enforcement officers will be patrolling harvest areas to ensure compliance with the terms and conditions of the permits. In order to ensure the sustainability of the Mat- sutake mushroom harvest, each permit has additional conditions and restric- tions which are intended to regulate the harvest. It is the responsibility of the permit holder to read and understand those condi- tions. Forest Service law Lecture on mental illness and new depression therapy offered in Redding The public is invited to hear Dr Thomas Andrews speak on a new treat- ment for dedpression from noon to 1 p.m. on Monday, Oct. 8, in the Redding Library, Community Room. Awareness Week Changing Attitudes. Changing Lives. Andrews, a local psychiatrist, The topic will be Mental Illness for talk about a new treatment for depres- sion. NeuroStar TMS Therapy is a tech- nologically advanced treatment for Major Depressive Disorder indicated for adult patients who have failed to achieve satisfactory improvement from prior treatment. will Andrews recently spoke to NAMI members and friends about a new treat- ment that is low cost, doesn't hurt and almost no side effects to help folks who have severe depression. Andrews says the benefits of this treatment are amazing for depression. If you have not heard about TMS therapy, hear Andrews speak about the therapy and he is open to question and answers. According to studies this new treat- ment may be beneficial in many other areas of mental illness. For more information call 605-1647, send an e-mail to namisc@namisc.us or visit www.namishasta.org. Please note that there are special camping regu- lations in effect associated with the mushroom har- vest season. There may also be additional fire restrictions in effect. For more information, call (530) 964-2184. DEAR READ- ER: Breast milk or iron-fortified infant formula provides all the nutrients your baby needs for the first 6 months. Most pediatricians I know do not recommend starting solid foods before 4 months. The introduction of solid foods before 4 to 6 months may not provide the proper balance of nutrients — and it may increase the risk of your infant's devel- oping food allergies. Before you begin, dis- cuss the introduction of solid foods with your pedia- trician. Most recommend one of the iron-fortified infant cereals, such as rice, oatmeal or barley, for the first food. These types of cereals are least likely to cause allergies. Mix the cereal with breast milk or formula. Watch for signs and symptoms of allergy, such as rash, wheezing, stom- achache, diarrhea, gas, fussiness or vomiting. True food allergies are rare, but if you notice any of these things and suspect an aller- gy, stop giving the food in question and call your pedi- atrician. Keep these things in mind: — Add only one new food at a time. Wait from five to seven days between new foods so that you have time to watch for a possible allergy. (Choose a longer interval if you have a strong family history of allergies.) Dr. K by Anthony L. Komaroff, M.D. other seasonings. Refriger- ate or freeze homemade baby food right after cook- ing. make your own baby food. Except for bananas, all fruits and vegeta- bles should be cooked first and then pureed. Do not add salt, sugar or — Do not feed your baby directly from a jar unless you plan to use the entire jar at one meal. That's because the spoon will contain bac- teria from the baby's mouth, and if you leave some of the food in the jar for a future meal, the food may be ruined by the bacteria. So if you aren't going to use the whole jar for one feeding, then use a clean spoon to place the food you are going to feed the baby into a clean bowl. — Commercial- ly prepared baby foods are nutritious and safe for babies. — You also can — Refrigerate opened jars of baby food. — Wait until your infant is at least 1 year old to give foods that commonly cause allergies: egg whites, peanut butter, other nut butters, oranges, grapefruit, other citrus fruits, shrimp, lobster, other shellfish. — Do not give honey to your infant before 1 year; honey can cause life-threat- ening food poisoning. — Finally, don't give your child solid foods that could get stuck in the child's windpipe and cause choking until the child is at least 3 years old. I'm referring to foods such as raw carrots, grapes, popcorn, raisins, nuts, jelly beans, pieces of hot dog, hard candies.