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February 28, 2017

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MARCH 1-7, 2017 UCW 31 WWW.UPANDCOMINGWEEKLY.COM WEEKLY HOROSCOPE ADVICE GODDESS Stare Trek The 40-year-old guy I'm dating swivels his head to check out ladies everywhere. He even comments on those he finds attractive. I've mentioned that it bugs me. He contends that it's my insecurities that are really the issue here. I can see how lower self-esteem might lend itself to an offended reaction, as opposed to just a shrug or an eye roll, but is this really on me? — Blamed Men evolved to have their eyeballs all up in every hot woman's business because the features considered beautiful in a woman correlate with health and fertility. Ancestral men who passed on their genes (and mating psychology). Brain imaging studies by evolutionary psychologist Steven Platek and his colleagues find that when men see pictures of curvalicious women — those with an hourglass bod, a fertility indicator — there's "activation" in (most notably) the nucleus accumbens. This is part of the brain's reward circuitry and, as they put it, "the seat of addictive behavior." Regarding their findings, Platek told me, "We think that this is why men quite literally find it challenging to look away from a highly attractive female body." No, not "impossible" to look away. "Challenging." Like it may sometimes be for you to keep from stabbing your boyfriend in the thigh with a fork when he rubbernecks at a passing pair of Wonderbreasts. However, feeling disturbed by his girl- gawking isn't a sign you're emotionally defective. Consider that emotions aren't there just to jazz up your day. Psychiatrist and evolutionary psychologist Randolph Nesse explains that emotions have a job to do — to motivate us to "respond adaptively" to threats and opportunities. For example, that rotten feeling you get in response to your boyfriend's ogling is basically an alarm going off alerting you that a man's commitment isn't there or is waning. Wanting to feel better pushes you to remedy the situation. If your insecurity is tripping you up, it's in how you seem to be second-guessing the emotions yelling at you, "Do something! HELLO?! Are you in a coma?" The thing is, you don't have to feel assertive to be assertive. You just have to (gulp!) stand up for yourself as an assertive person would. Again, the problem isn't that your boyfriend's looking; it's that he's looking (and commenting) while you're standing right there, feelings and all. Be honest with him: This doesn't just "bug" you; it hurts your feelings. It makes you feel disrespected. And it needs to stop. Now. Because you want to feel loved, respected, and happy — either with him or with some guy you meet at his funeral, after his tragic but inevitable death from drowning in a pool of his own drool. Copyright Amy Alkon NEWS OF THE WEIRD by CHUCK SHEPPARD San Francisco's best-paid janitor earned more than a quarter-million dollars cleaning stations for Bay Area Rapid Transit in 2015, according to a recent investigation by Oakland's KTVU. Liang Zhao Zhang cleared almost $58,000 in base pay and $162,000 in overtime, and other benefits ran his total income to $271,243. He worked at San Francisco's Powell Street station, a hangout for the homeless, who notoriously sullied the station 24/7 (urine, feces and needles, especially), necessitating overtime hours that apparently only Zhang was interested in working. In one stretch during July 2015, he pulled 17-hour days for two-and- a-half straight weeks. [KTVU, 2-7-2017] Wrong Place, Wrong Time An Abbotsford, British Columbia, burglar was successful in his Feb. 7 break-in at a home, but his getaway was thwarted by a snowfall that blocked him in on a roadway. He eventually decided to ask a passerby for help — and inadvertently picked out a man (of the city's 140,000 residents) whose house he had just broken into (and who recognized him from reviewing his home's security camera footage). The victim called police, who arrested the man (and reported that it was the second residential break- in that night in which the snowfall had foiled a burglar's getaway.) [Vancouver Sun, 2-7-2017] Everyday Hazards In Portland, Oregon, in January, Ashley Glawe, 17, a committed "goth" character with tattoos, piercings and earlobe holes ("gauges") was, she said, "hanging out" with Bart, her pet python, when he climbed into one of the lobes. She couldn't get him out, nor could firefighters, but with lubrication, hospital emergency workers did (thus avoiding an inevitable split lobe if Bart had kept squeezing his way through). [The Oregonian, 2-1- 2017] Iraqi forces taking over an ISIS base in Mosul in January reported finding papers from at least 14 Islamic State "fighters" who had tried to claim "health" problems, asking commanders to please excuse them from real combat (and martyrdom). One (a Belgian man) actually brought a note from a doctor back home attesting to his "back pain." Five of the 14 were initiated by volunteers from France, a country that endures a perhaps-deserved national reputation for battle-avoidance. [Washington Post, 2-7-2017] Copyright Chuck Sheppard ARIES - Mar 21/Apr 20 Aries, it may take a little while this week, but you will come to the answer you need to solve a puzzle that has been hounding you. It'll free up space in your mind, then. TAURUS - Apr 21/May 21 At work you will have plenty of moments to shine if you can zero in on those opportunities, Taurus. Think about making a name for yourself in the days to come. GEMINI - May 22/Jun 21 You need to look at a certain situation from all angles, Gemini. If not, you can't get the full picture and make the best decisions possible. Therefore, take a little more time. CANCER - Jun 22/Jul 22 The desire to prove yourself and the fact that there is just too much on your plate, Cancer, could be causing stress in your life. Letting others lend a helping hand is not a sign of weakness. LEO - Jul 23/Aug 23 Get all of your finances in check before you start thinking about big-ticket spending, Leo. This includes electronics, cars, or even expensive vacations. Know what you can afford. VIRGO - Aug 24/Sept 22 Virgo, sometimes your desire to lead the show gets in the way of relationships with others. You might need to capitulate and let another person take the spotlight. LIBRA - Sept 23/Oct 23 Someone close to you recognizes all of the help you've provided him or her, even if this person doesn't verbalize the thanks very often. Your efforts are appreciated, Libra. SCORPIO - Oct 24/Nov 22 You have been spending quite a deal of time sorting out the lives of other people that it is time for you to get a handle on the situations that affect you, Scorpio. SAGITTARIUS - Nov 23/Dec 21 You may need to join in when others ask you this week, Sagittarius. It's not the time to veer off in your own direction, especially at work. Show you can be a team player. CAPRICORN - Dec 22/Jan 20 Don't let other people get in the way of your success, Capricorn. It is not being rude if you ask someone to step aside so you can get the recognition you deserve. AQUARIUS - Jan 21/Feb 18 Big changes are in store and you may not expect all of them, Aquarius. As new information comes to light, you will have to adjust your situation accordingly. PISCES - Feb 19/Mar 20 Romantic endeavors come to the forefront during this week, especially after love was rekindled earlier in the month, Pisces. 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