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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman THEDUPLEX GlennMcCoy ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Mymother is 63 years old. She just ended a tumultuous three-year relationship with a man who cheated on her, lied to her and stole money from her. This is her first long-term relationship since my father died of complica- tions from Lewy body dementia with Parkin- son's more than six years ago. My mom cared for my dad for almost 10 years and the emotional turmoil nearly ruined her. She just learned that her ex-boyfriend is dying of pancreatic cancer and has six to eight months to live. She is heavy with guilt for leaving him, and is considering caring for him until he passes away. I think she should run for the hills, that she owes him nothing and that his treatment of her doesn't warrant her car- ing for him. He should have treated her better when he was well. How can I make her feel better about leaving this man? (Am I a horrible person for feeling this way?) —ProtectiveDaughter DEAR PROTECTIVE » Your mother has spent such a high percentage of her life taking care of others that she is probably very good at it. You can understand why she would be drawn to thi s ro le now . On one level, she may feel that because she took care of herself (by leav- ing), she is being pun- ished, and now must take care of him. Her guilt is her way of taking responsibility for something (this man's health) that doesn't really have anything to do with her. You might help your mother gain some perspective by noting that this man had other relationships with other women during the time they were together, and so one of his affair part- ners might choose to step forward now to help him at the end of his life. No matter what you advise her to do, you need to understand and accept that your mother might choose to take on this role, regardless of what you think. Guilt is a heavy and powerful motivator. One healthy way for your mother to manage her guilt over this situa- tion (and stay away from him) would be to become a hospice volunteer and help others at their end of life. DEAR AMY » Your letter from "Big Fan" regarding the sometimes hurtful nature of social media struck a chord. I take a summer vaca- tion from social media and the three months off provides me needed perspective and reminds me that there is life away from my computer! There is more time to devote to activities I enjoy, like walks, cook- ing and reading. I also find myself reaching out more for real "FaceTime" with friends and family! I highly recommend it. — Anne DEAR ANNE » I completely agree. Thank you. Scorned woman now faces taking care of her ailing ex You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribpub.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Virgo(Aug.23-Sept.22) — The changes you make will be directly linked to previous experiences. Look back, but be prepared to leap forward. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — A change in a relationship or partnership will result in an opportunity and a chance to use your skills and expertise in a dif- ferent arena. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — Applying what you know to a problem that crops up will help you bypass trouble. An inter- esting opportunity to use your talents in different business sectors should not be ignored. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — Put your house in order. Host an event or alter your liv- ing arrangements. Romance is encouraged. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — Keep your life simple. Listen carefully and don't jeopardize your reputation or ability to get things done. An emotional problem must be dealt with diplomatically. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Rely on your own ability, skill and energy to get things done. Make physical changes that will encourage a loved one to be more romantic. Taking action will bring about positive change. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Try not to be inconsistent. If you want others to take part in your plans, you will have to prove that your ideas are well thought out. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Do your best to be your best. Engaging in physical activity, being playful with a loved one and making lifestyle or appearance changes will be beneficial. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Uncertainty while traveling will arise, causing a delay. Give yourself plenty of time to reach your destination in order to avoid being late. You'll find out something from an unexpected source. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — Relationships will be complicat- ed. Try not to send the wrong signal or let your flirtatious ways cost you. Don't let temptation lead you astray. Honesty is the best policy. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — Someone will call your bluff if you exaggerate. Stick to the facts and practical, carefully considered plans. Let your per- formance speak for itself. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — A quiet getaway will do you good. Make plans to go on a retreat or brief vacation with a good friend or loved one. Make sure you take some time to pamper yourself. Horoscope By Eugenia Last SATURDAY, SEPT. 17 | YOURDAILYBREAK | REDBLUFFDAILYNEWS.COM SATURDAY, SEPTEMBER 17, 2016 8 B