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2A Daily News – Tuesday, August 21, 2012 Community people&events Courtesy photos The San Francisco Giants recently hosted Junior Giants League day at AT&T Park in San Francisco. Among the Red Bluff Junior Giants team members attending were, from left, Nathan Hill, Nathan Foster, Jonathan Reitano, Levi Prinz, Coach Aaron Foster, Wally Williams and Noah Prinz. SECRET WITNESS 529-1268 A program of Tehama County Neighborhood Watch Program, Inc. Setting it straight There was an error in the name of one of the par- ticipants listed in the front page of the weekend Sports section article The Bowlers of Summer. The name should have read Ethan Smith. The Daily News regrets the error. –––––––– It is the policy of the Daily News to correct as quickly as possible all errors in fact that have been published in the newspaper. If you feel a factual error has been made in a news story, call the news department at 527-2153. You would think that by this time in life, with studying all things human potential, changing many aspects about my behavior and hav- ing a multitude of powerfully great things happen in my life that I would somehow be bathed in all things positive, that I would be impervious to negative energy and that I would simply turn and offer my other cheek when slapped by life's cruelties. The fact is, random and unwanted stuff falls into my lap regularly. I commonly need to take deep breaths and bite my tongue. I oftentimes feel over- whelmed and old ways of thinking creep into my head. Bad, negative, weird, unsettling, tough, unexpect- ed, unwarranted and unwanted stuff happens to everyone. I am part of a blended family. That alone is something that strikes fear into anyone who has tried to patch together a quilt made up of squares with children from other marriages, ex-spouses from other marriages and heavy baggage from other marriages. To say the least, it is a challenge to try to put together two families and truly not have lines of demarcation when it comes to all things previous to your new union. At the top of the list is the delicate balance of par- enting your child versus someone else's child that you live with, but don't have full access to discipline or influence the way you do your own child. It's as if there are two sets of rules in the house- I parent mine my way, you parent yours Forced family fun Nothing puts a strain on a second or third or more marriage than chil- dren. The quickest way to crack the foundation of a couple is through the perceived dissing of the child. At some point, the step parent is going to say, do or act in a way that sets the child off or sets the parent off and the person who is most affected is the bio par- ent. The bio parent is now in the dilemma of who to support and who to challenge. Sometimes it is obvi- ous who is making matters far worse than need be and sometimes the child and the spouse simply want to be the one you are loyal to which means often times there has to be a winner and loser in the dynamic. Have you had to face your child and tell them that you support your spouse and the child needs to understand? Likewise, have you had to face your spouse and expect them to have the matu- rity to weather the angst of a child of divorce? It can be a grueling and heart tearing experience. your way and neither of us parents the others without permission. Ughhhhh. I understand the collateral pain associated with blending families. My family faced a test of epic proportions while on a family vacation. To put it mildly, high humidity, unmet expectations, Faydra Rector You Matter family, we were able to overcome a disaster and move on a bit closer than before. The lesson learned, our family is too old and too blend- ed for 'forced family fun' as they like to call it. Blending families successfully is an art. I am not an artist. I am a mom. I am a wife. I am a step- mother and I am doing the best I can to stay in each role. competing agenda's and jet lag are a horrible mix for four type A people trying to cram in as much as they can into a week's vacation. My hus- band and my daughter had a fight that spewed more venom than the Exxon Valdez and I was caught smack in the mid- dle. It was a power strug- gle between two people I love and I was facing a Sophie's sort of choice. Ultimately, I had to pull all of my tricks out of my hat and through talking it out, making amends and each person owning their role in creating world war Faydra Rector, MA is a mental health administrator, author, public speaker, educator and life coach who lives in Red Bluff. She can be reached at lifecoach@shasta.com or view her blogs at http://faydraandcompany.blogspot. com/ and http://allaboutdivorce.blogspot.com /. 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Auto Jumps Off Grand And Lands In Brush Below An automobile carrying two men and a woman, whose names were not learned here, on Sunday after- noon ran off the grade of the Red Bluff-Eureka high- way about 18 miles northwest of this city and landed almost without damage to the car in a manzanita bush at considerable distance below the level of the road. — Aug. 21, 1922 Joining the festivities were Lisha Goings, can- didate for Red Bluff City Council; Jim Reed, can- didate for U.S. Con- gress; Gallagher; Charles Rouse, State Assembly candidate and Judy Turn- er, former secretary and newly elected chair of Tehama County Democ- rats. Ken Green, outgoing vice chair; Louise Wilkinson, incoming vice-chair; John Elshere, re-elected treasurer; Ruth Mathisen, outgoing historian; Holly Wilson, Also recognized were Beef 'N Brew Sept. 15, 2012 Downtown Red Bluff Red Bluff's 3rd Annual Beef Appetizers Brew Tasting Plum Crazy, The Gold Exchange Brownpapertickets.com For info: 530-833-9961 Tickets @The Loft, Tehama County Democrats honored Sue Gallagher for her service as chairperson at their biennial organizational meeting held Thursday, Aug. 16 at Los Gordos Taqueria in Red Bluff. Special recognition Courtesy photo Pictured, from left, are Lisha Goings, candidate for Red Bluff City Council; Jim Reed, candidate for Congress; Gallagher; Charles Rouse, State Assem- bly candidate and Judy Turner, former secretary and newly elected chair- woman of Tehama County Democrats. incoming historian and Mike Streight re- appointed coordinator of election files. 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