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Eachandev- ery one of us does things wrong. Sometimes we are rude, thought- less, forgetful, un- der the weather, stressed, pouty, jealous, or just plain out of sorts and we do wrong things. Maybe we gossip, we for- get to do what we were asked to do, we hurt someone intentionally or otherwise. Sometimes we mess up royally at work, home or in the commu- nity. When we mess up, we have choices about how to manage our outcome. In the world of psychol- ogy, there are terms like avoidance and transfer- ence that refer to ways people deal with the emo- tions associated with be- ing wrong. A lot of the time people are unaware of how they manage be- ing in the hot seat and therefor make matters much worse than they need to be. One of the best signs of a healthy relationship is the ability within it to be wrong. Every one is wrong at one time or another. Everyone. Ev- eryone takes a misstep and does an oops. When you are the wrongdoer, it is healthiest to stand tall, take responsibil- ity for what ever hap- pened and make an emo- tional or literal restitu- tion. It is actually quite simple. " I am sorry, I did X, it wasn't ok for me to do that, can you forgive me?" Under most cir- cumstances, most people will be willing to forgive. Once you have made your plea for forgive- ness and made whatever restitution is needed, a hug, a kinder demeanor or replacing something, you can expect to have a closer relationship with whomever you offended. People respect humility. People like people who can say they did some- thing wrong and want to do better. This leads me to my next suggestion. Once you do X and realize it did not get you where you wanted to be, stop doing X. You should not be apologizing to people for the same offenses over and over again. If you are wise enough to know that you did some- thing wrong, you are most certainly wise enough to ex- amine the behavior that caused what you did. If you don't have the ex- pertise to understand why you are driven to do what you do, buy some couch time with a ther- apist and get your inner child healed. Everyone hates con- flict and some people who were never taught how to fight fair avoid conflict by being a bully. They are so afraid of being re- jected for being flawed that they insist they are right and you are wrong. It switches the tables on the people they love. They do something wrong and before you know it, they have the person they offended apologiz- ing to them. That in turn, teaches the person they are in a relationship with that they can expect to be walked on and manip- ulated. Not exactly the ideal relationship. If you find yourself in the wrong, stop what- ever it is you are doing. Take a breath, a walk or a time out. Go back to the person and calmly tell them you are wrong and you are sorry. If they are still fighting mad, you may have to endure some wrath for a short time, but after the adren- aline is gone, you will see that your willingness to admit your shortcomings and ask them to come along side of you and fix the situation will bring you closer, improve your relationships and make you a better person. FaydraRector,MA is a mental health administrator, author, public speaker, educator and life coach who lives in Red Bluff. She can be reached at lifecoach@shasta.com or view her blogs at faydraandcompany. blogspot.com/ and allaboutdivorce.blogspot. com/. FAYDRARECTOR Whattodowhen you are wrong Faydra Rector The Region 2 Migrant Education Division of the Butte County Office of Ed- ucation held its annual speech and debate compe- tition March 28 at Wood- land Community College, where 160 students par- ticipated. Six were from Tehama County schools, including Red Bluff High School, Gerber, Vista Pre- patory and Maywood Mid- dle School. The rules of the compe- tition were to have two pre- pared speeches, with stu- dents given five minutes to prepare an extempora- neous speech. Ana Edith Dolores, 8th grade at Vista Prepatory Academy in Red Bluff, took third place in both pre- pared speech and extem- poraneous public speak- ing. For her prepared speech, Dolores spoke about the dangers and ef- fects of cyber bullying on students; for extempora- neous she had to defend why she believed students should not be allowed to carry cell phones on school campuses. Francisca Alejandra Lo- pez, 7th grade student at Maywood Middle School in Corning, won third place in extemporaneous public speaking. Lopez defended why she believed students should be allowed to carry cell phones on school cam- puses. Migrant Education is a federally funded program designed to provide sup- plementary educational and support services to el- igible migrant students. The migrant population consists of numerous eth- nic and language groups — Spanish, Punjabi, Hmong, Mien, Laos, Vietnamese and English. SPEECH AND DEBATE Localstudentsplace third in competition COURTESYPHOTO Pictured are Ana Edith Dolores, Jaime Adame, Migrant Education coach and Francisca Alejandra Lopez. J.H. Henry of Portland, Oregon is now owner of the Blossom ranch con- sisting of 12,492 acres, lying ten miles west of Red Bluff. The sale was made last week by the former owner, C. W. Waller. Waller, Henry and his son, J. R. Henry of Stockton, were here the latter part of last week and the son remained over yesterday. The new owner will operate the ranch as a cattle ranch and expects to carry a large stock of Durham, White Face and Hereford cattle. The bottom lands of the property will be planted to alfalfa, and beyond the care of the alfalfa and the harvesting of enough hay for farm use there will be very little farming opera- tions carried on. — April 7, 1915 100 YEARS AGO... The famous Blossom ranch sold; owners will raise cattle The Tehama County San- itary Landfill Agency will conduct a Passenger Tire Collection Event 8 a.m. to noon Saturday, April 11. The following locations will accept tires: Los Moli- nos Transfer Station, Ara- mayo Way; Rancho Tehama Transfer Station, corner of Stage Coach Road at Ran- cho Tehama Road and the Tehama County/Red Bluff Landfill, 19995 Plymire Road, Red Bluff. The agency encourages Tehama County residents to dispose of old tires during this event. Tires collected will be recycled into waste tire derived products. This free event will accept pas- senger tires from Tehama County residents only. There are restrictions to the event. Up to 9 tires per trip without exemption, 20 tires per trip with exemp- tion; multiple trips for a maximum of 40 tires will be accepted; tires on-the- rim will be accepted; no large truck tires, equipment tires, off-road tires; no tires larger than 17 inches; no oil, paint, batteries, appliances, or other items; no tires from waste tire generating busi- nesses. Televisions, computer monitors and equipment, microwaves, DVD/VCR players, cell phones, and other small electronic waste (e-waste) will be accepted free of charge at the Los Molinos Transfer Station site and Rancho Tehama Transfer Station site dur- ing the tire event. There is no quantity limit on e-waste accepted. For details about exemp- tions, or the acceptance of passenger tires, or elec- tronic waste call the Te- hama County Landfill at 528-1103 or visit the land- fill's website at www.te- hamacountylandfill.com. For information regard- ing disposal of tires not ac- cepted during this event contact Waste Tire Prod- ucts at 865-4588. This free passenger tire recycling event is paid for by a grant from the Cali- fornia Department of Re- sources Recycling and Re- covery. RECYCLING Passenger tire collection event set The Tehama County Cat- tleWomen is offering at least two scholarships, each in the amount of $2,000 to support students and their families who are engaged in the agricultural industry in general, and specif- ically the cattle industry. The scholarships are for current college students. One scholarship is for a student who is majoring in an agricultural field and one is for a student who is not majoring in an ag- ricultural field but comes from a Tehama County family who is involved in an agricultural business. The members of the Schol- arship Committee select the scholarship winners based on the quality of an interview with the student and the stu- dent's autobiography, finan- cial need, understanding and potential contribution to agri- culture, understanding of the cattle industry and grade point average. Past scholarship winners are encouraged to apply again as long as they are eligible. Scholarship applications and a full description of the pro- cess for applying are available on http://www.tehamacounty- cattlewomen.org/. Applications are due by May 15. CATTLEWOMEN Scholarships are offered to local students, families www.TehamaCountyRealEstate.com 530529-2700 314 Washington St, Red Bluff, CA Smog Check (MOST CARS & PICK-UPS) 527-9841 • 195 S. Main St. starting at $ 29 95 + $ 8 25 certificate SERVICESATLOWERPRICES All makes and models. 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