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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman PHOEBEANDHERUNICORN DanaSimpson ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Myhusband and I have been together for 25 years. He has decided that he will retire in three years. He is in a union and has a good retirement plan through his company. I have been working the entire time of our marriage, but my com- pany does not have a retirement plan. So I will have to continue to work while he is retired, and I imagine that I will be working for the rest of my life to keep up with the bills. My husband also car- ries our health insurance through his work, so now the expense of the health insurance will be an added expense for us. I am feeling quite angry over his decision to retire, leaving me to work. I have tried to discuss this, but he states it is not up for discussion. He says he's done with working, period. I just can't seem to cope with my anger, and the feeling that I will spend the rest of my life getting up every morning and going to work while he leads the easy life. What can I do to get him to see things from my point of view — that as a couple, we should be able to retire together, and not just me working until the day I die? —FrustratedWorking Wife DEAR FRUSTRATED » You don't provide details, but yes, this seems at its core a relationship issue. It is hard to imagine a secure and healthy marriage where one partner refuses to share his earned re- sources toward support- ing the household. But you seem to want him to continue working past his retirement window — and if so, why? And if you are (perhaps) younger, why should you retire at the same time as he? Each of you should maximize your earning years. You should see a fi- nancial planner to take a look at your own income, ex pe ns e s , de bt a nd r et ir e- ment income from Social Security and (possibly) savings. Generally speak- ing, in case of divorce, pensions earned during the marriage are consid- ered a shared marital as- set (your husband doesn't seem to realize this). A marriage counselor could help you two learn to negotiate. You both seem somewhat intrac- table. If he refuses to discuss this or strategize with you, you might find going to work preferable to spending leisure time with him. DEAR AMY » You never see things from a man's point of view. "Hurt" reported that while out with his girlfriend, a male friend grabbed her backside. After she told him about this, he punched out the guy who did it. Now she's mad at the boyfriend! You told him he disrespected her. What a crock! — Disappointed DEAR DISAPPOINTED » I can't actually see things from a man's point of view, but I can reflect a woman's with some au- thority: We don't always want men to settle our scores for us. 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