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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman PHOEBEANDHERUNICORN DanaSimpson ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Myin-laws are loving, generous peo- ple. Several times a year we travel several hours to visit and let them dote on their grandson. The problem is their neighbor. Whenever we visit, the neighbor comes over — even during holi- day gather- ings. This is only a problem for us because both my wife and I find this man deplor- able. He drinks, curses, complains and is generally unpleas- ant. The last straw was witnessing the neighbor being verbally abusive to his children. My wife spoke to her father, explained the reason, and asked that our visits be family-only. Things were better for a while, but then the neighbor started showing up again and the in-laws openly welcome him. It's clear that my in- laws like this neighbor. My wife and I realize we cannot dictate who is allowed in their house. We don't want to stop visiting, but I've started feeling resentful. What should we do? —Concerned DEAR CONCERNED » You'll have to try harder to tolerate this person while you are a guest in the in- laws' home. Eventually you may have to state to your in- laws: "We realize we can- not control who spends time in your home. But we really don't want our child to be exposed to this type of behavior, and so we're going to exit when he comes around." You are not telling them what to do, but you are simply being very clear about your own intentions. I hope you encourage your in-laws to visit your home. DEAR AMY » Four years ago, we got hit with the downturn of the economy and my husband lost his job. Unfortunately, in- stead of looking for work he decided to sit around until his unemployment benefits ran out. Then he moved several states away because he wanted to be in a band. I agreed to follow him, but by the time we had sold the house he had al- ready come back, because he couldn't find a job and had a falling out with a band mate. It took him another year to get a job at a retail store — after I forced him (I also work). We talked about mov- ing to the West Coast. My sister just moved there, and I like the idea of liv- ing there. Now he doesn't want to move because he found a band to join here in our hometown. But they plan to play only two or three times a month. He is only working 30 hours a week (or less). I am aware that he cannot afford to live on his own. Should I go or wait? — Patient Wife DEAR WIFE » Your hus- band chose to relocate. Well, now it's your turn. You two should discuss a timeline for a move. There are bands to join on the West Coast (check Craigslist). If your husband can't financially make it on his own, then he should be even more motivated to join your family out west. 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