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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman PHOEBEANDHERUNICORN DanaSimpson ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Duringour 20s, 30s and 40s, my wife and I traveled to see our parents, who were in their 50s, 60s and 70s, during the holiday season — and at other times. We burned vacation time to see family, with- out thinking twice. Now we are retired. Our kids are in their 30s and 40s, with children of their own. They visit maybe once every five years. They tell us that if we want to see them, we have to travel. They say they are too busy (just like we were). They say visiting us is a financial strain on them (just like it was for us). They say they don't want to waste vacation time, and that traveling with their kids is hard. We know all of this, because we did it. We have elderly par- ents who can no longer travel, so we have to leave them in order to see our children. The kids don't make any efforts to stay in touch to see their elderly grandparents. Recognizing that life is not always fair, has there been a generational change that has turned boomers into the sand- wich generation? Your advice? —DisappointedDad DEAR DAD » Here's my take: People in your gen- eration (older boomers) raised your own children to occasionally miss a tournament or a birthday party in order to climb into the station wagon and spend time with older family members. I'm describing a family structure that was more "top down," where the parents made choices on behalf of the family. But there has been a significant shift. First of all, two working parents are working long and hard. But these par- ents are also exhausted because they assume their children's priori- ties — including dropping everything for sports tournaments that are scheduled during national or religious holiday week- ends. These parents pro- mote a family structure where everything revolves around their kids. I assume that when they're older your grand- children might see their own parents the way your adult children see you — as a "waste" of vacation time. My advice to you is to accept the parameters and do what you want to do — but to do your best to love them, regardless. More than ever, young people need to spend time around relatives. DEAR AMY » "Worried Mommy" was upset that her 4-year-old was being bullied by some young cousins. I agreed with your answer — she should be watchful, but she should teach her son strategies to deal with t hi s. O th er p ar en ts d on 't always control their children. — Been There DEAR BEEN THERE » This child is probably too young to fight his own battles effectively, but this situation offers teachable moments. I agree that the mother should keep a close eye. Boomer parents wonder why they are ignored by children You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribpub.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Sagittarius(Nov.23-Dec. 21) — A little romance will brighten your day. It's better to spend your energy pleasing oth- ers rather than letting life's little annoyances lead to a dispute. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — You will receive encour- agement from an unexpected source if you decide to take a stand regarding some unex- pected changes. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Don't let self-doubt stand in the way of your progress. It's time to consider what you hope to accomplish and to put the finishing touches on projects. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — A promotion is within reach. Be open to new employment possibilities that are not in your current area of expertise. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Celebrate by hosting a gathering of friends and colleagues for some light entertainment. Make sure you stick to your budget so that unnecessary expenses don't leave you broke. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Overspending or overin- dulging will take a toll on your health. Loved ones will feel left out if you don't include them in your plans. Nurture important relationships. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — A partnership will go downhill if you are not honest regarding your intentions. You will be left taking the blame for someone else's actions if you aren't careful. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — Someone you meet at a social event will have something to of- fer professionally or personally. If you need assistance, don't hesitate to call in favors from someone you have helped. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — Be truthful about what you can and cannot do. Don't embellish your talents to others, or your reputation will suffer. Avoid gambling. Children will play a role in a decision you make. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — Lessen your anxiety by tackling projects you can work on by yourself. Trying to get along with others will add to your stress. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — You need a change, but mak- ing some residential improve- ments could be costly if you don't get estimates up front. Make sure you get everything in writing or your savings will be depleted. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — Standing on the sidelines will not get you ahead. If you let ev- eryone know that you are willing to accept greater responsibility, offers will come your way. Love is highlighted. Horoscope By Eugenia Last TUESDAY, NOV. 24 | YOURDAILYBREAK | REDBLUFFDAILYNEWS.COM TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 24, 2015 6 B