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4C Daily News – Thursday, September 27, 2012 FEATURES Women can't decide between hubby, beau and have been with my hus- band for 18 years. We have built a wonderful life with great kids, but circum- stances led to a separation. I was the one who wanted it. My husband is a good guy, but he just hasn't been able to give me the love I want. Something is always more important. He now says he's willing to do any- thing to make this marriage work. But he's promised that before, and after a short time, I am on the back burner again. A few months ago, I ran into a man I hadn't seen in years. He is divorced. One thing led to another, and, well, you can figure it out. Now, I have two really great guys in my life, and I want them both. My husband is a stable, sensible, great father. My guy friend is fun, sweet and the best lover I have ever had. I know I am being selfish, and I feel guilty, but apparently not guilty enough to make a choice between them. How do I decide? — Used To Be Sensible in Milwaukee Dear Milwaukee: There are children involved in this mess, and you should think of them. Ideally, you and your husband would work on this together and make your mar- riage stronger. It requires that you both get back into counseling, that he sticks to the plan and that you give up your boyfriend. If you are not ready to do that, please get a legal separation from your husband Dear Annie: I am 38 and put a custody and visita- tion plan into effect while you sort this out. Don't wait too long. Your husband may decide he is entitled to look elsewhere for happiness, too. Annie's Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar their nuptials. Dear Annie: The letter from ''The Drunk's Wife'' brought back some memories. and other small boxes. Dear Annie: I was recently invited to a small, informal engagement party. The invitation said, ''No gifts, please,'' so I followed that. But when I arrived, there was a table with quite a few cards, a bottle of wine My uncle is getting married soon for the second time. He is having the ceremony and a dinner at a local restaurant. His invitation also says, ''No gifts, please, only best wish- es.'' My sister says we must get him a gift, or we are being cheap, no matter what the invitation says. But I would think people would be miffed if they received presents they specifically said they didn't want. I don't want to make the same mis- take again. Is a card not enough? — Not Sure My husband hangs out at a local bar with his buddies. One evening, when it was well past the time he usually comes home, I went to the garage to see whether he had driven the golf cart home yet. I found him lying between the wall and the cart. He had been trying to recharge the cart, but was so drunk he fell and passed out. Dear Not Sure: When someone requests ''no gifts,'' that is exactly what it means. People who bring presents anyway are insecure about the request and feel they must buy something regardless. Of course, etiquette also says ''no gifts'' does not belong on an invitation because it implies that gifts are otherwise expected. If you insist on giving a present, we suggest a donation to their favorite charity in honor of Once I got him into bed, I called the bar and told them if it happened again, I would call the police, and they could lose their liquor license. I said I was not only protecting my husband and those he encountered on the road, but also the bar busi- ness. The next day when he was sober, I told him what I did. He was angry, but he needed to know how many people would be affected by his drunk driving. Fortunately, the bartender now watches and limits his drinks, and my husband is more careful because he knows I'll report him to the police. It's because I love him. — A Caring Wife Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. Free admission to Lassen; art and wine event Lassen Volcanic National Park entrance fees will be waived on National Public Lands Day Saturday. Opportuni- ties to explore the unique volcanic landscapes, enjoy the mountain scenery, camp, or attend the Art and Wine of Lassen event are just some of the experiences that await visitors. "Fall season is a beau- tiful time to visit Lassen Volcanic National Park with the cool, clear nights and warm days," stated Park Superintendent Dar- lene M. Koontz. Park concessioner, California Guest Services, will host Art and Wine of Lassen Saturday at the Kohm Yah-mah-nee Visi- tor Center from 11 a.m. to 5 p.m. This event will feature local wine tasting ($5 for tasting and com- memorative wine glass), hors d'oeuvres, art exhibits with demonstra- tions and live music. For visitors planning to camp, there are several campgrounds that remain open with some changing to dry camping. Dry camping means there is no potable water for human consumption and only vault toilets are available. Warner Valley, Butte Lake and Summit Lake South Campgrounds are currently dry camping until Oct. 30. Manzanita Lake Loops C and D close on Oct. 2; dry camping is available from Oct. 16 until snow closure. The Southwest Campground (walk-in) is open year- round with water and restrooms available at the visitor center after Oct. 8. Juniper Lake Camp- ground will close on Oct. 16. Summit Lake North, Crags, Lost Creek and stock corrals are now closed for the season. For more information, please contact the park at (530) 595-4480, from 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. or visit the park website at www.nps.gov/lavo. Fish and Game (DFG) is reminding people who see bear cubs to leave them alone. Even if they appear orphaned, the most appropriate thing to do is to leave them in the wild. DFG reminds people to leave bear cubs alone The California Department of chances of surviving on their own relatively good." uation. Throughout the year, sows teach their young to gather food and eat what is available in their natural habitats. By fall, cubs can survive even if they are completely separat- ed from her. "Sows normally wean their cubs around the beginning of August," said DFG Statewide Bear Program Coordinator Marc Kenyon. "Depending on the sow's parenting ability, these cubs have already learned how to fend for themselves. Plus, bears of this age are extreme- ly resourceful, making their About 40 percent of bear cubs die in their first year. Those that survive are driven off by their moth- ers at approximately 18 months of age. By Aug. 1, California's black bear cubs are roughly 5 months of age. Research and DFG's experi- ence over the decades indicates that while orphaned cub survival is lower than that of cubs with sows, cubs this age can survive on their own. Supplements claims largely unproven TOR K: Many herbs, vitamins and supplements claim to boost energy. Do any of them actually work? DEAR DOC- DEAR READ- ER: Unfortunate- ly, there is not much scientific evidence to sup- port the claims. Here is my best current assess- ment of the published evi- dence: Dr. K by Anthony L. Komaroff, M.D. — Ginkgo biloba. It may improve alertness and calmness in healthy people. If you take a daily aspirin, or any other blood thinners, I'd avoid ginkgo. It may increase a bleeding tendency. The DFG's policy regarding orphaned cubs favors leaving them alone unless they are obviously sick or in dire need of assistance. The DFG assesses cubs on a case-by- case basis for diseases, parasites, overall condition and human habit- The alternatives to leaving a cub in the wild are limited, and include temporarily holding a cub in a cap- tive facility until winter sets in, placing it in a long-term captive facility such as a zoo, or euthanasia. Reducing wildlife to captivity is inconsistent with the DFG's goal to keeping wildlife in the wild, where they can behave naturally. With approximately 30,000 black bears in the state, encounters between people and bears are becoming more commonplace. In order to keep bears in the wild, where they belong, it is important that residents and visitors in black bear habitat stash their food and trash properly. Feeding wildlife is harmful to wild animals and ille- gal. Sundial Bridge to turn pink A new feature of the Pink Sundial Event on Thursday, October 18 will be 1,000 luminaries lighting the river trail. These Luminaries will consist of a pink ribbon bag containing a battery- operated candle. When it's illuminated, the shin- ing light in this bag will represent a loved one's life that has been touched by breast cancer. Think Pink is using this opportunity as a fundraiser for future Think Pink breast cancer awareness projects and is asking community mem- bers for a $10 contribu- tion to put a loved one's name on a bag. Our goal is to have 1,000 luminary bags lining the Sacramen- to River Trail from the Dana/Hilltop area down to Turtle Bay. Community members attending the Pink Sundi- al Bridge Lighting Cere- mony are encouraged to park in the Mall parking lot and walk along the River trail (where the luminaries will be lit). This will not only give people the best view of the luminaries, it will also help with traffic conges- tion in the Sundial Bridge/Turtle Bay Park- ing lots. We feel the luminaries will provide a dramatic visual representation of the many lives touched by breast cancer; and will also honor the survivors as well as family and friends that we've lost to the disease. The luminar- ies are just one more way for Nor Cal Think Pink to raise awareness of how many lives can be saved through early detection. To honor your loved one by purchasing a lumi- nary: visit any North Val- ley Bank branch, the Think Pink Store at Tri Counties Bank on Hill- top, Lawncrest Chapel & Memorial Park, Solace Cancer Care or Redding Cancer Treatment Center. have been sponsored by Lawncrest Chapel & Memorial Park, MD Imaging and Axner Exca- vating, so all funds raised in this project will go directly back into provid- ing our breast cancer awareness materials to promote saving lives through early detection. There will be shuttle service from the Mount Shasta Mall and Shasta High School starting at 5 p.m. with the last shuttle returning from the Pink Sundial at 10 p.m. owner of a foul-mouthed cocka- too in Rhode Island who was slapped with a $15 fine for vio- lating a noise ordinance is appealing. The Providence Journal reports (bit.ly/RUIVG4) that Warwick resident Lynne Taylor is appealing to a state court a fine imposed by a municipal judge. RI owner of cussing cockatoo appealing noise fine WARWICK, R.I. (AP) — The The judge said Taylor had broken a local law that prohibits resi- dents from letting their pets habitually howl, bark or make other noise. Taylor's lawyer says the ordi- nance is unconstitutional because it gives no parameters for what noise constitutes a violation. He notes the statute says that if someone is annoyed, it's a public nuisance. lor's ex-husband. ——— relatively safe herb, but there's not much evidence that it reduces fatigue. — Guarana. This herb induces a feeling of ener- gy because it's a natural source of caffeine. But consuming a lot of guarana could ultimately lower your energy by interfering with sleep. — Chromium picoli- nate. This mineral is wide- ly marketed to build mus- cle, burn fat, and increase energy and athletic perfor- mance. Research has not supported these claims. — Vitamin B12. Some people take vitamin B12 as a way to get a quick energy burst. If you have a B12 deficiency, which is easy to determine with a simple blood test, treat- ment definitely can improve your energy. — DHEA. This natu- rally occurring hormone is said to boost energy, among other things. But DHEA has no proven ben- efits and some potentially serious health risks. It is particularly wise to avoid it if you are pregnant or breast-feeding, have liver disease, polycystic ovari- an syndrome, high blood levels of cholesterol or depression. — Ginseng. This is a — Creatine. Creatine is produced by the body and is largely found in muscle. There is evidence that it can build muscle mass and improve athletic perfor- mance requiring short bursts of muscle activity, particularly in teenagers and young adults (but not in older adults). However, it has not been proven to reduce fatigue. If you take creatine, stick to the rec- ommended dose (2 to 3 grams per day). exercise capacity in people with heart disease, and one small study found that people with chronic fatigue syndrome might benefit from this supple- ment. However, its value as a gen- eral energy boost- er is unproven. — Ephedra. The FDA banned ephedra because of major safety concerns, but it remains available for sale on the Internet. There is no safe dose of ephedra. Avoid it. We have more informa- tion on ways to increase your energy in our Special Health Report, "Boosting Your Energy." more about this report at AskDoctorK.com, or call 877-649-9457 toll-free to order it.) Having said all this, the studies I refer to above determine whether the average person gets a benefit from a treatment. But it is entirely possible that some people really do get a benefit even if the average person does not. So if a supplement is not harmful and seems to be helping, I don't dis- courage my patients from taking it. (Learn Dr. Komaroff is a physician and professor at Harvard Medical School. To send — Coenzyme Q10. This enzyme may improve questions, go to AskDoctorK.com, or write: Ask Doctor K, 10 Shattuck St., Second Floor, Boston, MA 02115 Drive set for October A community blood drive will take place in Corning in October from 3-6:30 p.m. on Monday, Oct. 8, at the American Legion/Veteran's Memorial Hall, 1620 Solano St. Blood donations are used to treat burn vic- tims, transplant patients, people who must undergo surgery, those injured in accidents, patients with leukemia and more. To give blood, donors must be in generally good health, free from cold symptoms for at least 48 hours; be at least 17 years old or 16 with parental consent and weigh at least 110 pounds. There is no upper age limit for donating blood. Prospective donors must bring a photo ID. The entire process takes about an hour. BloodSource is the blood provider to St. Elizabeth Community Hospital. Please support your local blood supply. All participants will earn Rewards to redeem online at www.bloodsource.org/mybloodsource For more information about the blood drive please call BloodSource at 1(866)822-5663. Corning Community Blood Luminary materials Ducky Derby set for Sunday A neighbor accused Taylor's bird of parroting vulgar phrases, cursing and loudly speaking expletives. The neighbor lives with Tay- Information from: The Provi- dence Journal, http://www.provi- dencejournal.com Proceeds from the Ducky Derby will be used for substance abuse prevention programs and youth development. This year's prizes include a 7' x 10' Sheriff Kids Playhouse donated by Meeks Lumber & Hardware, a Giants Weekend donated by InterWest Insurance Services, a Diamond Pendant from DeVons Jewel- ers and two tablet computers from Advanced Con- cepts. Tickets to adopt ducks will be available from 10 a.m. to 12:30 p.m. at the park Sunday. For more information, call Marge Beck at 225-8583, marge- beck@msn.com or visit www.reddingduckyderby.com. Rats to Riches, 9 a.m. to 2 p.m., will feature hot rods, rat rods and exotic cars including Lamborghi- ni, Ferrari, Porsche, Aston Martin, Acura NSX and Ford GT40. Art in the Park, 10 a.m. to 4 p.m., features art created by local artists, entertainment including Old Time Fiddlers and children's activities on the lawn in front of the League at Carter House, Caldwell Park. The race is a full day of family fun, not just a duck race. There is no cost to attend the events. The ducks drop at 1 p.m. with art and car shows REDDING -— Redding East Rotary announces the 23rd annual Ducky Derby, Art in the Park, and "Rats to Riches" on Sunday, Sept. 30 at Caldwell Park in Redding.