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SEPTEMBER 21-27, 2016 UCW 67 WWW.UPANDCOMINGWEEKLY.COM WEEKLY HOROSCOPE ADVICE GODDESS Loaf Actually I'm a 35-year- old woman, and my boyfriend of a year is 43. Sadly, my friends and family don't like him. They think he's "not good enough" for me. Their argument: He doesn't have a full-time job with benefits (like me), plus he smokes pot to relax; therefore, he is lazy and will live off me and my retirement money. (Sorry, but enjoying retirement alone isn't my idea of a "secure future.") He has a part-time job he likes, makes enough to pay his bills in a (small) house he owns, and saves for things he wants. He is loving, has my back to an unreasonable degree, and says he's pretty sure he used up all his luck getting me. Unfortunately, all minds are made up; there's no explaining what a deeply good man he is. I feel awkward bringing him to gatherings or even mentioning him. The worst, though, is my nagging question: Could they be right? — Torn Evolutionary developmental psychologist Bruce J. Ellis explains that there's this notion by some social scientists — called the "structural powerlessness hypothesis" — that women only go for powerful men because they themselves lack power. This, Ellis writes, is "directly contradicted" by research — on feminist leaders, for example — that finds that "high-power women (want) super-powerful men." As for why this is, Ellis explains (as I often do) that ancestral women who went for mover-and-shaker men were more likely to have children who survived and passed on their genes. "Over evolutionary time," he writes, "evaluative mechanisms" were built into female psychology to push women "to detect and prefer males" with a "willingness and ability" to provide for them and their children. Often what seems to matter is potential — that he is ambitious and has a reasonable shot at achieving what he's going after. Now, maybe you went for your sweet underachiever as a reaction to jerks in your recent past. It is possible that you and Laid-Back Larry could live happily ever after. But ask yourself some questions: Where do you see yourself in five years? Could you count on him to put down the bong and go make money if you got sick? Will your friends and family come to accept him, or will you end up unhappily isolated? And finally, do you want kids? If so, consider that you can downscale your lifestyle but you can't downscale your kid from needing dental care or hand him makeshift forceps to take the toy truck out of his nose. Sure, this guy would probably be the ideal stay-at-home dad. But consider that a number of studies find that women married to a Mr. Mom often end up resenting and losing respect for him, and those marriages are more likely to end in divorce. Copyright Amy Alkon NEWS OF THE WEIRD by CHUCK SHEPPARD These Shoes Weren't Made for Walkin' The upscale clothier Barneys New York recently introduced $585 "Distressed Superstar Sneakers" (from the high- end brand Golden Goose) that were purposely designed to look scuffed, well-worn and cobbled-together, as if they were shoes recovered from a dumpster. The quintessential touch was the generous use of duct tape on the bot tom trim. Critics were in abundance, accusing Barneys of mocking povert y. [USA Today, 8-30- 2016] [Daily Mail (London), 8-29- 2016] News That Sounds Like a Joke (1) The British food artists Bompas & Parr are staging (through Oct. 30) a tribute to the late writer Roald Dahl by brewing batches of beer using yeast swabbed and cultured from a chair Dahl used and which has been on display at the Roald Dahl Museum in Great Missenden, England. (2) A 16-year- old boy made headlines in August for being one of the rare survivors of an amoeba — a brain-eating amoeba — which he acquired diving into a pond on private propert y in Florida's Broward Count y. (By popular legend, Floridians are believed to lack sufficient brain mat ter to satisf y amoebas!) [The Independent (London), 8-17-2016] [NBC News, 8-24-2016] Government in Action The Drug Enforcement Administration has schemed for several years to pay airline and Amtrak employees for tips on passengers who might be traveling with large sums of cash, so that the DEA can interview them — with an eye toward seizing the cash under federal law if they merely "suspect" that the money is involved in illegal activit y. A USA Today investigation, reported in August, revealed that the agency had seized $209 million in a decade, from 5,200 travelers who, even if no criminal charge results, almost never get all their money back (and, of 87 recent cash seizures, only t wo actually resulted in charges). One Amtrak employee was secretly paid $854,460 over a decade for snitching passenger information to the DEA. [USA Today, 8-11-2016, 1-7-2016] COPYRIGHT CHUCK SHEPPARD ARIES - Mar 21/Apr 20 Any obstacle can be overcome if you set your mind to it, Aries. Your combination of intellect and work ethic will serve you well in the coming weeks. TAURUS - Apr 21/May 21 Others are paying attention to you this week, Aquarius. Bounce your ideas off of other people and don't be surprised by the positive feedback you receive. GEMINI - May 22/Jun 21 Gemini, your energy and attentiveness are in abundance this week. Use this combination to tackle tasks you have been putting off. Offer others help if they need a hand. CANCER - Jun 22/Jul 22 You have an uncanny ability to tune into the way people think, Cancer. You can put this skill to work at the office or use it to network and explore new business ventures for yourself. LEO - Jul 23/Aug 23 Leo, a family member needs help getting through a tough time. You could be the first person they call on to lend a helping hand. Offer your unconditional support. VIRGO - Aug 24/Sept 22 Put your creative energy to good use this week, Virgo. Think about renovating a portion of your home or discovering a new hobby to keep you busy when things slow down. LIBRA - Sept 23/Oct 23 Libra, use this week to tackle a financial project this that has been on your mind for some time. Completing this project will provide some relief. SCORPIO - Oct 24/Nov 22 Scorpio, you have a lot of energy and a desire to do everything to the best of your abilities. This week that approach will serve you well in your professional life. SAGITTARIUS - Nov 23/Dec 21 Sagittarius, a request of you may require some help to be fulfilled. Trust your instincts and don't be afraid to seek assistance if you think this requires a team effort. CAPRICORN - Dec 22/Jan 20 Capricorn, make the most of a sudden burst of energy. Apply this to both your personal and professional lives. Bring new people together in your social circle. AQUARIUS - Jan 21/Feb 18 A new friend is keeping you on your toes, Aquarius. Embrace this person's joie de vivre and go with the flow. You will be glad you let your hair down. PISCES - Feb 19/Mar 20 Pisces, keep trying to win over someone whose opinion on a particular matter contradicts your own. It just may take a little more persuasion. Amy Alkon Chuck Sheppard $350 Jump Video & still pictures on CD $225 Jump & still pictures on CD 5 th annual SkyDive Tandem with the World Famous Off Duty and former members volunteering their time. SKYDIVE PARACLETE XP 143 AIRPORT DR., RAEFORD, NC • FOOD • RAFFLES • SILENT AUCTION • JUMP HOUSES • MUSIC • • FOOD • RAFFLES • SILENT AUCTION • JUMP HOUSES • MUSIC • • FOOD • RAFFLES • SILENT AUCTION • JUMP HOUSES • MUSIC • All proceeds will be given to the Fibrolamellar Cancer Foundation In memory of Zach Grullon - Dec. 6, 1991 - Jan. 28, 2012 For more info. and to sign up contact: Kevin & Shawn Grullon 910-257-3027 or 910-229-1100 • Email: GrullonTeam@gmail.com Minimum age to Tandem is 18 yrs. Must be signed up by 10.5.16 to participagte in skydive.