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4B Daily News – Thursday, January 26, 2012 FEATURES Roving Romeo relishes romantic redundancy Dear Annie: Thirty years ago, my husband had a long-term affair. At the time, he was 30, and she was 16. He planned to leave me, and our two young children, but he changed his mind and supposedly broke off the affair. Last year, I found out he had a daughter with this woman. The girl is now 17. Four months ago, I came home from a short trip to discover he had moved out because he wants to spend more time with his daughter. I told him I would welcome the girl into our family, but he said he no longer wants to be married. He refuses to let me meet his daughter, who now lives with him in his newly renovat- ed home. Our own children want nothing to do with him, and he doesn't understand why. He still stops by for breakfast Annie's Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar your best interest. You don't have to rush into divorce. One step at a time. Dear Annie: I recently married my longtime boyfriend. My father-in-law is fun to be around and loves to be the life of the party. The problem is, every other word out of his mouth takes the Lord's name in vain. I cringe every time I hear it and don't understand why he swears so much in this particular way. I've tried and coffee most mornings and often comes over for lunch or in the evening to visit. Do you think he will eventually come back to me, or should I tell him to get lost so I can move on with my life? — Frazzled Dear Frazzled: Your husband has a set-up that works for him — free meals and visits with his wife, and none of the responsibilities. He has no reason to change it. You cannot make him behave the way you wish, so if this arrange- ment works for you, fine. Other- wise, we recommend a legal separa- tion until you figure out what is in telling him nicely that I don't like cursing, but nothing seems to make a dent. Any suggestions? — Not a Fan of Cursing Dear Not a Fan: Dad has a bad habit that will be difficult to break, particularly if he isn't willing to try. Ask your husband to tell his father that you are very sensitive to the swearing, and suggest he try to sub- stitute less offensive words when you are around. You also could employ a sense of humor and exag- geratedly cover your ears and look shocked when Dad swears so he notices when he's doing it. We can't guarantee it will help, but at least you will have registered your disap- proval. Dear Annie: Like ''Adopted Child,'' I, too, was adopted as an infant. At the age of 25, I had some medical issues, so I called the home that handled my adoption to see whether I could get some medical information. It turned out my biological moth- er was looking for me. Although my parents were not happy about my contacting her, I did it anyway. For five years, I thought we had a good relationship. But apparently, my birth mother blamed me for ruining her life. She purposefully got preg- nant to trap my biological father into marriage, but he wouldn't do it. I was born with a birth defect caused either by a beating he gave her or her attempts to abort me. The defect was repaired at birth, but I carry a hideous scar as a constant reminder that someone wanted me dead. Worse, my biological mother lied to help my ex-husband gain custody of my daughters during our divorce, because she wanted me to suffer the loss of a child as she did. Meeting this woman was the biggest mistake of my life. Adopted children should be content with the parents who raised them. — Anoth- er Adopted Child Dear Another: Your story is horrific, but fortunately, it's not typ- ical. Frankly, your biological moth- er sounds mentally ill. We are sorry you had to go through such heart- break. Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. Anglers reminded to mail in report cards The Department of Fish and Game (DFG) reminds anglers they are required to return their 2011 Fishing Report and Restoration Cards by Jan. 31. Informa- tion collected from report cards provides DFG with data to monitor and manage California's diverse recre- ational fisheries. Report cards are due for sturgeon, abalone, spiny lobster and north coast salmon fisheries, as well as the steelhead fishery. Infor- mation specific to the steel- head report cards can be found in DFG's Dec. 23 news release at cdfgnews.wordpress.com/2 011/12/23/steelhead-report- cards-due-by-jan-31-2012/. Please note that although steelhead report card infor- mation can now be submit- ted online, DFG still requires salmon, sturgeon, lobster and abalone cards to be returned via mail or in person at a DFG counter. Anglers are requested to review their cards carefully and complete the informa- tion as accurately as possi- ble. More information about report cards can be found at www.dfg.ca.gov/licensing/f ishing/sportfishingfaqs.html (see "Validations and Report Cards"). The cards can be dropped off at any DFG license sales office (see list at www.dfg.ca.gov/licens- ing/officelocation.html) or mailed to the following address: COMPLETE AUTO REPAIR All makes and models. We perform dealer recommened 30K, 60K, 90K SERVICES AT LOWER PRICES Smog Check starting at $ (most cars and pick-ups) 2595 + cert. Pass or FREE retest 527-9841 • 195 S. Main St. CUSTOM WE HAVE MOVED TO 333 S. 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(530) 527-6220 or e-mail: info@redbluffchamber.com To register for an appointment, call your Daily News Account Executive (530) 527-2151 or email advertise@redbluffdailynews.com Sturgeon Report Cards should be mailed to: DFG - Sturgeon Report Card P.O. Box 944209 Sacramento, CA 94244- 2090 Abalone Report Cards should be mailed to: DFG - Abalone Report Card 32330 N. Harbor Dr. Fort Bragg, CA 95437 Lobster Report Cards should be mailed to: DFG - Lobster Report Card 3883 Ruffin Road San Diego, CA 92123 North Coast Salmon Report Cards should be mailed to: DFG - Klamath River Project 5341 Ericson Way Arcata, CA 95521-9269 You are required to report even if you lost your report card or you did not fish. If you did not fish, write "did not fish" across your report card and return it to the address specified. If you lost your report card, write a note to DFG explaining the loss. Include your name, address, tele- phone number, GO ID and to the best of your recollec- tion, your harvest/catch effort information that was on your report card. License sales agents can- not accept report cards. No medicine has health benefits of exercise DEAR DOC- TOR K: I just turned 40, and I have finally accepted that I need to make reg- ular exercise part of my life. I'm in pretty good physi- cal shape, if slight- ly overweight. How much exer- cise do I need to stay healthy and maybe drop a few pounds? DEAR READER: It's easier than you might think. It also depends on your goals. You've probably heard 15 minutes of intense exercise, at least five times a week. If you wanted to run a marathon, my advice would be different. Dr. K by Anthony L. Komaroff, M.D. What qualifies as "moderate exercise"? Your heart rate should be at 50 percent to that regular exercise pro- tects you against many of the major diseases. I'm talking about heart dis- ease, diabetes, osteoporo- sis, depression and even some cancers. When I tell my patients this, they often get a certain expres- sion on their face that says, "Not this exercise- is-good-for-you stuff again." In other words, I'm boring them. So the next thing I do is ask them this question: "Do you know just how much protection you get from regular exercise?" If they answer at all, they usually guess that exercise reduces their risk by about 10 percent. In fact, regular exercise can reduce your risk of developing the most com- mon kind of diabetes by 70 percent, for example. There is no medicine yet invented that can give you such protection. In other words, you can do more to protect yourself from dia- betes than your doctor can do for you. So the first important thing about regular exer- cise is how much good it can do for you. The sec- ond important thing is how little exercise you need to get powerful health benefits. How much do you need to achieve your goals — "to stay healthy and maybe drop a few pounds"? I usually "pre- scribe" at least 30 minutes of moderate exercise, or 75 percent of your maxi- mum heart rate the whole time you are exercising. What's your max? The standard formula is 220 beats per minute minus your age in years. So, a healthy 40-year-old like you would use 180 beats per minute as an initial heart-rate maximum. This formula doesn't work if you're on a medicine that slows your heart rate, like a beta blocker. Another way of defin- ing "moderate exercise" is walking briskly, at 3 to 4 miles per hour. That's like walking 1.5 to 2 miles in 30 minutes. Furthermore, you don't need to get into sweat clothes, and you don't need to do all 30 minutes of exercise at one time. For example, suppose it takes you 15 minutes of brisk walking to get from where you park your car to your workplace. You've done your daily exercise just by walking to and from work. If you want to lose more than a few pounds, exercise longer than 30 minutes a day — or exer- cise more intensively, getting your heart rate above 75 percent of your max (for this you will need to be in sweats). And cut down on the calories. After talking with your doctor, start slowly and build up gradually. Above all, stick with it! Dr. Komaroff is a physician and professor at Harvard Medical School. Go to his website to send questions and get additional information: www.AskDoctorK.com.. Weaverville needs votes for Coolest Small Town in US There are just a few days left in the competition for Budget Travel Magazine's America's Coolest Small Town and Weaverville is no longer the front- runner. The town has dropped as Beaufort, N.C. has sur- prisingly coming from behind and taking the lead. As of Tuesday, Weaverville was in third place with 22.9 percent of the vote and just points away from first place out of the more than 177,000 votes cast. 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