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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman THEDUPLEX GlennMcCoy ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»My20-year- old daughter is in love with her former soccer coach, who is 53. When she was 16, he started coaching her team in high school. After graduating she assisted him as a coach. Appar- ently the affair started in earnest last year. He is not em- ployed and is married with three children; his oldest is the same age as my daughter. He and his wife are now divorcing. She saw a therapist and was dismissed due to her disinterest in the process. My husband and I have spoken to four dif- ferent therapists all say- ing she should be released into the world, because she wants to control her own life. I agree with this. My husband wants her to stay home. We are divided about what to do. We have agreed that she will only get financial help for school. If she communicates with him with the phone we pay for and sees him with the car we pay for, then she has to pay for them. Her goal is to save enough to move out. She has a part-time job and goes to college full time. They can't make it on her part-time salary. Please give us your thoughts. —UpsetParents DEAR UPSET » You obviously deplore your daughter's choices and her judgment. I assume you have an extremely low opinion of the man she is in love with. You have set up strict financial controls with the phone and car, requir- ing that you monitor her (impossible to do). Either pay for them, or have her pay for them. Don't use these things to control her. You should continue to offer housing and school tuition as long as she stays in school, full time. You should decline to fight with her about this. You don't want to make things so difficult that she clings even harder to this other relationship. If she doesn't like the d ea l sh e ha s at h o me , then tell her she is free to leave, but she will lose your financial support. She will face the natu- ral consequences of her actions, which include disappointing her parents and being a party to the hurt and heartbreak of another family. You should let her know that you will always love her, no matter what. Don't disown her out of anger, but allow her to leave home with your blessing. There is a big difference between the two. DEAR AMY » "Conflicted" was adopted and won- dered about contacting half-siblings. I was also adopted. Once I became aware of my bio-relatives, I very respectfully reached out to two half-siblings. One welcomed this, and the other didn't. I am aware of the impact on them, but I'm also glad I did it. — Adopted DEAR ADOPTED » Thank you for offering your perspective. Parents fret over daughter's relationship with older man You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribpub.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Scorpio(Oct.24-Nov.22) — Work alone if you find it too much of a struggle to get along with others or find their posi- tions untenable. Don't be afraid to be different. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — A change to your appear- ance, to the way you do your job or to how you present yourself will help ward off negative criti- cism and jealous acts. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — Find out exactly what you want and then go for it. Don't let distractions get in the way. 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