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I found out yesterday that on the days that my younger son was at school for after-school activities, my older son was home watching porn. My hus- band and I are stunned, shocked, repulsed, and have no idea where to go. We are worried that if I enroll him in a group for porn addiction, he will learn other things that we would rather he not be exposed to. I am trying to find research about this, but am not getting the information I am seeking. Other than this, my son gets all As, plays a sport, reads vo- raciously, and in general appears to be a respon- sible kid. —VeryWorriedMom DEAR MOM » Your son created a fake account to view porn at home — and your longer-term reac- tion was to give him a smartphone and have his 10-year-old brother confiscate it after school. Really? Your older son's choice to return to his habit means it is more than youthful curiosity. You should do everything possible to control his access (and be alert about your younger son's Inter- net usage). There is a lot of infor- mation on the increase of teens becoming "addict- ed" to Internet porn read- ily available, including scholarly research papers published by the National Institutes of Health. This information — like the porn your son consumes — is just a click away. The current research on the impact of pornog- raphy on the adolescent brain is alarming. Teens who consume violent porn (the great majority of it involves violence) are much more likely to engage in aggressive or violent sexual behavior — and are far more likely to become sexually active at an earlier age and to have (obviously) unreal- istic views about sex and relationships. Your family needs intervention and profes- sional help and support. Anxiety may be an un- derlying issue for him. At the outset, you and your husband should try to re- duce your hours at work — so one can be home when the kids are there after school. 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