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Friday, January 13, 2012 – Daily News 5A FEATURES Perfidious playboy's policies pain pal Dear Annie: I recently moved into an apartment with three other guys. We get along well and have fun together. One of my roommates is a serious player and has no qualms about dating six women at the same time. With each one, he implies that the relationship is exclusive. He told me he does this because he got burned once. I told him that's a risk in any relation- ship and that he should stop being part of the problem. Now he brings his various girl- friends to the apartment. They think he's a great guy who seems so gen- uine. I have to interact with them and feel horrible lying, smiling and pretending I don't know what's really going on. Annie's Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar ommend you vacate the premises or retreat to your bedroom. You should not be forced to put on a phony face for his benefit. Dear Annie: My son recently married his long- time girlfriend. My wife and I paid for the rehearsal din- ner and the honeymoon, and the bridal couple paid for the rest. The reception was small, and the ceremony even smaller. They also wanted no children younger than high-school age. We would have liked to expand the guest list, but it wasn't our money, and we didn't push. What should I do? If I expose him, it will sour our relationship. At the same time, I can't keep pretend- ing that his womanizing is OK. Do I really have to move again? — New Yorker Dear New Yorker: You cannot become involved in every room- mate's issues, nor can you be every woman's protector, although bless you for trying. These women are responsible for their own character judgments, good or bad. You have told The Snake how you feel about his behavior, and we think you should do so again, more forcefully, pointing out that he has become the type of person he detests. And when he brings a girlfriend over, we rec- My sisters felt that their young children should have been invited, and one boycotted the wedding in protest. Then, two months later, our cousin married, opting for a desti- nation wedding. Neither my sisters nor I could make it. Afterward, the couple held a local reception and specifically said ''no children.'' The same sister who boycotted my son's wedding was perfectly OK attend- ing this childfree reception. My son is moving out of state next year, and my wife and I are retiring to Florida. I would just as soon write off that branch of the family, but my wife wants to make a big deal out of this snub. Your sug- gestions? — Put Out in Peoria Dear Put Out: The two wed- dings are not exactly comparable in that your son is a closer relation to your sister's young children than your cousin's child is, and she was not as offended by their exclusion. However, boycotting your son's wedding was petty and selfish. You need not make a big deal out of this or write them off. Moving away will take care of any regular contact while leaving open the possibility of reconciliation down the road. Dear Annie: ''Worried Driver in Lafayette, Ind.'' asked for a univer- sal sign to get people to stop talking on their cellphones while driving. Despite all the hysteria, the fact is that in the 15 years that cellphones have become widespread, traffic accidents and fatalities have decreased 25 percent, according to the National Highway Traffic Safe- ty Administration. — Hawaii Dear Hawaii: The problem with quoting statistics is that you have to put them in context. Overall traffic fatalities did dip, but ''distracted driving'' accidents (e.g., eating, drinking, adjusting the radio and cellphone use) increased by up to 16 percent. Also, even though hand- held phone use decreased by 5 per- cent and is against the law in more states, 18 percent of distracted-dri- ving fatalities involved cellphone use. Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 5777 W. Century Blvd., Ste. 700, Los Angeles, CA 90045. Harlem Renaissance Rent Party The Black Faculty and Staff Association at Califor- nia State University, Chico, along with the School of the Arts and the Office of Diversity and Inclusion, pre- sent the annual Harlem Renaissance Rent Party, Wednesday, Feb. 1 at 7:30 p.m. on the stage of Harlen Adams Theatre. What is a Harlem Renaissance rent party? Rent parties were a way for Harlemites in the 1920s and 1930s to pay their rent. Hosts would hire musicians, cook food and open their homes to friends and neigh- bors for a party. The proceeds would provide money for rent. This year's rent party is a benefit for Safe Place, a Collaborative Response to Violence Project at CSU, Chico and Butte College. The mission of Safe Place is to offer a visible support system for victims of sexual assault, intimate partner violence and stalking through outreach, crisis intervention, advocacy and educational programming. The Harlem Renaissance Rent Party will be filled with partygoers dressed up as anyone from 1919 to 1929, and prizes will be awarded to those with the best costumes. People are also encouraged to wear their cos- tumes to work that day. Food and music will be pro- vided. The rent party, part of Black History Month at Chico State, is a way to celebrate the Harlem Renaissance, said Tracy Butts, chief diversity officer at CSU, Chico and coordinator of the event. "The Harlem Renaissance was a cultural movement from the 1920s and 1930s in New York City's Harlem neighborhood," she said. "It gave birth to many main- stream African American writers and musicians. With- out this movement, literature, theatre, art and politics would not be the same." The cost is $5 at the door. For more information, call Professor Butts at 898-5151 or e-mail her at tbutts@csuchico.edu. The following defen- dants were sentenced in Tehama County Superior Court, according to the Tehama County District Attorney's Office: —————— • Michael Allen Holt was sentenced to two years in State Prison for possession of a firearm by a felon. Holt was originally granted formal proba- tion. He violated his pro- bation when he was found in possession of codeine without a pre- scription. • Ruben Rivera was sentenced to two years in State Prison for unlawful driving or taking of a vehicle. Rivera was interested in buying a vehicle from the victim. Rivera was given permission to take the vehicle on a test drive but then failed to return the vehicle to the victim. • Brad Mitchell Wheeler was sentenced to 16 months in State Prison for possession of concentrated cannabis. Wheeler was original- ly granted formal proba- tion. He violated his pro- bation when he failed to appear for his scheduled appointments at proba- tion as well as testing positive for marijuana. James W. Tysinger, Jr. M.D. Eye Physician & Surgeon Fellow American Academy of Ophthalmology We accept Medical, Medicare & most Insurances Office Hours: Tues-Wed-Thurs 8am-4:30pm Mon & Fri 1pm-4:30pm For Emergencies, After Hours, Week-ends, Call 530-567-5001 345 Hickory St. Red Bluff Tel: (530) 529-4733 Fax: (530) 529-1114 COURT ROUND-UP • Daylan Eugene Recent County Jail Commitments Recent State Prison Commitments Brown was sentenced to 136 days in Tehama County Jail for posses- sion of a controlled sub- stance, special allega- tion-armed with firearm, brandishing a firearm. The victim attempted to settle a dispute with Brown when Brown pulled out a gun and pointed it at the victim. When officers arrived they contacted Brown and located the gun as well as methampheta- mine in Brown's resi- dence. • Samuel Muno was sentenced to 120 days in Tehama County Jail for transportation of mari- juana. A warden from the Department of Fish and Game conducted a traffic stop on a vehicle driven by Muno. The warden observed the odor of marijuana coming from the vehicle and proceed- ed to conduct a search. Inside the vehicle the warden located several pounds of processed marijuana. • Dominic MacKenzie Arnold was sentenced to 90 days in Tehama County Jail for corporal injury to cohabitant, bat- tery with serious bodily injury. Arnold was originally granted formal proba- tion. He violated his pro- bation when he was ter- minated from his batter- er's treatment program. • Cassie Lee Davis was sentenced to 60 days January Classes * Friday 13th @10am Fruit Tree Pruning & Care Class Saturday 21st @10am Bare Root Fruit Tree Saturday 28th @10am Rose Pruning & Care Class Please call to reserve a seat Red Bluff Garden Center 527-0886 766 Antelope Blvd. (Next to the Fairground) Kids need calcium for strong bones DEAR DOC- TOR K: I have two daughters, ages 8 and 12. They both claim they're "too old" to drink milk. How can I make sure they get enough calcium? DEAR READ- ER: You're right to be concerned. Unfortunately, many children don't get enough calcium, and they need it to build strong bones and teeth. As your kids grow, they are also growing the bones they will have for the rest of their lives. How strong those bones are by the time they become adults will strongly affect their risk for developing thin bones (osteoporosis) later in life, which can lead to fractures. Most of the bone growth occurs in the teenage years, but getting enough calcium is impor- tant for younger kids, too. Getting enough calci- um is not the only impor- tant thing in developing strong bones. So is regular exercise. Exercise that puts weight on the bones, like walking, running and hiking, is especially important. How much calcium should your daughters be getting? For your 8-year- old, aim for 1,000 mil- ligrams (mg) of calcium per day. Your 12-year-old should be getting more, about 1,300 mg of calci- um per day. Dr. K by Anthony L. Komaroff, M.D. oranges are good sources of calci- um. So are leafy green vegetables such as kale, col- lard greens, spinach and broc- coli. But it takes several cups a day of these vegeta- bles to supply as much calcium as dairy foods. For some kids, that's a stretch. You'll also find plenty of "calcium fortified" foods in the grocery store. These may include some brands of juice, cereal and bread. To get enough calcium, your kids also should avoid certain foods and beverages that interfere with calcium absorption. Caffeine (found in coffee, tea and sodas), phospho- rous (in meat and sodas/soft drinks) and sodium (salt) are unhealthy for bones. Teach your daughters to limit these foods. Teach also by example. If your daughters see you drinking low-fat milk, how can they say that they're "too old" to drink it? We have a lot more information on calcium in our Special Health Report, "Vitamins and Minerals: Choosing the Nutrients You Need to Stay Healthy." You can find out more about it at my web- site. and Rebekah Loraine McCorkle was sentenced to 90 days in Tehama County Jail for grand theft-insurance fraud. Davis and McCorkle come up with a plan to crash a vehicle belong- ing to McCorkle and then report it as stolen. The vehicle was later found crashed on the side of a road with a stick wedged on the accelerator. McCorkle proceeded to file a claim with her insurance com- pany who determined fraud was being commit- ted. The best sources of cal- cium are calcium-rich foods, such as dairy prod- ucts. Even if your daugh- ters refuse to budge on drinking milk, there are plenty of other options. Cheese and yogurt are good sources of calcium. If they like yogurt, go for the low-fat or non-fat kind. Although they have less fat, they have as much calcium. There's also plenty of calcium in many nondairy foods such as sardines and almonds. Tofu, beans and With careful planning, most children can easily get enough calcium in their daily diets. Think of new ways to incorporate calcium-rich foods into family meals. Make a stir- fry using tofu that's been processed with calcium, or sprinkle some low-fat shredded cheese on sal- ads. Dr. Komaroff is a physician and professor at Harvard Medical School. Go to his website to send questions and get additional information: www.AskDoctorK.com. PATH winter shelter Jan. 6-27 First Christian Church, 926 Madison Ave. Jan. 27 - March 2 First Church of God, 1005 S. Jackson St. Dinners on Wednesdays- Feb. 1, 8, 15, 22, 29 at Sunrise Bible Fellowship, 956 Jackson St. March 2-16 United Methodist Church, 525 David Ave. David Ave. St. March 16-APR 13 North Valley Baptist, 345 Dinners on Wednesdays March 21, 28, April 4 and 11, Sunrise Bible Fellowship, 956 Jackson St. April 13-30 Presbyterian Church, 838 Jefferson & Saturday 14th