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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman THEDUPLEX GlennMcCoy ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Iamata loss over what to do with my mother and her relationship with my kids. Mom and I have always had a strained relationship, but we have both always tried hard. I am now a mom to a tween and a pre- schooler, and I want my kids to have a healthy relationship with their grandma, even if ours is not so great. The problem arises when my mother is angry with me — whether from an instance happen- ing at that moment or in the past — she demeans me and my parenting to my kids, the older one in particular. Raising kids is hard enough to do without having your children lose respect for you. I've told my mom to cut it out, and she agrees, only to do it again and again. I've not been letting my kids spend time with her because of this, but I don't want them to be punished. I don't want to punish my mother either. I just can't trust her to not be- tray her word and try to manipulate me through my kids. Is there any way my kids can have a good grandma in their lives? —AMotherFirst DEAR MOTHER » The only way for your kids to have a good grandma in their lives would be to have a different grandma. They — and you — are stuck with this one. You alone can judge the true toxicity of these comments and the effect on your children. If your mother is in the "grouchy complainer" category, this might be tolerable. As the kids grow older, they will understand that this is just the way she is. If your mother is deceitful, manipulative, poisonous and a vicious gossip, then yes — this can undermine your own relationship with your children, as well as cause them genuine emotional harm. Be open with your oldest. Ask her how she feels when her grand- mother does this. She may have to train herself to say, "Grandma, I don't want you to talk about mom," and repeat this often. And yes, if your mother can't respect your reasonable request, then you should limit visits to times when you will also be present. DEAR AMY » I caught your answer to the childish man who was humiliated when he was beat by a woman in a chess game ("Totally Embarrassed in Defeat"), but you declined to ad- dress what a total baby he was! — Chess Player DEAR PLAYER » "Totally Embarrassed" seemed to view his chess game as a battle of the sexes. I agree that he was a sore loser. Daughter has a troubled relationship with her mother You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribpub.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. 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