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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman THEDUPLEX GlennMcCoy ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Twenty years ago, I was a sperm donor. My motivation then was entirely financial — I was paid the kingly sum of $50/donation. Since then, I've rarely given it a thought. A year ago, I received word that one of my offspring, a woman of 19, wanted to get in touch with me. My wife gave me her blessing. So I did, and it turned out to be a wonderful thing. My parents were thrilled because now, in addition to their three grandsons (I have two boys) they finally had a granddaughter, too. Yay! Win-win. Then about a month ago, another daughter wanted to get in touch with me and I con- sented to that, too. She too, seems like a lovely person. But she informed me that there is a registry that lists children of donors, and that she knows of seven other siblings. Is it OK, ethically, if I were to say "no more" to any of the other offspring? Legally, I'm under no obligation. But ethically, I'm torn. I hate the thought of telling someone to "go away," but I feel over- whelmed at the prospect of trying to maintain contact with nine people, and quite possibly many more. What do you think? —DelugedDonor DEAR DONOR » I shared your question with Jean Benward, a psychothera- pist who works with donors and families created through gamete (sperm and egg) dona- tion. She says this issue will become more com- monplace, and that there is no ethical absolute regarding contact. My own opinion is that you are under no ethical obligation to maintain a relationship wi th t he se o ff sp ri ng , b ut that you should respond to the initial contact. Your gamete offspring likely found one an- other through the Donor Sibling Registry (www. donorsiblingregistry. com). These DNA-related siblings found each other and perhaps learned your name from the sister that successfully contacted you. Ms. Benward suggests you contact the director of the registry and ask for suggestions on how to handle this. She and I agree that these off- spring are undertaking a developmentally appro- priate search, which is the search for self. "Young adults are trying to figure out who they are in the world," she says. You should write an email, warmly acknowl- edging the existence of your offspring and conveying your happi- ness that they are in the world and have found one another. Assure them that you are healthy and open to providing medical information, but beyond that you are not interested in forming a relationship at this time. Send your email from a dedicated email address and be open to changing your mind as time goes by. 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